Golden ideas for educating children
How long has it been since you had a good talk with your child?
Parents may say, I talk to my children every day. Pay attention to the keyword "Hao Hao" in front of the chat. If you just urge your children to do their homework, ask about exam results and scold them every day, it can't be called a good chat.
Good chatting means that parents can sit down with their children for a relatively long time, have topics that children are interested in, and of course it is best to have a comfortable environment, such as a warm living room at home or a park downstairs.
About timing:
It is best not to be around during the exam, which will put pressure on children, even if it is not the parents' intention. It is suggested that when children are more relaxed, such as weekends when homework is finished and days when family members celebrate together. In short, the overall atmosphere should be warm and relaxed. Often at this time, children can inadvertently reveal their true inner thoughts.
About the topic:
It is suggested not to take the study exam as the starting point of the topic. These things were brought in by the way during the chat. Children don't like their parents to interfere with their studies too much, just as we don't like being chased by leaders every day to ask about goals and grades.
Not knowing what to talk to children is the distress of many parents. Parents are usually advised to start with their children's interests, but some parents report that their children are not interested in anything except playing. Is that really the case?
For such parents, parents may have really neglected their children for too long. The child's growth is all-round, and parents attach too much importance to his achievements. Over time, parents also missed many beautiful things on their children's growth path.
Children's interests are diverse. Some people like basketball, some people like watching movies, and some people like to make their own gadgets. In short, parents should try their best to understand and listen to their children whether it is related to learning or not.
The second golden idea of educating children
What's your attitude when you speak?
Important things, in fact, do not need to be said three times, once is enough. When parents keep repeating the same thing, if the child doesn't respond, the parents' hearts actually collapse and bad emotions will naturally erupt.
Chatting with children must first be patient and calmly express your views;
The second thing to chat with children is to know how to listen and leave room for children to state their ideas;
Golden ideas for educating children 3
Will you talk to your children realistically?
Many people like to talk about the topic very high and far away, and do not hesitate to say that this is the route that women often like to take. When quarreling with the other half, he always keeps quarreling, talking about the present and the past, surfing the internet and so on. The premise is that the other half is tolerant, but the children are different. In his view, such parents are "annoyed" in one word.
On the one hand, only talk about the present, not the past.
For example, if the child didn't do his homework today, he went to play games, which violated the agreed rules. What parents should do is to talk to him about "breaking the rules" instead of telling all the mistakes made by their children before. If the first thing a child hears is scolding, can he still calm down and think about his behavior today?
On the other hand, talk about concrete things, not abstract things.
Don't involve your child's future because of a small matter, let alone take your child to college to talk about things. Going to college is a wonderful thing, but if it is always mentioned in such a bad scene, it is easy to understand the child's disgust.
Third, only talk about the parties, not others.
How are other children? I feel that parents are just paying lip service, but in fact I still feel that my children are the best. When the child is not present, it is estimated that there is no shortage of praise. But why not express this praise in front of children? Instead, we must follow the example of other people's children.
It is one thing to praise other people's children, and some parents even cite examples of so-called "bad children". For example, "Parents look after their children, if you don't study hard, you will only be like him in the future ..." Everyone has their own choices, and this kind of evaluation with colored glasses is actually not conducive to the shaping of children's character.
After reading these, find a time to have a good talk with your child. This kind of chat is effective communication. What you think is right is not necessarily right. Many things are black and white, depending on parents' perspective.
Listen to your child's thoughts. He is not necessarily wrong. Even if he is wrong, you should learn to think from his point of view first, and then guide him further.