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Is China's popular educational thought of "filial son born under the stick" doing more harm than good?
I believe that everyone will hear a long-standing saying when growing up, that is? A dutiful son is born under the stick? Parents of many families also regard this sentence as a standard and always implement the educational concept of fighting violence with violence. But now with the development of society, people's thoughts have become enlightened, and more and more people realize that this sentence is one-sided. If we blindly educate children according to the educational concept conveyed by this sentence, it will also do great harm to children.

It is true that since the saying that a dutiful son is born under the club and a strict teacher is born into a noble apprentice can be passed down from generation to generation, there are many reasons for its existence, and it has indeed achieved very effective educational results. But when you think about it, these words are more like a bet than an educational idea. Once parents make the right bet, they can be said to have educated their dutiful son with sticks. However, if the gambling is wrong, the child may be prone to violence and appear inferior and cowardly in interpersonal communication. Both of these situations exist, and we can't deny the success brought by bonzi education. However, the harm it does to a child can never be ignored. How many children still have nightmares of being born into a family even when they are adults, and how many children are depressed because of their parents' violent treatment, and even choose to commit suicide?

So parents must be cautious when educating their children. The educational concept of filial son under the stick is no longer applicable in contemporary society. Even if it can bring temporary effects, the intangible negative effects on children will accompany them for life. To really teach children well, we must first start from ourselves. It is said that parents are the best teachers for children, and it is often found that children's words and deeds can always reveal their parents' shadow. Therefore, instead of using the method of stick education, it is better to be yourself and let the children know what to do through words and deeds.

I hope all parents in the world can choose the right way of education and don't let their children live in the nightmare of being born in a family. When a child makes a mistake, what kind of way will you choose to treat him? Welcome to leave your practice in the comment area for your reference.