Educating children should not be guided by grades and money, but should respect their characteristics and participate in it personally.
Children's education has always been a concern of parents. However, on the one hand, parents want their children to succeed, on the other hand, they don't know how to educate and guide their children correctly. They only know that they spend money to enroll their children in many interest classes and intensive classes. It seems that as long as they spend enough money, the quality of interest classes will be high enough and children will become better. This is obviously wrong.
Education: not result-oriented.
The famous case of educational failure is Emperor Wanli of Ming Shenzong.
As the successor and future emperor of the Ming Dynasty, (the name of Emperor Wanli) undoubtedly had the best educational resources at that time. His teacher was Zhang, one of the most talented ministers in the history of China. He was honest and loyal to the monarch, which brought a rare period of prosperity to the Ming Dynasty, but he was exhausted in the end. Such a minister dare not be careless about the education of the future emperor, and he is eager to impart lifelong talents.
In order to educate the little emperor, Zhang even personally compiled a book called Illustration of the Emperor. Specially selected 1 17 historical events, including 8 1 good events and 36 bad events, and each story has pictures, which shows the profound meaning, even today's parents are not as good as many.
Zhu Yijun's mother, Li Taihou, was very careful and strict in educating the little emperor. Sometimes the little emperor didn't want to study, so Li Taihou immediately called him and made him kneel for a long time.
With such strict parents and such a dedicated and capable teacher, Zhu Yijun should be an excellent emperor. As a result, during his reign, the emperor didn't often visit the DPRK, built a lot of buildings and spent money like water, which almost defeated the bright future and accelerated the demise of the Ming Dynasty.
It can be seen that the education of Zhang, Zhang and Zhang is a failure. The reason for the failure is not the lack of resources, but two points. One is that the way of education does not respect children's nature, and the other is that parents do not set an example.
The little emperor is sometimes naive and kind. If guided correctly, they may become a generation of wise kings. However, Zhang He thought that the future emperor should not have too much personal feelings, and should spend all his time and energy on learning and accepting the teachings of the sages, which suppressed his natural instinct and caused a vicious rebound after Zhang died and stopped supervision.
Compared with Zhang, he should be more responsible for the emperor's failed education. As a parent, she ignored her children and even asked the emperor to get up and wash his face for him. However, in education, Li Taihou is performance-oriented, and directly gives all the children's studies to the teachers, instead of influencing the children by example. The result is naturally half the effort.
Perhaps what Li Taihou is thinking is: I don't understand this aspect of education. Since Zhang is a famous minister, let's leave all this to him, and I will do a good job of supervision.
Taking his mother as an example, the thought of Emperor Wanli after he ascended the throne may be: I know nothing about governing the world. The old gentleman below is much better than me. Leave it to them. I only play and nod.
There was such an emperor, but during his reign, the Ming Dynasty did not perish, so I can only say that he was lucky.
Teach students in accordance with their aptitude and set an example.
There are many ways to educate children, and the reasons will be endless for a while, but both teachers and parents have only two directions to educate children. One is to lead by example, and the other is to teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
Zhang Boling is a famous educator in China. Nankai University, founded in 19 19, is still a prestigious school. He attaches great importance to students' ideological education and often sets an example.
Once in class, he found that a student's fingers smelled of smoke, so he guessed that the student had the habit of smoking. Teacher Zhang seriously advised the students: "Smoking is harmful to health, so you should give it up. 」
The student did not deny it, but he said unconvinced, "So smoking is not harmful to health?" All the students know that Mr Zhang smokes.
If these words are put into the present school or family, many teachers and parents will think that they are "talking back" and "neither big nor small". But Mr Zhang Boling deserves to be a famous educator. He smiled apologetically at the students' accusations and did something that shocked the students-he took out all his Luzon cigarettes and destroyed them in public!
Not only that, Mr. Zhang also broke his beloved cigarette rod on the spot to show his determination to quit smoking. Teacher Zhang said sincerely, "From then on, I quit smoking with my classmates. 」
He not only persuaded the students from the results, but also influenced them ideologically with his own actions. This is Zhang Boling, the "teacher of burning ambition". Maybe we should thank this teacher, because countless high flyers have made great contributions to society. When one of them mentioned his name, countless people in China still had irresistible admiration and love. He is "the people's good prime minister"-Comrade Zhou Enlai.
Teacher Luo Qian once shared a case of parenting education in class. Children can't write well when they first enter primary school, but teachers know that children have two "one-yuan gold" in their time, so children should be picky and pursue perfection. So the next question is how to guide this feature.
Teacher Luo Qian pointed at the child and said in the book, "Please tell me, what's the difference? As a result, children will use critical instinct to find that it is a little longer here than in the book and a little fatter there. The teacher added, "Since you have found the problem, write it according to the book. In just two days, the child's handwriting is beautiful.
It should be noted that the reason why Mr. Luo Qian guides children's "critical" personality is because children's own time situation shows that children have this trait.
If children's game is not "gold" but "water", then they should be guided to another characteristic-the characteristic of explosion. The sea is a kind of ability that suddenly erupts upward, and the way of exerting force is explosive, not long-term flow.
Teacher Luo Qian believes that children who study in seawater are typical "memorizing Buddha's feet" before the exam, instead of reviewing a little every day, they concentrate their wisdom; Haishui reacts strongly to emergencies and hates rigid and continuous things.
Teachers at school often say this about the children in the sea: "You are a very clever child. Look at your careless and careless appearance, you can still get into the top five in your class a few days before the exam. If you work hard at ordinary times, it will be even worse. 」
However, parents who have studied "Yin Yang and Five Elements" will understand that it is impossible for a child with sea water to continue to read intensively every day. Haishui's characteristic is to concentrate on these days, so "cramming" is a common learning method for Haishui.
Teacher Luo Qian also said that there are children who are "afraid of water" in the bureau, and most of the time they just don't like to raise their hands and ask questions in class; There are "water-deficient" children in the station, who are not easy to sit still and like to run around. ...
Parents should identify with their children's characteristics; In the face of exam-oriented education in schools, parents should increase the guidance of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, and give their children a little less pressure instead of sprinkling salt on the wound.
Educating children like this, are you still afraid that children are not good? It can be seen that since children are expected to have a correct learning attitude, parents should also come to learn, understand the laws of learning, and know the unique personality and talent of children, so as to be as persuasive as Mr. Luo Qian is to children.
Nowadays, many training classes, intensive classes and even many parents' education methods are to instill knowledge into their children's minds. Is knowledge itself really important? Whether it's skills such as Olympics, piano, Go and chess, or learning China culture, it's true that children are gifted after learning it, but this is not the purpose of education.
The purpose of education is to form correct ideas about the world, life and ethics. This is the soul given to a person by education. Without this soul, even with rich knowledge, strong body and skilled skills, it is just a puppet.
How to cultivate children's thoughts? In fact, it is not correct to cultivate thinking. Thinking is the result that people can get by actively experiencing, thinking and summarizing. If the so-called correct thinking is instilled in children's minds, it will inevitably lead to a result-oriented road.
Parents and teachers should explore and respect children's characteristics, set an example for children to learn, and let children form their own soul space, just as Mr. Zhang Boling is to students and Mr. Luo Qian is to children.