Parents' wish, I hope the children will have a good life! What kind of life is a good life?
① Good health: no chronic diseases (parents should have knowledge of nutrition and kinematics).
Example: According to the height of parents, the child could have grown to 1.75 meters, but the result was only 1.7 meters, that is, it was not well raised; The child grew to 1.8 meters, and the parents raised it well. Nowadays, many children are seriously allergic and their parents have not raised them well.
② Mental health: environmental adaptors (personality can't be sick, personality has three generations of diseases).
Example: A 40+ woman visited and said that her father was a successful university professor, but every day at home, she said that her mother and herself were idiots, and her mother didn't quarrel, but just endured it. She died of heart disease very early. She suffered from severe depression, which also affected her children.
(1) has the ability to obtain average income.
(2) Peace of mind with average income.
Example: A mother and daughter visited. The mother said that her daughter didn't understand her since she was a child and took good care of her. When my daughter comes back from studying abroad, she wants to be a primary school teacher, whose salary is not high. My daughter said that her childhood dream was to be a primary school teacher.
Teacher Chen Mo, for example, said that the daughter next door is a white-collar worker in a foreign-funded enterprise, and her income is three times that of a primary school teacher (the income of an ordinary primary school teacher is the social average). Will they succeed? Your daughter has always cherished the ideal of being a primary school teacher. She may be influenced by her mother to go to a foreign-funded enterprise, or she may want to jump ship to the financial industry, but then she will not be very good at any job, because her ambition is not here. But if your daughter becomes a teacher, in a few years, she will become a subject researcher and may become a principal and educator in the future, because she likes this industry and she is at the top of it. How can she have less money?
① Good self-development
(2) Don't try to win the appreciation of others.
Nowadays, parents instill wrong ideas into their children from an early age, and they get better grades, preferably first place and first place in the competition. Tell your children from an early age that you have to achieve, you have to win, you can't lose, and I admire successful people and people who have achieved. The school has also become an arena. ? People should live a good life and have the possibility of enjoying themselves. In the future, people will live longer. If the motivation of hard work is how others appreciate themselves, who will appreciate you after retirement, and no one will appreciate you, there may be no motivation to live. Today's children are afraid of losing, which is caused by their parents' wrong ideas. They have a strong sense of competition and weak competitiveness.
Parents should tell their children that people are different. Some people perform on the stage, some people applaud and eat melon seeds under the stage, but he is very leisurely, and the people on the stage are very risky. Everyone has his own way.
(1) Develop reading habits from childhood.
(2) lifelong learning.
Now knowledge is updated quickly and refined. If you don't study for a few years, you may fall behind. The difference between people in the future is the difference between reading quantity and reading content.
Will be moved by beauty.
② Ability to appreciate beauty.
Animals don't appreciate natural beauty. We should let children blend into the beautiful environment and know how to appreciate and enjoy the beautiful scenery. Let children learn to appreciate the beauty of art, art is created by people, and people will be deeply shocked and moved by beauty in front of good art, so that people can live like people.
Now, parents let their children learn art and music from an early age. Although it was utilitarian, you did it. A child who has been influenced by art since childhood will not lose his humanity when he grows up to encounter natural and man-made disasters. When he is in a bad mood, he can draw pictures and play music, so that he can live well, especially when he is old.
(1) group.
Don't make enemies for no reason.
Example: Parents are always worried that their children will suffer, and always ask their children the details of getting along with their classmates at school. Last time you gave Xiaoming a birthday present, why didn't he give it to you this time? Don't play with him next time. How many five-pointed stars did kindergarten get today? Xiao Ming gets more than you. Try to get one more tomorrow and surpass him.
Parents paying too much attention to the details of the group will cause children's anxiety in the group.
I can see with my eyes that others need help.
Ready to help others
Baby, did you help other children in kindergarten today? Xiaoming cries every day. You should comfort him. Children help each other. Mothers often instill the idea that children use their eyes to find people in need every day. Xiaoming, it's raining outside. I have an umbrella. Take it first. When a child helps others, he will feel very powerful and others will give him positive energy. Such children are popular and have high votes. This is how your children are raised by you.
Failure education is to tell children to surpass others, guard against others and calculate others.
Low-level competition is physical competition, intermediate competition is intellectual competition, and advanced competition is moral competition.
Children's ability to resist setbacks is tempered by their ability to help others and deal with real things.
Have close companions.
② Ability to get social support.
Example: You saw such a good movie today. Why don't you take your good friend Xiaoming with you? Good friends are for sharing. Xiaoming's parents divorced recently, and he must be unhappy. You should comfort him. Good friends are for sharing.
When people reach puberty, their main energy comes from their peers. There are several close friends who can help him in times of crisis, and his social support ability is very strong.
① Mature personality
② Good communication skills
Without professional study, the relationship with your partner is directly passed on to your parents.
50% happiness in life lies in partnership. Mature people are with naive people. Mature people always prefer naive people and will be dragged to death. Two mature people are together, 80 years old, walking hand in hand in the sunset. Maturity has nothing to do with education and social status, but with emotional control and communication.
If you have children, I hope they will live well in the future, and your marriage will be mature. If not, ask a professional to help you. Your child learns directly and inherits your mature relationship. He will find a mature person and be happy.
(1) cooperative attitude towards life
(2) Dedicated to human values all his life.
People are born to give to their own kind, so that they can live forever. If your children knew the meaning of human beings, they wouldn't get depression or commit suicide easily. When he understood the meaning of human beings, he understood right and wrong. Anything that destroys human existence, no matter what kind of behavior, is false, evil and ugly; Anything that can make human beings survive must be true, good and beautiful.
We are now educating future children. With the above elements, your children can live well and be happy.