First, give children time to play casually and don't arrange their lives too regularly. American children educators Thomas and Armstrong pointed out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid cramming their children's time into various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.
Second, teach him to care about others.
Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.
Third, encourage him to exercise more.
Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.
Fourth, smile often.
Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.
V. Creative praise
When children behave well, don't just say "good". Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today". However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.
Sixth, ensure that children eat healthily.
A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.
Seven, stimulate his inner artistic talent.
Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called "Mozart effect", exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.
Eight, often hug
A gentle hug conveys' infinite care' and a silent' I love you'. Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.
Nine, listen attentively
Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.
Ten, give up perfectionism? We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example: dislike that they didn't wipe the table, just wipe it once; Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes.
The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first:' Is this related to health or safety? Imagine, 10 years later, will this matter be so serious? If * * doesn't work, let the children do it.
XI。 Teach him to solve problems.
Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:
(1) Confirm his problem.
(2) Let him describe his solution.
(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.
(4) Decide to let him solve the problem by himself or provide some help.
(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.
Give him a stage to perform.
Every child has a unique talent. Why not give them a chance to show? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident. Children around us need not only a carefree living environment, but also adults to accompany them to' experience' its growth process. That is to say:' To know what the world looks like in children's eyes, you must first squat down and look at the world from the position and height of the child.