Family education plays a vital role in children's growth, but for most parents, they may not know how to educate their children.
Perhaps many times, when watching others educate their children, there is endless nagging and a kind of arrogant attitude of onlookers, but when you are really a parent, you may also enter such a misunderstanding. Don't admit it.
Parents are committed to their children's happiness. Therefore, parents' nagging is also based on children's good. Many times, it can be described as "thinking about change when you are poor", but the kindness of parents may not be appreciated by children, but they are more and more disgusted with us.
In the eyes of children, they may feel that their parents' nagging is just like Tang Yan's, which is very annoying. But parents don't know, but it's getting worse. Parents don't know yet. This kind of education may become a stumbling block to the healthy growth of children and make them more rebellious.
Although parents' nagging is for children, it may make children drag their feet and muddle along.
Many times, parents' excessive nagging will become a psychological burden for children. When children do things, the first thing they think of may be their parents' nagging, which makes them more vacillating in their actions and thoughts, but makes them easy to make mistakes and become procrastinating and dawdling.
In addition, parents' excessive nagging may be to remind their children to avoid making mistakes, but parents may make their children ignore their own mistakes and the impact of mistakes, and instead pay more attention to their parents' nagging.
So what should we do to make children grow up healthily?
Actively guide
On the road of children's growth, we should encourage children more, give them positive affirmation and see their bright spots. Because there are no children, I don't want to be affirmed and praised by my parents. Active guidance may be easier for children to accept than nagging.
Let children realize the difference between procrastination and efficiency.
Parents' constant nagging is actually to make children efficient. Therefore, parents may wish to change their nagging, let their children know the difference between procrastination and efficiency in words, and let them understand the purpose of parental education and guidance more directly. When children deeply understand the benefits of doing things efficiently, they will do things spontaneously and efficiently.
Cultivate children's concept of time
Children's procrastination, in fact, is often a manifestation of a weak sense of time. Parents' constant reminders and nagging, although aimed at giving children a sense of time, are a little different.
Because if children have no sense of time and always need parents to remind them, then no matter how nagging and reminding parents, children may still have no sense of time.
Therefore, when educating children, instead of nagging, it is better to clarify the time for doing homework for children, and gradually help children cultivate a good schedule, so that children can become time-conscious and do things more actively and efficiently.
Parents lead by example.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. No matter how parents say it, they might as well start from themselves and set an example in front of their children. Children live with themselves and often learn from each other. Many problems and problems of children are actually learned from their parents. If you want to educate your children well, you need to set an example by yourself, set an example for your children and set an example by yourself. Actually, that's it.