Adults with strong hearts can't bear the daily verbal violence in their ears, let alone an immature child.
Self-confident, sensitive, insecure, and feel that they are not worthy of the love and love of others. I was denied since I was a child, and the more I was denied, the worse it got. I'm stuck in an infinite loop. On the surface, I look sunny, but in fact, I am extremely sensitive and inferior. ......
For children's education, parents should first cultivate their children's abilities in all aspects with love and enthusiasm, and learn to encourage and appreciate their children, instead of forcing them to learn to' obey' with words of blame and blow, because children who grow up in depression and fear can only become more timid and hypocritical!
0 1. Suppressing education makes children feel inferior.
I remember learning slowly or badly when I was a child. My parents always say, "Why are you so stupid? You can't do that. " This has to remind me that when God created human beings, there were differences. Some people are born smart, some people are stupid, some people learn fast, and some people learn slowly. I think I am the kind of person who is stupid and slow to learn. I remember that every time my parents scolded me, they always said, "We say this for your own good. I hope you can run faster. " . But unconsciously, I lost my confidence, began to feel inferior, and became unwilling to communicate with my parents.
This may also be the idea and practice of most parents in China. They have been depriving children of their hobbies in the name of "being good to children", just for their "ideal university". However, these words have become a sword, leaving irreparable pain in the child's heart, making the child feel inferior and sensitive.
02. Repressive education is an insurmountable psychological obstacle in the process of children's growth.
My parents' oppressive education has always been accompanied by my growth. Whenever I do something bad or wrong, I dare not tell my parents. What I said to my parents will only bring criticism and depression. I remember when I was admitted to a secondary school, my parents said to me, "If you had studied hard and got better grades, you could have gone to high school. It's too late to say anything now. There is no regret medicine in the world. Study hard and don't ask what you did before, or you won't even find a job after graduation. What do you think you are still useful? " This is how I grew up as long as I can remember. My parents' oppression deeply hurt my heart.
Suhomlinski once said, "Respecting and caring for children's self-esteem and care is like caring for dew on a trembling rose." Children have their own self-esteem at an early age. Blindly denying will only make children worse and worse. Only with encouragement and respect can children rebuild their self-confidence and better face the challenges of life.
03. Depressed education makes children lack autonomy.
Children who grow up in a depressed environment will have no opinions when they encounter things, and they will always worry that they can't do well. I remember that I left the company for 1 1 year. When my parents found out, they said to me sternly, "Did you leave your job without consulting your parents? Your wings are hard, so you left? Can you find another job after you leave here? " Suddenly I feel that I made a wrong decision, and my parents are always right. This is the effect of suppressing education on children.
Long-term control and disapproval will make children full of despair, more bound in future work, unable to face the unknown well and do not know how to deal with problems.
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Unknown, I don't know how to deal with this problem.