1, impolite in public.
Don't give up your seat to the elderly on the bus, don't throw rubbish at will, don't make noise in the restaurant, and don't queue up unconsciously at the ticket office ... These behaviors may seem trivial, but they will have a very bad influence on children. Children should be taught to obey the rules from an early age, instead of flouting the existing social norms. Many parents have some bad habits, and if they are not corrected in time, their children will also get these bad habits. Restrain and standardize your behavior and set a good example for your children.
Children are always observing and feeling the world through their own eyes. Many things don't need to be taught. Parents just need to show them themselves. Pick up the rubbish on the roadside and throw it into the dustbin, once, twice, three times ... Needless to say next time, the children will take the initiative to pick up the rubbish and never litter.
2. Lack of patience and responsibility.
Many parents will lack patience in the process of communicating with their children, and even worse, they will express the hint that "children are very troublesome" in their words. Shouldn't the family be the warmest and most inclusive place? To allow children to make mistakes, what parents should do is to patiently guide them over and over again, instead of showing disgust and impatience with their children. You know, the growth of children is a long process, and parents should accompany them with patience and responsibility.
Many families abroad will keep some pets to accompany their children to grow up, which is not only to accompany their children, but also to cultivate parents and children's patience and sense of responsibility.
3. Talk about others behind their backs and love to tell right and wrong.
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Don't judge others at will, let alone speak ill of others behind their backs. Parents should teach their children tolerance, friendliness and love, not narrowness and meanness. Every child is pure and kind, don't let their hearts be contaminated with worldly dust.
4, not optimistic and positive, easy to be emotional.
An optimistic and positive attitude towards life can be passed on to the next generation in education, but modern life is tense and fast-paced. Many parents are under great pressure in work and life, and often unconsciously bring negative emotions to their families, which affects the relaxed and happy family atmosphere. Even taking it out on children will make them feel insecure and frustrated, and they will be more inclined to complain than actively seek solutions when they encounter problems in the future.
5. Spending money lavishly and pursuing material comforts excessively.
Children have no concept of money, so parents' views on consumption and shopping will deeply affect children. It is necessary to tell children that money is hard earned and earned by labor, and they should know how to cherish it. Instead of blindly pursuing the most expensive, excessive extravagance and waste. Sometimes, the best in parents' eyes is not necessarily what children need most.
Instead of spending money on expensive restaurants, it is better to take children to the supermarket to buy ingredients, cook by themselves and enjoy the company of their families. Such a table of dishes is more delicious and meaningful!
6, bad faith, promised that the child did not do it.
Parents are tall and authoritative in the eyes of their children, and what they promise must be done. Parents often use some kind of reward to motivate their children and give them greater motivation to accomplish something. However, many parents fail to honor their rewards after their children finish, and gradually children will reduce their trust in their parents. This method that could have inspired their children will not work.
It's impolite to yell at the old people at home.
Respecting and loving the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and parents often educate their children to be filial to their parents and appreciate their efforts. But I didn't really do it myself. I am rude to my elders, even deliberately alienating them or asking them to do too much housework for me. If you don't honor your parents by example, do you expect your children to honor you when you get old?
At home, I often give foot massage to the elderly and chat with them to relieve boredom. This is your way of honoring your parents. One day, your child will also hold a basin of water and say with a smile, "You have worked hard, I will wash your feet."
8, lack of communication between parents, often noisy conflict.
The relationship between parents directly affects the happiness of children. In a family where parents have a harmonious relationship and often chat and laugh at the dinner table, children are willing to listen and share, communicate with their parents and express their ideas. However, in a family where parents are estranged, often make a scene, and there is not much communication, children will be introverted, slow, unable to express themselves, and will not release their emotions reasonably.
Find time to chat with family every day, and the love between husband and wife is also felt by children. Instead of constantly brushing your mobile phone and continuing to work as soon as you get home.
9. Busy work and great pressure. When I got home, I saw my 4-year-old daughter making no noise and making noise at the right time. Finally, I couldn't help shouting, "Why are you always crying?" Stop crying, I hate it! "
Reminder: A child with self-esteem and respect for others must first be respected by adults. If we don't give children this respect and be rude to them, they will take it for granted that others should do what I say, and it is difficult to think from others' perspective.
10, after many years of marriage, you and your lover often quarrel in front of your daughter for trivial things like "why not buy chickens and ducks", and then make up again afterwards.
Reminder: Our hostility and quarrels set a bad example for children's aggressive behavior. The manner, posture, tone, intonation and language when we quarrel are all in the eyes of the children and kept in mind. In the future, when children are playing games, they will gently scold dolls, hit dolls hard, or swear words or swear words to children.
1 1. You work hard, manage your family diligently, and are reluctant to buy new clothes for yourself, but you are generous to your son. He wants Altman and Superman, not asking for his help. You think: Isn't the one-child society just for one child?
Reminder: Our "love" will make children only know how to pay. How can we make children feel the hardship of making money?
12. Every day when you come home from work, you always habitually ask your daughter, "How are you doing in kindergarten?" When I asked, I was busy cooking, tidying my room, or reading the newspaper.
Reminder: Our behavior seems to tell children: I don't care about your answer. What I really care about now is whether I can prepare dinner quickly, or tidy up my room and finish reading today's newspaper. This practice can only get a surprised and angry answer from the child: "nothing", "not bad" and "not bad". Therefore, children learn to perfunctory others from us.
13. Your son quarreled with other children about toys. You punish your child not to play with toys for a week. A few days later, you realize that your punishment for your children is a little too heavy, but you think that "parents should match their words with their deeds", so you convince yourself that you don't want to take back your words.
Reminder: We made a mistake and refused to admit our mistakes, and the children also admitted their mistakes.
14. The TV set at home is broken. Ask your son's uncle to help repair it. At the appointed time, my uncle called and said he couldn't come because of something urgent. You hung up the phone and complained to your child's wife: "Your uncle is so cruel! I will never ask him for help again. "
Reminder: Blaming and complaining is not only useless, but also sets a bad example for children: in the face of disappointment, we don't actively try to solve the problem, but just blame and blame others.
15 after dinner, your daughter clamors for you to tell her a story, but you are always busy with other things: cleaning the room; Reply to email or view some information; I was about to sit down and tell a story when suddenly I had something to deal with.
Reminder: Our behavior makes children understand a "truth": there is only work in life.
16, you are always used to littering. Your wife will clean up everything you litter, and you never need to worry about it.
17. On the issue of marriage, your mother-in-law tried every means to obstruct it. Therefore, after you get married, you never honor the elderly and never take your son to play. You often scold old people behind their children's backs and in front of them.
18, one day, you suddenly found out that your lover was having an affair! From the initial shock and panic to the final tolerance, you tell yourself: "As long as he (or she) still wants this home, what else do you want? Isn't it just to give children a complete home? "
19, the road to marriage has finally come to an end, and your heart is full of resentment against each other. So you tell your 6-year-old daughter about your partner's shortcomings, and tell her, "Dad (or mom) doesn't want you, and you must never talk to him (her) again."
20. You are a member of the kindergarten parent committee. The teacher asked you to write some short articles for the garden newspaper. But you have been so busy that you can't finish these articles the day before the deadline. At this time, you call the teacher, tell her that you are ill, and ask her to find another parent to write.
2 1, you and your son line up in the supermarket to pay. A woman cut in line and stood in front of you. You put her in line at the back. But she turned a deaf ear to what you said, so you raised your voice, argued with her, and finally quarreled.
22. After dinner, your daughter clamors for you to tell her a story, but you are always busy with other things: cleaning the room; Reply to email or view some information; I was about to sit down and tell a story when suddenly I had something to deal with.
23. The TV set at home is broken. Ask your son's uncle to help repair it. At the appointed time, my uncle called and said he couldn't come because of something urgent. You hung up the phone and complained to your child's wife: "Your uncle is so cruel! I will never ask him for help again. "
24. Your son quarreled with other children about toys. You punish your child not to play with toys for a week. A few days later, you realize that your punishment for your children is a little too heavy, but you think that "parents should match their words with their deeds", so you convince yourself that you don't want to take back your words.
25. Every day when you come home from work, you always habitually ask your daughter, "How are you doing in kindergarten?" When I asked, I was busy cooking, tidying my room, or reading the newspaper.
26. You work hard, manage your family diligently, and are reluctant to buy new clothes for yourself, but you are generous to your son. He wants Altman and Superman, not asking for his help. You think: Isn't the one-child society just for one child?
27. After many years of marriage, you and your lover often quarrel in front of your daughter for trivial things such as "why not buy chickens and ducks", and then make up again afterwards.
Parents are children's mirrors, and children are parents' shadows.
Parents' words and deeds will leave a deep or shallow mark on their children's growth. Parents are the guides for children to contact the world. They should not only help children remove obstacles on the road, but also try to avoid creating new obstacles. Restrain your words and deeds, lead by example, set a good example for children and accompany them to grow up healthily!