The first step to get your boyfriend back is to leave room.
1. When breaking up, it is necessary to calm down and leave some blanks. Whether he broke up with you or you regretted it after breaking up on your own initiative, I know that when you read this article, you should be very anxious and anxious to save him. But really don't worry, girl, haste makes waste. Don't hold the idea that "he may still have feelings for me now" and rashly contact to save it.
Imagine that if the other party proposes to break up, then unless he is just playing with your relationship, he naturally has experienced some ideological struggles. Since the final conclusion is to break up, it must be a difficult decision for him, so he will not change his mind easily; On the other hand, if you break up with him, no matter whether you are out of hope-"stay and stay" or regret after breaking up without careful consideration, now you blindly contact him to try to save it, even if he still has feelings, he will think you are a joke and feel cheated. In fact, we have dealt with many such cases, and girls break up frequently. Unexpectedly, one day, he really left without looking back, and he regretted it. What shall we do? Obviously, it is not the wisest thing to start saving now.
Therefore, you need to leave yourself blank and give him a calm space. Don't always appear in front of him or bombard him with phone calls. This is a no-no, remember.
Use this blank time to think about your problem. Now that you are calm, you know you should give both sides some space and keep their distance. At this time, you should think about why you broke up. Calm thinking does not waste time, at this time you can have a clearer understanding of the problems in your relationship. It may take some time to find out the root cause of the breakup, but it is definitely worth it. It will save you a lot of detours in the process of saving your boyfriend. Here are some common reasons for breaking up with your boyfriend. Maybe you have one or several of them, but they are not necessarily included. Anyway, remember the whole process and keep a clear head.
Your time together is too short and you have no emotional foundation. He felt that the two sides were at odds and broke up. More common in love with strong communicative purpose, such as blind date. Old men and women are very common. Another common possibility is that both parties are too young and immature, longing for freedom more than a stable relationship, which is common when both parties are only children.
You are insecure, jealous and controlling, giving him too much pressure to break up.
Love for a long time, passion receded, and did not translate into mutual understanding and tolerance (this breakup is often accompanied by the appearance of a third party, accelerating the end of the relationship).
You don't get along well and often quarrel, but after each quarrel, the problem still exists and has not been effectively solved.
The growth rhythm of the two sides is different, the circle of friends, hobbies, the surrounding environment has changed greatly, or they have experienced a long time in different places.
He just wants to have fun and never takes this relationship seriously. You're just one of his targets. If he loses interest after success, he will change to the next one. This situation is the most difficult to recover, and it is not recommended to recover. It is not worth it.
Think it over and make a plan to solve these problems. If you have found the root cause of the breakup-it may not be a single one, but a combination of many reasons. You should think about how to solve these problems. Don't try to give up or ignore these problems, even if you think it is too difficult and hopeless. Remember, the process of redemption is also a process of self-redemption, even if it's not for him, it's for better self, and for learning not to fall in the same place next time.
If the problem is lack of security, you need to learn to try to gain security from your heart, not from the other side.
If it is because of the retreat of passion, then think about how to keep love fresh, how to increase the common fresh experience, and how to learn a relationship from love to marriage.
If it's because of frequent quarrels, think about who has the bigger problem. Quarrel between lovers is an essential process. The key is that the problem is solved after the quarrel, which is effective communication. It's just a waste of feelings.
The two sides have different growth steps, so we should think about how to make ourselves better. Two people together need to support each other and make progress together. If one party keeps dragging the other's back, it will be difficult for this relationship to be stable and lasting, so you need to try to keep up with his pace, which is also good for you. On the other hand, if you have made progress and he stands still, then I believe this relationship is not worth your nostalgia and recovery.
Of course, if the problems in your relationship are related to him, you should think about how you get back together-for example, he is determined to change himself. But if he doesn't change, you know that the problems between you can't be solved in a short time, so you should think about whether it is necessary for you to get back together.
The second step to save your boyfriend is to attract his attention.
1. Let him see your bright spot. After the first step, after a period of calm, you can all maintain a rational view of the relationship between the two sides. At this time, you can reappear in his life, try to run into each other, or attend a party of mutual friends, go to his favorite coffee shop or bar with friends, and meet him again. Remember to pay attention to the clothes and makeup of the day. Don't be too deliberate so as not to let him find your purpose, but fine makeup can give you extra points. At the same time, when pretending to meet each other in eye contact, while showing surprise, you should greet him generously, let him find that you enjoy your single life, busy and full, let him see that you get along well with your friends and recall your happy time together.
2. Let him pay attention to you through social media. Besides occasional encounters, you can also post your life experiences and feelings on social applications (WeChat, Weibo, QQ space, etc.). ), which is not obvious and does not brush the screen, occasionally appears in his circle of friends to show photos of you going out with friends. Choose a time when he is most likely to be free to surf the internet, pay attention to the traces of his browsing your photos, and catch his attention bit by bit.
3. After that, your relationship will ease, from praise, comment, to short online chat, and then to ten or twenty minutes of conversation. If the other person tries to invite you out, you can go out several times, but avoid dating alone at first and don't stay too late at night. Remember to go back on time. You have broken up, so any couple's actions should be avoided, and don't let the other person keep distance and contact with you easily.
4. When you go out to play, let him see your changes, especially where you had problems before. But don't be too obvious, and don't ask him if he has found your change. If you say it, the effect will be greatly reduced. You have to let him dig and find it himself, and he will slowly fall into this rhythm.
5. (Choose carefully) Try to make him jealous. This trick is not suitable for everyone, but if you walk with other male friends or flirt with others according to your own understanding and judgment, it will make him jealous and want to get back together, so you can make proper use of it. But remember not to overdo it, enough is enough.
6. Pay attention to the signal he sends you and be sensitive to his ideas. If his affection for you gradually increases and he has the idea of getting back together, he will often contact you actively, touch you as gently as possible when going out to play, or care about your recent activities, whether you are dating other people, whether you have other suitors, and so on. What you need to do is not to let go of any of his body language and movements, to judge his thoughts at that time, and of course to judge his emotional state at that time. If he already has a girlfriend, or clarifies that you are good friends in front of mutual friends, then this is just ordinary friendship. Pay attention to recognition and consider gradually improving attractiveness.
7. If you find signs of goodwill, that is to say, he already wants to get back together, you can give him a proper opportunity to relax and date alone, but remember to slow down, don't meet and date too often, and try to avoid what couples do at this stage. Don't rely too much on each other, still keep your own independent and full life and circle of friends, and don't arrange your time with each other because of their invitation, unless the reason for breaking up at that time was that you were too independent and ignored his feelings.
The last step to get my ex-boyfriend back is to keep him.
1. After the previous steps, he will express his compound thoughts to you smoothly. At this time, you can express your surprise and give him a positive answer after thinking, then you will get back together smoothly. Keep each other after getting back together, remember the self-reflection after breaking up at that time, and always remind yourself how your relationship ended at that time, what problems happened, what are ready now, and how to face and solve them. If the problem lies with him, remember to kindly remind him not to make the same mistake again this time. Don't worry that the other party will refuse. After all, it's him who wants to get back together now. Keep a gentle communication attitude, and he will be happy to promise you.
Relax and don't put too much pressure on yourself. It is undoubtedly important to pay attention to the problems that happened before and not repeat the same mistakes, but paying too much attention to the past mistakes will also bring great pressure to yourself and you will not be able to enjoy this lost relationship well. So many times, relax, decompress, dredge and release yourself. If the pressure is too great, you can talk to the other person, but don't use a nervous way.
Start over. For you, the relationship you saved by your own efforts can easily be regarded as a continuation of the previous paragraph. But remember, this is a new beginning. Don't cling to old problems. Let bygones be bygones. The point is that you are enjoying this new relationship now. You should remember the good memories of the past, but don't mention the bad ones, so that you can all start over.
4. Maintain self-independence. After recovery, you may be afraid that the other person will ignore you again and become cautious. Actually, it's not necessary After all, you are all independent individuals, so it is important to maintain your independence. He loves you and will respect your thoughts and decisions. So, if you want to do something, you can do it without affecting each other and hurting yourself. Don't be timid, it will make the other person feel unhappy. This must be noted.
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In the process of recovery, everything is enough, not too much, not too much.
Don't send sexy photos to try to impress each other, and don't use your body to save him. This is the stupidest.
He may not be interested in you again so easily. Please be patient.
Even if you don't love your people, you can get them back. The key is to have confidence and make yourself look as clean, tidy and beautiful as possible. Everyone yearns for beautiful things, and he may fall in love with you again.
What you need to prepare is: good personality, sense of humor, independence, exquisite and clean clothes, perfect smile.