When talking about family education, Ms. Quan Huixing said that a child's success is the result of multiple functions. Want children to be excellent, not just one thing can decide. You should use kung fu outside your study, starting from your child's childhood, especially in primary school.
Another equally striking mother, Chen Meiling, spent more than 65,438+00 years training her three sons and sending them to Stanford University. She mentioned that it is necessary to cultivate children's study habits and interests as soon as possible, especially in primary school.
In addition, it can be seen from the interviews with the top candidates in the college entrance examination, Xueba and their parents that these parents have one thing in common, that is, they all attach great importance to the cultivation of their children in primary school.
Why do these parents pay attention to their children's primary school?
Because they know that in humble primary school, children are the most plastic and family education is the most effective.
So, what aspects of education do these parents mainly pay attention to?
First, the handwriting is neat.
Sharpening a knife is not a mistake for a woodcutter. Parents must let their children write well from an early age. Practicing calligraphy can exercise children's concentration and patience in doing things. Practicing calligraphy can make children write neatly and improve their writing speed, which is very beneficial to homework and exam answers.
A teacher with many years' experience in marking papers for the college entrance examination said, "With the same ability to answer questions, a child with good handwriting may get 5 points more than a child with poor handwriting." In the selective examination such as the college entrance examination, the fate of children may differ by a few points.
To urge children to practice calligraphy, parents should start from the primary school stage.
Second, teach children to manage their own time.
Children are slow in doing their homework. They write after 10 pm every day, and sleep after 1 1 pm. What makes parents crazy is that children spend a lot of time on their studies, but the effect is not satisfactory.
Time management is very important.
Children in primary school can't plan time yet. Parents need to help their children overcome procrastination, plan their time, let them finish important and relatively weak subjects first, and then do relatively easy subjects, and pay attention to the combination of work and rest. Slowly, parents can let their children try to plan their own time. By grade five or six, they should initially have the ability to plan and manage their time independently.
Time management is the key to realize autonomous learning and improve learning efficiency. In junior high school, the subjects have changed from 3 subjects to 7 subjects, and the importance of managing time will be highlighted and become a part of children's core competitiveness.
Third, primary school students must be well-fed, and they can't be left alone.
Children in primary school are still immature. They have no clear understanding of the meaning of reading and are naturally fond of playing. Without the supervision and guidance of parents, it is difficult for children to fall in love with learning and learn to learn spontaneously. Therefore, children must not be raised in a free-range manner, but should be raised intensively.
What is intensive care? For parents, accompanying their children to do homework, intensive care is not to let parents be supervisors, but to find children's problems from the details of their study and life and correct them in time.
Correcting problems at the beginning is much better than correcting them after children form habits.
For example, some children are always careless in their homework, either writing too much or writing too little, or reading wrong questions and missing questions, which shows two problems: first, children are not proficient in knowledge points, and second, they are not focused. Parents can help their children overcome the problem of carelessness by asking them to practice more and improve their attention.
Fourth, finding a learning method is more important than blindly brushing questions.
Generally speaking, the knowledge of primary school textbooks is not difficult. Parents should help their children find ways to learn different subjects instead of letting them brush the questions.
For example, in primary school mathematics, the main test is mathematical operation ability. Although the fifth and sixth grades will add application questions and test abstract thinking, the core is computing ability. Parents should help their children improve the accuracy of calculation in their usual counseling.
Primary school English focuses on listening and reading, so that children can cultivate their interest in English and sense of language. Now all the teaching materials are equipped with music CDs. Parents should supervise their children to listen to English 15 to 30 minutes every day, which is very effective.
Primary school Chinese focuses on accumulation, and it is necessary to help children cultivate their interest and habits in reading and extensively dabble in astronomy, geography and humanities. Looking at those scholars, the amount of reading is amazing. Extensive reading makes them comprehensive in knowledge, able to learn from others and establish a knowledge system.
Eriksson's theory of social psychological development points out that from birth to 18 years old, every three to six years is a leap in character growth. 6- 12 years old is a critical period for children to develop habits, three views on personality and moral conduct. Parents must take good care of them, especially to help their children form good habits.
Jack Hodge wrote in The Power of Habit: "Up to 90% of our daily behaviors are out of habit. If we can see and get rid of bad habits and see and stick to good habits, we can at least get 90 points on the road of life. "
It can be said that habits shape a child's life.
However, it is impossible for children to form good habits spontaneously, and this process cannot be separated from the efforts and companionship of parents.
Behind every teacher stands a ferryman. These ferrymen are their parents. These parents attach great importance to education. They become extremely self-disciplined for their children, just to send them to the other side of success.
For example, Wu Yishu, who made a blockbuster at the CCTV Chinese Poetry Conference, stopped using her mobile phone every afternoon after 4: 30 and concentrated on accompanying her children. In 2020, Tang Chuji, who scored 725 points in the college entrance examination in Hubei Province, will exercise three times a day accompanied by his parents.
The mother of Yang Chenyu, the champion of Guangxi college entrance examination, also said when sharing her educational experience: "Parents must be self-disciplined and can't leave their children to play with their mobile phones."
Children's success is inseparable from their parents' efforts.
As Soong Ching Ling said, "Children's character and talents are ultimately influenced by their families and parents."
The greatest influence of parents is in the primary school stage when children's independent thinking ability is still weak.
Grasping children's primary school stage and helping them form good habits will make the future road smoother and smoother.
After six years of primary school, children's physical and mental development will be great. With the progress of school study, children will face new problems every year. If parents want to help their children grow up, they must have a sense of the overall situation, make clear plans and guide them correctly, so that their children can walk firmly and solidly every step of the way.
If you are confused about how to guide and cultivate children, then the book "Walking with Children through Primary School for Six Years" will definitely help you. The book clearly points out the physical and mental characteristics, main problems and training points of children in primary school every year, and provides clear guidance and practical suggestions for parents from many aspects such as learning, psychology, emotion and interpersonal communication with rich cases.
In the first grade, promote children from childhood to adulthood, help children adapt to the new environment, and begin to cultivate good habits.
In the second grade, cultivate children's interest in learning and improve their concentration.
In the third grade, we can easily deal with the phenomenon of "landslide in the third grade" and master knowledge flexibly.
In the fourth grade, the learning difficulty is upgraded to help children find learning methods.
Fifth grade, both learning and growing.
In the sixth grade, decompress children, face junior high school easily, and smoothly connect with adolescence.
Yu Min, the author of this book, is a front-line teacher with 20 years' teaching experience. She is familiar with the law of children's growth, and has summed up a large number of real cases in her teaching career, helping parents to grasp the key points of parenting in different periods from the perspective of children, so that parenting is no longer confused.
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