Children are the pride and hope of parents. For thousands of years in China, an uninterrupted virtue has been "showing love". There is no doubt about this, especially the love and dedication of the elders to the younger generation is absolutely selfless and unrequited. It can be said that most parents do everything for the good of their children.
To love children, we must give them a good future, which is also the voice of the vast majority of parents. How to educate children and how to make them become talents is a difficult problem for every parent. There is no standard answer, so there are "masterpieces" such as peeking on the wall, carrying schoolbags and making up lessons everywhere.
Is it wrong for parents to do so? Undeniably, most parents go a little too far and indulge their children, which is wrong and needs to be corrected, but the parents' eagerness is understandable.
It is understandable and acceptable for parents to peek on the wall. In order to make their children better, there is nothing wrong with taking pains to understand and help them, and there is nothing wrong with it. The child just went to kindergarten, and the parents peeped on the wall. Humble opinion: this is not only not wrong, but also commendable.
First of all, you can better understand the child's state. When they go to school, it is also a kind of independence, which is a great test and challenge for children. How will they behave? Face bravely or accept passively? Parents can learn more about their children by secretly observing them.
If you have a good idea, it will be much easier. According to the children's performance, find out the reasonable education methods suitable for children, communicate and guide them, let them adapt to the new environment as soon as possible, adjust their mentality as soon as possible, and actively go to school as soon as possible. What's wrong with that?
Not only at school, but also on various occasions, we should secretly observe the state of children. Let me talk about my own experience and practice first: my family is a girl, born timid, and even afraid to play with other children. For this, the author has been troubled for a long time.
I have to take my child to public places more often since I discovered her shortcomings. I secretly observe her performance every time I go, but I behave casually myself (in fact, I am in a hurry). In other words, if you observe children, it is best not to let them find out and reduce their psychological burden.
On different occasions (such as shopping malls, amusement parks and restaurants), children will behave differently. Some children are afraid of adults, some children don't like children of the same age, and some children don't know what to do when they see children younger than themselves. Children who have fun in the playground will be nervous when they enter the mall. In short, their inner world is not a single type. This requires parents' patient guidance and communication.
Every parent should try his best to observe children, know them better and guide them more.
If you love children, cultivate them into optimistic and active teenagers. It is right for parents to love their children, but is your love right?
To be practical and realistic, many parents are incorrect and spoil. This is a very dangerous practice, but you just can't feel it or admit it.
Children's future needs to be created by themselves, but now "going to a good university" is the most reliable, direct and recent way for many children to succeed. How to make them "pass the exam", how to make them "do well in the exam" and how to make him an excellent talent is not feasible by doting, and parents need to use their brains.
In addition, I also remind you that no matter how your children's grades are, whether they can succeed through study or not, this is not the most important thing. It is what a qualified parent should do to cultivate children's optimism, positive attitude and healthy body.
Finally, I wish every child a good mood and a good future.