First, intergenerational family education is the need for the healthy growth of minors.
Why should the Committee pay attention to family education of different generations? How to catch it? First of all, we have a clear understanding and unified our thinking; Secondly, choose a suitable angle and position in social practice; Then we grasped the key and took the initiative. Children's education is a systematic project, and school education, social education and family education must be closely linked to make them cooperate with each other, complement each other and complement each other. In other words, family education is very important, which is related to the future of the country, the hope of the nation and the harmony and happiness of the family.
(A) intergenerational family education is a common social phenomenon, is the need of real life.
In 2003, the "Good Dad and Good Mom" selection activity was organized by the Municipal Industry and Information Committee, the Municipal Industry and Information Committee, the Municipal Industry and Information Committee, the Municipal Industry and Information Committee and the Municipal Industry and Information Committee. Work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, family, work, family, work, family, work, work, work, work. Family, work, work, work, work, family, work, work, work, work, work, life, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, family, work. In the city, many children's parents are busy with work and career, and entrust their children to grandparents or grandparents; It is a common social phenomenon that tens of millions of left-behind children in rural areas are raised and educated by their ancestors. In our special investigation, it was found that 4 1.2% children in Shanghai Dao Primary School lived with their grandparents all the year round, 39.8% children lived with their parents and grandparents, and only 19% children lived with their parents alone. Nearly 50% children in Yuexiu Road Street grew up with their grandparents. The younger the child, the higher the proportion of living with grandparents. In our daily life, we often see some middle-aged and elderly parents who go out early and come home late to pick up and drop off their children in front of primary schools and kindergartens every day. This is a true reflection of the real social life in our district.
From this, we realize that in modern family education, intergenerational family education is a problem worthy of attention and needs to be carefully grasped. It is far from enough to do a good job in family education and only pay attention to parents. We should also be good grandparents, improve their quality, so that they can study, do something and have fun without leaving home, and do a good job of taking care of the next generation.
(2) intergenerational family education is an important part of family education. To do a good job in family education, we must do a good job in intergenerational family education.
Family is the child's first class, and parents and grandparents are the children's first teachers. Family is the smallest cell in society, and good family education is conducive to family harmony and involves social harmony. Family education is the responsibility of parents and grandparents. Nowadays, the family structure is changing. There are more and more "four, two, one" families, and it is more common for four old people to look after their grandchildren. The next generation of family education occupies a prominent position in the whole family education. In the work of caring for students for more than ten years, the working committee of our district has contacted all kinds of families in society, especially those whose parents are dead, disabled and divorced. Grandparents become the main support for raising and educating their grandchildren, and the role of intergenerational education is more significant. Therefore, while doing a good job in parenting education, we should also do a good job in intergenerational education.
(3) intergenerational family education has built a broad platform for the "five seniors" to play their role on the spot.
The "five seniors" and the "five seniors" volunteer team formed in our district are the main bodies concerned about the work of the next generation, and the work of the work Committee cannot be separated from the "five seniors". The role of the "five seniors" is not a model or a channel, but a variety of forms and platforms.
Intergenerational family education has distinct characteristics. Grandparents, the main roles of intergenerational family education, are part of the "five old" and "five old" volunteer team of the Industry and Trade Information Committee. The main targets of intergenerational family education-infants and teenagers-are the main targets of the Committee's concern and education. The old man and a young man are naturally close and inseparable in family relations; These two themes are closely related to caring for the next generation. From the family point of view, any family with grandchildren, ancestors have assumed the responsibility of raising and educating grandchildren to varying degrees. According to the investigation conducted by the Commission for Industry and Commerce on the "Five Elders" who participated in family intergenerational education in our district, quite a few people and many volunteers among the "Five Elders" in 8 179 undertake the task of family intergenerational education. For the future of the country and the nation, these old comrades stay at home and do a good job in educating their grandchildren on the spot, which is to participate in caring for the next generation. This is a great educational resource and an important social teacher team. With the further development of this work, the volunteer team will become bigger and bigger. Therefore, paying attention to intergenerational family education means "thinking about the needs of teenagers" and "doing the best of the working Committee", which provides a broad space for giving full play to the role of "five old people" and builds a platform for exerting the waste heat.
Second, we must make great efforts to improve the quality of our ancestors in order to grasp the family education of each generation.
Teachers should be educated first. Grandparents need to study hard to do a good job in intergenerational family education. According to the investigation of relevant departments, more than 80% of parents have not learned how to educate their children, and the proportion of grandparents is even higher. Due to different times, some elderly people have outdated knowledge and backward concepts. Although their original intention in raising children is good, the results often fail to meet expectations. So accept the knowledge of raising grandchildren. If grandparents want to be good parents, they can't just take care of their children's daily life and urge them to learn culture. Instead, they must keep pace with the times, educate their children with modern family education concepts and scientific methods, and let them develop morally, intellectually, physically and artistically. Only by constantly absorbing new knowledge, new ideas and new concepts in practice can grandparents develop their strengths and avoid weaknesses, and be good guides for the future of the motherland and the healthy growth of children. In the process of grasping the education of the intergenerational family, the working committees at all levels in our district have grasped the key points through various forms and methods to improve the quality of their ancestors in a down-to-earth manner, so that the education of the intergenerational family is full of vitality and continues to develop in depth.
(1) Commending the advanced and popularizing the experience.
In 2005, 2007, and 20 10, the district work committee commended 50 "good grandfathers" and "good grandparents and grandchildren" for creating a harmonious family. They are not only practitioners of family education, but also contribute to building a harmonious family, a harmonious community and a harmonious society. We widely publicized their advanced deeds and experiences in raising grandchildren in the whole region, and gave full play to the role of typical demonstration in driving and radiating, which effectively promoted the in-depth development of intergenerational family education.
(2) Theoretical discussion and guidance.
In the past eight years, the Working Committee of our district has carried out two special investigations, three essay discussions and invited experts and scholars to give special lectures on the education of separated generations. In the form of "the next generation family education forum", the experiences of "raising grandchildren with the words of the' four elders' at home" and "educating grandchildren how to correct their mistakes" were introduced successively. Inspire and mobilize the "four seniors" to use their brains, accumulate experience in raising grandchildren, summarize the rules of raising grandchildren, and write research articles. In recent years, the whole region has collected 67 papers on intergenerational education. After selection, 15 papers won the Excellence Award, 16 papers won the Memorial Award, 14 excellent papers were presented at the meeting, and six grandparents introduced their experiences. At the 20 10 symposium on intergenerational family education, Zhao, executive deputy director of the District Commission for Work Relations, made a special discussion on several issues, such as "Why to carry out intergenerational family education", "The position and role of five seniors in intergenerational family education" and "How to correctly handle the relationship between intergenerational education and parental education", and took the lead in theoretical discussion, so as to guide the further development of intergenerational family education.
(3) Choose the best books to improve the level.
Over the past few years, many grandparents have paid attention to accumulating experience in raising grandchildren and written a number of excellent manuscripts. In order to preserve these beneficial experiences and become a good teaching material for grandparents to raise grandchildren, in 2006, we compiled 18 excellent papers into a book, and Comrade Zhang Zaiwang, then director of the Municipal Commission for Work, personally wrote "Educating Grandchildren from Different Generations". 20 1 1, 14 the excellent papers and abstracts of the seminar on family education in the next generation were compiled into a sequel to grandparents' education in the next generation, with a total of 5000 copies, all of which were distributed to communities and schools free of charge. These excellent manuscripts have condensed the hard work of grandparents and played an important leading role in the healthy growth of teenagers' body and mind, making the intergenerational family education in the whole region compete in Qianshi.
(4) Training mode and continuous innovation.
Chentangzhuang Street Working Committee conducted a general survey of nearly 1,000 families with intergenerational education in the whole street 12 communities. Grandparents and grandparents put forward more than 20 specific learning contents such as "parenting style, mental health, communication skills, nutritious diet and role adjustment" in raising grandchildren. Some of them want to attend lectures, others suggest that the community hold training courses and want to learn from their grandchildren's experience nearby. The survey results show that grandparents have an urgent need for the guidance of intergenerational family education and have enthusiasm and enthusiasm for receiving education. In order to meet the needs of grandparents and solve their puzzles and problems in raising grandchildren, as early as 20 10, at the commendation meeting of "Good Grandparents and Good Grandparents" held by the District Working Committee, the Chentangzhuang Street Working Committee proposed to build an "intergenerational parent education school" to improve the quality of grandparents. Old comrade Wang Yong, executive deputy director of the street committee, offered 1000 yuan as part of the start-up fund. The District Working Committee immediately gave strong support and worked hard to cultivate this model in future practical work. Over the past few years, Chentangzhuang Street Working Committee has been exploring in the practice of carrying out intergenerational family education, and has taken the lead in opening the "General School of Intergenerational Parent Education School". In less than three years, the whole street 12 communities established the "every generation parent education school branch", which achieved full coverage. The teachers of "Every Generation Parent Education School" are composed of "five old" volunteers, some are experienced old teachers, some are advanced model figures in the community, and some are old comrades of the street committee. Each branch school has 2 to 3 counselors, and the registered number is 126. They collectively prepared lessons and tried to give lectures repeatedly, and gradually formed four 16 topics: education, methods, health and nutrition, and environment. So far, they have compiled tens of thousands of words of lesson plans. The "Parent Education School" of Chentangzhuang Street Committee has been established for three years, and it has achieved "five fixings", namely, "time, place, content, students and teachers" are basically fixed. According to statistics, over the past few years, 256 classes and counseling lectures have been held, and more than 6,200 parents attended the lectures. Every class is full, some grandparents take their grandparents to listen, while others let their sons and daughters listen. The "intergenerational parent education school" is becoming more and more prosperous. On 20 12 10, the working Committee of the district Committee held a "on-the-spot meeting on innovative family education" in Chentangzhuang street, which further promoted the education work in the whole district.
The "every generation parent education school" has won social recognition and praise, and news media such as Evening News, Old Age Times, City TV Station and District Cable TV Station have reported it one after another.
Third, intergenerational family education pays attention to practical results.
The development of intergenerational family education has enabled most grandparents to establish a correct concept of family education, so that they not only love their grandchildren, but also pay more attention to rational care and education of talents. They did not lose the responsibility of education and the opportunity of guidance, and realized three changes in guiding ideology.
(A) from "looking after grandchildren" to "raising grandchildren" concept change.
In the past, the old people had an old idea of raising children to guard against old age and carry on the family line, and they thought that their grandchildren were the private property of their family and loved them dearly. It is now recognized that cultivating children is not only to cultivate offspring for the family, but also to cultivate talents for the country. Educate people and educate future generations for the country. For example, the principle of raising grandchildren in Zhang Shifu, a community that respects the elderly in Dayingmen Street, is that grandparents should change the nanny-style parenting style in the past, and they should not spoil their children, let alone spoil them. We should upgrade the simple concept of "looking after grandchildren" to the concept of "raising grandchildren" and avoid paying more attention to education. Xing, a retired cadre of Ruijiang Garden Club in Jianshan Street, has four experiences: First, he attaches importance to children's early education; The second is to create a harmonious family environment; The third is to develop intelligence from children's hobbies; Fourth, pay attention to children's ideological and moral education and lead children to actively participate in community public welfare activities. His grandson, Xing, is progressive, diligent, caring for the collective and ready to help others. He was rated as "Top Ten Good Teenagers" by the community, and was admitted to Nankai Middle School "Experimental Class of Early Education Innovative Talents Training" in advance.
(2) From only raising and not teaching to combining raising and teaching.
Obviously, the first task of grandparents' parents is to teach their children to learn to be human first. It is the main theme and motto of intergenerational family education to cultivate good ideological and moral character and behavior habits and talents with both ability and political integrity. Zhao Lingjuan of Yushuiyuan Community in Meijiang Street accidentally lost her only son and daughter-in-law when her granddaughter was just one month old. She and her wife have been raising their granddaughter for 15 years. She trains her grandchildren to do three things: first, she pays attention to the cultivation of good habits of her granddaughter and lays the foundation for the healthy growth of her children; Second, pay attention to the example of ancestors everywhere, and play the role of words and deeds better than words and deeds; Third, pay attention to cultivating granddaughter's sense of gratitude, so that children can know how to repay kindness. They lit a bright heart lamp in their granddaughter's heart. His granddaughter not only knows how to be filial to her ancestors, but also says that when she grows up, she will be a volunteer for public welfare activities and repay the care of the party, government and society. Teachers and classmates call her "Sunshine Girl".
Lan Rongshan, a community in Lijiang, Donghai Street, "escorts the granddaughter's' specialty'". He trains his grandchildren to: not only "save your strength", but also make your granddaughter grow up; It is also necessary to "cultivate their hearts and stimulate their aspirations" in order to become useful. For example, when the granddaughter was 9 years old, she chose to learn Latin dance, and when she encountered difficulties and setbacks, she gave timely ideological guidance, so that the children could undergo exercise, get out of failure and move towards success; When she got trophies and medals and applause from flowers, she encouraged and guided the children to know that successful people are soaked with sweat. It's good to learn dancing well, but being a man is more important. Now the child has been admitted to Tianjin Institute of Physical Education.
(3) The change from attaching importance to wisdom over morality to all-round development.
Scientific family education should be a comprehensive education with moral education as the core and integrating children's physical quality, psychological quality and scientific and cultural quality. In this way, children can grow into qualified builders and successors to meet the needs of socialist modernization. Jing Chunling of Changsha Apartment Community in Jianshan Street not only carefully cultivates her grandchildren, but also specially gives lectures to the "five elders" in the community, which has strong influence and radiation. She believes: "Educating children is first and foremost a kind of physical and mental education. As parents, they should not only raise their children materially, but also give them meticulous education and care at the spiritual level. The words and deeds of their ancestors are role models for their children, and they should be the disseminators of their grandchildren's moral genes. " She guides children to read Chinese and foreign famous books and let them absorb knowledge. Every weekend, let the granddaughter take charge of the "power" of the family, and the children share the housework, cultivate the children's ability to work and take care of themselves, and learn to respect the work of others. The child has been rated as a three-good student at the municipal level for five consecutive years. Zhang Songlin, an old teacher of Zijin Li Nan Community in Tianta Street, guides the family education of three children, so that "teaching children to be human is the foundation of being human"; Abandon "only raising without teaching or raising without teaching"; Always adhering to the purpose of "the elderly do not lose norms". "Strictly guide children's behavior" and "melt their hearts with love" to cultivate them into a new generation with physical health, mental health and moral health. Chen's daughter and son-in-law are both deaf and dumb. She brought her three-year-old granddaughter, Li Ting, to her side and taught her to develop the habit of keeping a diary. Li Ting published six works including Silent Love in the primary school edition this evening. She joined the Hadron Club and was rated as a three-good student for four years in a row. Li Ting has been admitted to the university in advance this year. Chen said, "Although the child was born in an unfortunate family, she should learn how to strive for self-improvement in love, learn how to work hard to serve the motherland, serve the society when she grows up and contribute to the cause of the disabled."
These grandparents have made great efforts for the growth of their grandchildren, deepened their feelings and tasted the joy of educating them. It has formed a harmonious atmosphere in which grandparents and grandchildren study together and are happy together. Over the past few years, the Working Committee of our district has carried out intergenerational family education, which has enabled grandparents in the family to establish a correct educational concept in their study and practice, the educational methods are more scientific, the ability to raise grandchildren is obviously improved, and children grow up healthily in a good atmosphere.
Practice has proved that the quality and effect of education, whether parents' education or grandparents' education, are not distinguished by the difference of educational subjects, but the key lies in scientific education, which is determined by the scientific nature of education. The educational concept is correct, the educational method is scientific, and the educational quality of the intergenerational families is of course high.
Fourth, the thinking and prospect of the next generation of family education.
In years of practice, we feel that intergenerational family education needs to be done well in three aspects to adapt to the new situation of rapid economic and social development and achieve tangible results on a larger level.
(1) Constantly raise awareness and clarify the status and role of intergenerational family education.
At present, the understanding of intergenerational family education in society is not consistent. We believe that in cities, especially in rural areas, intergenerational family education is the need of real life, which is determined by China's national conditions and should be actively faced. Through eight years' practice, we have strengthened our confidence and determined to continue the activities of selecting and commending "Good Grandpa, Good Grandpa, Good Grandpa" and "Three generations of grandparents and grandchildren create a harmonious family", and organize family education seminars, lectures and seminars of different generations through various forms to publicize typical examples, carry forward the advanced and highlight the "five elders" and "five elders".
(2) Keep pace with the times and constantly improve the comprehensive quality of grandparents.
Intergenerational family education is an important part of family education. Grandparents have different educational levels and cognitive abilities, and their quality needs to be further improved. It is understood that some ancestors have relatively high comprehensive quality, but the proportion is not large; Some people have relatively low comprehensive quality, lack of professional knowledge of raising grandchildren and modern scientific and cultural knowledge, and do not know much about scientific education methods, accounting for a large proportion. Therefore, efforts should be made to improve the comprehensive quality of these people. Only by improving the comprehensive quality of grandparents' parents from these aspects can we ensure the improvement of the education quality of each generation. In addition, it is necessary to constantly improve the construction of intergenerational parent education schools. Continue to support and promote the grass-roots work committees to use community civic schools and primary and secondary school parents' schools to regularly carry out training for grandparents. Support and encourage grass-roots working committees to build intergenerational family education associations and other forms of learning platforms, improve the quality of grandparents' parents, make more families become learning, civilized and harmonious families, and create a good growth environment for children.
(3) Strengthen guidance and correctly handle the relationship between intergenerational education and parental education.
To do a good job in family education, we must deal with the relationship between intergenerational family education and parental education. It is clear that the main body of family education is parental education, and the intergenerational family education is a useful supplement to parental education. Only by truly recognizing this point can we choose a good angle and stand in a good position (the families of left-behind children in rural areas should be another matter). Focusing on the goal of educating children, grandparents and fathers perform their respective duties, cooperate closely, complement each other's advantages, promote intergenerational harmony, form educational synergy, make family education colorful, get twice the result with half the effort, and receive tangible results.