Many minors who have been sexually assaulted do not know that they have been hurt or think it is shameful. They didn't tell their parents or call the police in time. The main reasons are the lack of sex education and insufficient understanding of sex education.
When it comes to sex education, parents are also at a loss. At what age, what to teach, how to teach and what to pay attention to? Parents also lacked sex education when they were young, which led to the same confusion in the education of their children.
More and more parents realize the importance of sex education for their children, actively study many related courses and read many related books. However, even if we make a good knowledge reserve and don't pay attention to the details of life, there will be many problems in sex education, and even affect the final result. Next, let's take a look at the details of life that parents should pay attention to when educating their children about sex.
What kind of life details should parents pay attention to when educating their children about sex?
1, take a bath.
Before the child is 3 years old, parents can give the child a bath, and in the process of bathing, they can pass on gender knowledge to the child. You can also show your children your body and tell them the difference between men and women. But children over 4 years old must pay attention to taking a bath. It is very important that the father and the boy take a bath together and the mother and the girl take a bath together. Because it helps to establish children's gender awareness and privacy boundaries.
2. Avoid children when changing clothes.
Some parents don't treat their children as human beings, or treat them as independent personalities, and don't avoid them when changing clothes. If you are the guardian of the child's gender, you can do this for the time being, but the gender difference between the guardian and the child will affect sex education. If children often change clothes in front of them, they will be curious about the body of the opposite sex. If they don't see the right answer from their parents, they will explore for themselves, which will easily hurt or be hurt by others.
Don't go to the toilet in front of the children.
The same is true when going to the toilet, especially when the gender of the guardian and the gender of the child are different. Some parents think that there is no need to be too particular at home, and don't close the door when going to the toilet. Always convey the wrong ideas to children in this way. There is no need to close the door when going to the bathroom. When you go to the toilet outside, if you continue this behavior, you will be peeked if you are not careful, and the bad guys will enter empty.
Don't let children find out that their parents have sex.
If the child is too young, don't let the child find out that his parents are having sex, because you can't explain it to him well. If you accidentally arouse the child's curiosity, it will be more troublesome. The main contents of sex education for children of different ages are different, so we must not advance education.
5. Don't wear pants for children.
When children are young, they can wear pants at home and try to wear pants when they go out. First of all, wearing open-backed pants for children is not conducive to cultivating children's gender awareness and protecting their own awareness. In addition, there are a lot of abnormal news, and children who don't wear open-backed pants are easily targeted by bad guys.
6. Don't let children urinate anywhere.
I often see many children urinating and urinating everywhere outside, exposing their bodies. First of all, this is an uncivilized phenomenon in itself. Don't let children take it for granted and think that this is the right behavior. If the child wants to go to the toilet, take the child to the public toilet, and don't let the child develop this habit in public.
The guardian must carefully study the related aspects of sex education.
When educating children about sex, you may encounter many obstacles, such as communicating with the elderly, refusing children's demands, and encountering questions that children can't answer. At this time, you should learn to use three concepts to solve similar problems easily.
1) express feelings
It's normal to disagree with the old man. For example, old people like to wear open-backed pants for their children, but we don't. If we strongly deny the elderly, it will be unpleasant.
The concept to be used at this time is "expressing feelings!" Tell the elderly what we think about this problem, explain the importance of protecting privacy, and consider the problem from the perspective of protecting children. I believe that old people are reasonable.
If grandparents take care of the children, it's a good idea to ask her husband for help. When children can express themselves, they are also encouraged to express their feelings.
2) Pay attention to the rules
Children may make some excessive demands, such as wanting to see their parents' health. If you refuse your child, he will cry. Parents feel very embarrassed:
If you show it to your child, it will not only be embarrassing, but also spoil your child.
If you don't show them, you don't want to make them sad.
At this time, the concept we want to use is "pay attention to rules". For example, children want to see their mother's body, and mothers want their children to make rules, which can only be seen in the shower, not anytime and anywhere. At a certain age, the opposite sex can't take a bath at the same time, so they can't show their health to their children.
3) Pay attention to the relationship
Parents and children will sleep in separate rooms and beds sooner or later. Children may not want to sleep separately from their parents, so they are puzzled to ask their parents, "Why can mom and dad sleep together, but I can't sleep with you?"
When encountering such problems, we should use the concept of "relationship". We should explain to children the relationships between people, including husband-wife relationship, mother-child relationship, father-son relationship, peer relationship and so on.
Mom and dad are husband and wife and need to sleep together. A few years ago, children could only sleep with their parents. This is because children have no independent ability when they are young, and they sleep in the same room or bed for the convenience of care. When children grow up, they should be independent and have their own space.
Children's sex education is a very important issue, but it is ignored by many parents. In order to protect our children and let them learn to protect themselves, tell their parents in time when they are infringed and avoid further infringement, we must do a good job in sex education.