First, girls who talk as ordinary friends should understand that all the wrong things happen only because they want to hug him tightly. With possessiveness and control, love is swallowed up by desire and trouble. Selfishness makes good love disappear. If love is not what you think, but the closer you get, the more painful it is, then go back to your original position. Keep a proper distance from him and talk to him as an ordinary friend. You have hurt him, and you are not necessarily the most beautiful goddess in his mind. If you are as high-profile and powerful as before, you are too ignorant. Women should know how to shrink themselves and know that they are just a small point in the vast sea of people. No matter how much you love, others can erase you at any time. Let yourself retreat to the position of ordinary friends and speak, willing to show weakness. Only in this way can you keep a contact point. Second, don't beg for your boyfriend back. The most taboo for women is begging. A disgruntled woman, men hate it most, and immediately stay away from it. Begging for your boyfriend's attention and love can only show that your value is very low now, so low that the other person just wants to throw away cheap goods, or has no value in the other person's eyes, you know? You are easy to get in the eyes of others. Will anyone cherish you? Stop looking so pathetic. If you feel that the other person has abandoned you, you will be immersed in your own sad world and feel sorry for yourself. Please stop those useless begging. If you keep begging, no one really likes it. Pack up your sadness, make yourself look brand-new and appear in front of your boyfriend with a brand-new look. Third, sincerely say words of weakness When a woman is full of suspicion and resentment, men are unwilling to face you. He just wants to escape. At this time, don't try your best to chase him, pester him, and try to pull him back to you. No matter what you say, men ignore you. Don't force communication, otherwise it will only bring negative effects. Women should learn to accept the facts. You must admit that it is your own fault, because you are not strong enough and unreasonable enough, and it is you who make trouble. If you want to save your boyfriend, the most sincere way is to tell your true feelings and say something weak to your boyfriend. You can combine your own actual situation, such as "I have always been afraid to associate with the opposite sex." Until I met you, I wouldn't be so disgusted with being close to the opposite sex. You know how to respect others and won't make me afraid. "You want to let your boyfriend know that you feel safe around him, and giving him trust is your love for him. Fourth, if you want to save your boyfriend with humorous words, it will be better for women to use humorous words. Humor is the lubricant of emotion, and interesting souls are always welcome. When there is a problem in your relationship, you might as well change your way of thinking and entertain yourself with ridicule and self-mockery. This will not only ease the tense atmosphere, but also let the other party see your attitude. If you can still make the other person laugh, you can kill two birds with one stone. It is difficult for people to refuse a smiling person, let alone a beloved one, and solve emotional problems in a humorous way without hurting feelings but without losing elegance. Find out the real reason for your breakup. When we break up now, many people will say "we are not suitable, let's break up" or "parents don't agree". These are vague, but in fact, these are often not the real reasons for breaking up, just because I hope that we will not be so embarrassed in the future. In fact, many lovers break up because of some minor contradictions. But the most important reasons for breaking up are often the following two points: 0 1. There is no commonality. If you don't have something in common when you are with someone, and you don't cultivate them in time, then you won't last long. You have nothing to talk about and no hobbies to do together. I don't know what the other person wants, what will make the other person happy, and what is the bottom line principle of the other person. Even when the other person tells you a happy thing cheerfully, your reaction is dull, even cold water, which makes him feel very depressed. I feel that it is better to send a circle of friends and let friends who like him like it. If you are all in this situation, how can you live together 02. Put pressure on each other in the name of love. When two people are together, they will get full of pressure and dissatisfaction, which will easily lead to breaking up. For example, forcing each other to do things they don't like all day, often doubting each other, and even controlling each other's various freedoms. Although these pressures can restrain each other's behavior to a certain extent, over time, once excessive, it will also make people collapse. In addition, some people think that they are each other's love, constantly do things that the other person hates in the name of love, constantly exceed each other's bottom line, and finally break up. Whenever someone who really loves but is finally abandoned comes to consult, we are always more eager to make her happy again than the client. Breaking up is not the result of one or two things. You need to explain and let us know the cause and effect, so that we can give you accurate analysis and guidance. Second, in order to save your boyfriend, you need to do this. 0 1. What savings preparations should be made at the opening stage? Some sisters may be confused when they see this. Do you need to prepare savings? I can honestly tell you that it is necessary. No matter what you face, you shouldn't fight an unprepared war. This is irresponsible to yourself. Before saving, you should ask yourself whether you really want to save each other and for what purpose. You must make it clear at the opening stage. Different saving purposes will lead to different saving results. For example, if you want to get back at each other from the beginning, you will feel angry no matter what you do. This process will be very hard for you, because you need to be with each other sincerely, but it obviously goes against your true wishes. You just want each other to try to feel abandoned, not together. Even if you succeed in getting back at each other, what will you get in the end? So, if you don't have a clear idea, you want to stay with each other all the time. Then I advise you not to choose to save it, otherwise it will only make yourself more miserable, which is not what we want to see. In addition, you should be mentally prepared. I can understand the pain of your recent breakup, but if you have been immersed in a sad mood and then want to prove yourself by digging your heart and lungs, and "selling bad" will arouse the sympathy of the other party, so as to achieve the purpose of redemption, I suggest you stop this operation. No one wants to be with a person full of negative emotions, even if the other person will be with you because of temporary weakness, how can you get along with the other person? Do you want to continue to bind each other with your own misery? In this way, not only can you not get the love you want, but you will also turn yourself into a dissatisfied housewife who he fled again. So, accept the fact of breaking up and let yourself get back into life. Redemption is not to let you go back to your old feelings, but to start a basic love again. And to do this, you must first become a positive person. Of course, I understand that you love him too much and are too eager to get his care and love. You really don't have to use tears and complaints. 02. Mid-term stage: How to correctly save your boyfriend's heart? After you are ready to save it, how should you start the action of saving it? There are two important and difficult points to pay attention to. The first difficulty: face it calmly and don't entangle it. Many friends have a wrong habit when saving, that is, to save by solving contradictions when they are in love. For example, constantly pestering each other to let them know that they are really wrong, or all kinds of swearing, or even self-harm. If you want to save love in this way, then I suggest you stop at once. Your feelings will be separated, which means that you have contradictions that can't be solved at the moment. If you still repair your feelings as before, you must know how much you can get. This is the difficulty of recovery. If you can't control your sense of need well, your recovery will become more difficult. I can understand your eagerness to save each other's feelings, but haste makes waste. In the cases I took over, there are many cases that broke a good situation because of entanglement. The second difficulty: jump out of the comfort zone and change yourself. The second difficulty in saving my boyfriend is to jump out of the existing comfort zone and really change yourself. Some friends may ask, why should I change myself? Is there anything wrong with him? There will be problems in your relationship, and there must be problems in the way you get along. From this perspective, in fact, you both have problems. But can you ask him to correct it for you when you save it? Obviously you can't. So you can only do one more step, that is, change yourself first to make yourself more valuable, and then let the other person change for you with your charm, so that you can really save his heart. This is also what I often call "secondary attraction". Your value is the foundation of the whole relationship, and the higher the value, the higher the attraction, and the beginning of each relationship is based on attraction, so as to better find the feelings you want, instead of looking for anyone casually. Any recovery is inseparable from self-improvement. However, many girls have no guiding light on the road to recovery. Do you really need to keep your attitude down indefinitely and completely change it? No, actually, he's in love with you. Being with you means that you have a bright spot in his heart. All separations are due to the problem of getting along with each other, and the man can't see the direction of improvement for a long time, which leads to the breakup. Therefore, what really needs to be changed is the self-restraint that hinders the future mode of getting along. This has changed. When he has a chance to feel it, he will come back for you himself. 03. Closing the net stage: How to warm up your feelings When you are attractive to the other party, and the other party does not exclude you, you should seize the opportunity to warm up your feelings again. At this time you need to make a reasonable invitation. So what should you do? First of all, your invitation must come from no demand. You can't have a strong sense of need to invite each other, just like the feeling of not giving up when you see each other, which will only make the other person afraid to see you. You can put forward an opinion about no demand, such as "I went to a good restaurant last time, which was delicious. Are you interested in going with me? Instead of "I want to take you to a delicious restaurant. ".Secondly, the cost of meeting at the dating site is lower. What can I say? It is the place you choose in order to save the other party's cost and increase the success rate of the other party's promise to meet you. For example, you can choose a place close to him or a place he is interested in. Finally, pay attention to the words used in chatting. You should put yourself in the position of "ordinary friend". Don't take the initiative to mention emotional things, let alone make compound demands on each other, which is likely to make your efforts go to waste. Redemption is not a one-off event, it needs to be done step by step. After your date, if things get better, you can keep in touch. When I say keep in touch, I don't mean talking to each other a lot when you go back that day, but keep in touch after this date. For example, you can ask the other party for a little help and strengthen contact. But if the situation is not as expected, then you have to find out why. Personally, I don't recommend you to operate it yourself, because it is very risky. If we do it without finding out the real reason, it is likely to develop into a very serious negative situation. It is not recommended to ask your best friend. After all, only you know that he is irreplaceable to you. So I suggest you find a professional love rescue tutor to guide you.