Zeng Guofan's first method of educating children: teaching by example precedes teaching by words. He asked his eldest son to get up before dawn every day to sweep the yard, and then went back to his room to practice calligraphy 1000. What is the first word? Frugality? . When I was eating, I once met a shell, so my son picked it out and put it on the table. Zeng Guofan saw nothing, silently picked it up, peeled off the shell and ate the rice inside. The influence of example is naturally better than words. A simple action can be understood by children without a long speech or even a word? Every grain is hard? The truth.
Accordingly, I remembered two stories about eating cakes in Tang Yulin. After the banquet of Emperor Taizong, Yuwen Shi wiped the gravy on his hands with bread. Emperor Taizong didn't speak, just looked at him with his eyes. I smell like a thorn in his body, eating bread with gravy. In the Tang Xuanzong generation, the story was staged again. This time, it was Prince Hengli who wiped his hands with bread. I don't know what Hengli is thinking. Under the gaze of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty, he actually shoveled the wiped bread.
Seeing this story, I didn't feel much touched inside. Because both Emperor Taizong and Emperor Xuanzong used Emperor Wei Long to deter officials and make them eat cakes with soup, but why didn't the emperor think about it? Why do officials and sons wipe their hands with cakes? Is it because no one served them to wash their hands at the banquet in the palace of the Tang Dynasty, or because eunuchs and maids have no eyes and don't know whether to hand towels to their masters? It is because they don't care, don't cherish, and naturally act subconsciously. Just because you were frightened by the dragon face, you changed your original intention and barely ate it? Towels? Cake, I'm not happy. What's more, the emperor Xuanzong himself was extravagant. In Wan Li, not far from BMW Liangju, it cost more than 1000 yuan to transport litchi to Guifei. How much is bread worth? How much food and clothes do people have?
Therefore, superficial efforts to make a show will not really play an educational role. ? It is better to suffer less than to be old and poor. ? Be a man and cherish your blessings. This is? Cherish happiness? Two words? Fu? In ancient times, it was used to refer to wine and meat sacrificed to gods, and also to food. Cherishing blessings begins with cherishing food. Thinking every day is better than thinking all the time. Therefore, educating children to appreciate hardships, know how to endure hardships and be diligent is the most important part of character education.
Zeng Guofan's second way of educating children: Do you have to do what you say? The son is poor and the daughter is rich; The son is thick and the daughter is thin? This is a very popular view now. One hundred years ago, Zeng Guofan not only strictly educated his son, but also severely disciplined his daughter. One year, my little daughter followed her mother to visit her father in the Governor's Office of Liangjiang and entered the Governor's Office for the first time. The youngest daughter felt that it should not be too shabby, so she put on a blue silk jacket and green lace pants. When Zeng Guofan saw it, he felt that the lace embroidered on the corner of trousers was exquisite and complicated, and he was very unhappy. He criticized his daughter? Too luxurious and too bright? And immediately let my daughter change a pair of trousers without lace. Not to mention, in fact, in those days, it was a common thing for ladies of bureaucratic families to wear some lace dresses, which was not a luxury. Let's say that parents think that their children have done something wrong, and they should not only correct it in time, but also let them correct it immediately. We may not have noticed this. We are more? Pay attention next time? ,? Don't do it again? Even if we all know? Timely rectification? It is more effective to establish a correct view on children and develop good habits.
Zeng Guofan's three methods of educating children: it is necessary to investigate.