Yingjie's family has two male treasures. My brother is 8 years old and my brother is 2 years old. The two brothers have very different personalities. Compared with his peers, my brother is thin, weak and timid. Although my younger brother is only 2 years old, his temper of not losing money has been fully demonstrated. He is a 100% "overlord".
My brother has been in primary school, and he has been a sensible child since he was a child, with a delicate mind. Ying Jie and his wife are both strong people in the workplace. On weekdays, they spend less time with their children. Most of the time, their elder brother and their younger brother play together. Sometimes they play with this thing or do something by themselves, and the overbearing brother likes to make trouble. An elder brother was angered, so he couldn't help fighting with his younger brother. His brother always gets the upper hand. Although he is much taller than his younger brother, he always loses.
Can an 8-year-old brother really beat a 2-year-old brother? No, it's not!
The reason why my brother lost is largely because he is sensible and willing to "listen" to his parents!
On weekdays, Yingjie and his wife instilled in their younger brother the idea that "elder brother should make way for younger brother". Every time the two brothers get into trouble, their parents always blame their brother and say, "You are too old to make way for your brother. He is not sensible. You can't bully him ... ". At first, my brother often retorted, but the more he retorted, the more severely he was criticized by his parents. Over time, every time my brother and brother fight, they will be scolded by their parents. My brother stopped refuting, sometimes silently forbearing, and couldn't help crying.
The elder brother in the above case is 6 years older than his younger brother, but he is also a child. Before his brother was born, he was also a baby loved by thousands. After my brother was born, my family set their eyes on him, and my brother slowly fell out of favor.
Moreover, parents are biased towards their younger brother every time, which hurts his younger brother's heart. His self-esteem and self-confidence are easily suppressed, and negative emotions such as resentment and sadness are also easy to appear. Although the younger brother is more loved and cared for by his parents, his overbearing temper is getting worse and worse.
Although my brother is six years older than my brother and more sensible, don't forget that he is still a child and he is eager to get more love from his parents. Parents' partiality actually hurts both children.
How do parents treat their two children fairly?
When expressing love, two people bring it together.
Every child longs for the love of his parents. Therefore, when parents express their love for their children, they should bring them together so that both children can get equal love and attention and grow up healthily and happily in the fair love of their parents.
Quite meet the objective needs of two children.
Children have all kinds of needs. If parents only satisfy one of them and neglect the other child, then the child will be hurt by the parents' partiality. There are two treasures at home, so parents need to spend more energy to think and adjust their behavior, meet the needs of their two children as fairly and reasonably as possible, and let them feel the same love.
Discuss the situation of the first two children.
Discuss your situation in front of two children, even if there is no obvious meaning of praise or blame, but the children also have their own understanding. Children with strong self-esteem can not only understand the meaning behind their parents' words, but also have fierce reactions in their hearts. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds and don't hurt their children's hearts.
Compare the advantages and disadvantages of two children in front of them.
Many parents will compare their advantages and disadvantages in front of their children, which will make them feel that their parents don't love them. Although what parents say may be true, children always want to get more attention and praise from their parents, and children are often competitive. If his parents say that he is worse than his brother and sister, his self-esteem will also be severely hit.