I. Overview
Each of us has the most contact with our families, so the influence of family education on children is far greater than that of school education. Childhood is one of the most important periods in our lives. This period is a critical period for children's growth and development, and almost all one's behavior habits are formed from this period. We always see many children form many bad habits. Of course, this is what we are worried about and what we don't want to see, but behind these bad habits, many of them were taught by our ancestors. Therefore, analyzing the influencing factors of grandparents' daily behavior education on children's behavior habits is conducive to improving the level of family education, helping children develop good behavior habits and making them useful people in society.
Second, the definition of children's bad behavior
Children's bad behavior usually refers to children's daily behavior that is evaluated as inappropriate by people. These bad behavior habits mainly include: deliberate destructive behavior, such as throwing things; Deviating behaviors reflected in social communication, such as silence and shyness; Attacks mainly include beating, cursing and robbing others. Bad eating behavior, not eating well, being picky about food, etc. These behaviors are all bad behaviors of children that we can see in our daily life. If these behaviors are not corrected, it will seriously affect the healthy growth and development of children in the future.
Third, the perspective of the influence of grandparents' daily behavior habits education on children's behavior habits
1. Spoil children
The arrival of a small life has brought endless joy and hope to a family, and children have become the focus of this family. For grandparents, the arrival of a child gave them endless surprises. Therefore, grandparents love children more. Grandparents always try their best to meet their children's demands and tolerate their unreasonable troubles one by one. Children are emperors or princesses at home. In addition, in daily life, grandparents always think that children are too young to do this and that. Even children can do everything they can. In addition, most children in today's families are only children, and grandparents love them very much. After a long time, children get used to dependence, develop an irritable bad temper, and are prone to aggressive behavior towards people who do not meet their own requirements.
2. The discipline is too strict
Grandparents in some families are too eager for their children to succeed. They know that doting on children will affect their life, so they are always strict with them. Grandparents will never tolerate their children's bad behavior every day, always threatening to beat and scold, and sometimes taking it out on their children and scolding them innocently. Children in early childhood are vulnerable to mental injury, and at the same time, they are imitative. Children are afraid of being reprimanded by their ancestors. At the same time, they think that as long as others are wrong, they should be scolded. Over time, they formed a withdrawn character and lacked some tolerance for other people's behavior.
3. Ignoring family education
Family environment is the first environment that children come into contact with, and family education is also the first education that children receive. However, judging from the existing family situation in China, parents are usually busy at work, and children spend more time with grandparents. For grandparents, they don't know anything about family education. They only know that it is enough for children to wear warm clothes and have enough to eat. Therefore, there are many gaps in children's family education, and even the ancestors neglected the family education of children.
4. Grandparents didn't set an example.
Children are very imitative. They will imitate all the children around them. In these imitations, children can't distinguish right from wrong, and most of these imitations come from the words and deeds of their ancestors. We often find that children can swear, but they are as pure as a blank sheet of paper. How did they learn these swearing words? There is only one answer, that is, their parents and grandparents at home teach by example, and they usually don't pay attention to their words and deeds or set an example. There are also swearing behaviors, which are imperceptibly teaching children how to swear. What's more, some grandparents think that some of their children's bad behaviors are very interesting and deliberately entertain them, thus deepening their children's impression of bad behavior habits, which is incorrect.
Fourth, ways to correct children's bad behavior.
1. Love has dimensions.
Children's words and deeds are welcome, but we should grasp the degree of love for children. It is not good for grandparents to love their children too much. On weekdays, grandparents are children's umbrellas. What about leaving them? Of course, the discipline of young children should not be too strict, which will seriously hurt the young hearts of young children. Therefore, grandparents must pay attention to the scale of love when they get along with their children on weekdays, and don't spoil and relax their love, which is conducive to the healthy development of children.
2. Strengthen the family education concept of ancestors.
Education is not only a matter for school teachers, but also an important responsibility for parents. Children have the most contact with their families and receive the most family education. As children's grandparents, we should clearly realize that children's family education is an extremely important thing. Only by strengthening their family education concept can they be more conducive to children's education.
3. Give full play to the exemplary role of our ancestors.
Children are a very good imitation group, and we can see the shadow of parents in every child. At home, parents and grandparents are children's role models, and their words and deeds affect their every move. After a long time, children have formed roughly the same behavior habits as their parents and grandparents. Therefore, as grandparents at home, we should give full play to their exemplary role, bring positive energy to children and help them develop good behavior habits.
Childhood is a critical period for everyone to form good behavior habits. If we don't pay attention to it during this period, it will seriously affect the healthy growth and development of children. At home, grandparents' words and deeds will leave a mark on children's brains, which will be subtly transformed into children's behavior habits. Therefore, the education of grandparents has a great influence on children, but we should pay attention to the positive role of education.