Two different families, which is the hotbed of modern children's happy future?
I remember Professor Li, a juvenile legal researcher, said in a program that the best family education is not in strict father, but in strict father.
Why did she say that? It can be roughly divided into the following three aspects. First, the tolerance of children, whether it is a boy or a girl, has a loving father at home, and children will be more tolerant and kind when they treat the world.
Children who live in a strict family with their fathers often have violent personality potential, and they are grumpy and impatient when dealing with problems.
Second, self-confidence and strength If the child's father is a warm and powerful person, most children will grow into a warm and powerful person like me.
The strength of these people is not reflected in behavior, but in psychology. In other words, children's inner strength will make them confident, patient, safe and elegant.
On the contrary, parents who are often strict with their children often make their children lose their inner sense of security, make them feel inferior and even angry.
Third, a principled and free father is relatively kind, and children will have greater freedom. Mother's strictness is the principle for children to do things.
On the contrary, if the father sets strict principles for the child, the child is likely to be relatively rebellious or excessively docile, and the tenderness of the mother will become a place for the child to escape. This will make children form an escape personality. Therefore, it is better to make children more principled and have more freedom in their hearts. The best house should have a loving, strict and disciplined mother and a gentle and powerful father, and then be humorous.
But there are still differences between families, so we can't ask for the same. Therefore, whether our family structure is "loving mother in strict father" or "loving father in strict father", as long as children benefit and grow up in a good environment, it is commendable.
However, in the next aspect, parents must be cautious. These family models had better not be too close.
First, the father makes money to support the family, and the mother concentrates on taking care of the children.
It is really not easy to make money outside in modern society, which leads to the situation that fathers spend little time with their children. This has a great influence on children. No matter what personality a child is, he needs the training and guidance of his father when he grows up, but if the mother of a family is overworked, her feelings will be affected and she will get out of control. This unstable mood has a great influence on children's psychology.
Second, fathers with different educational concepts think that children need more opportunities to play before going to school. Mother thinks that children should learn a lot when they are young. The education of husband and wife is not unified, which leads to the children being at a loss and unable to find the north. Their brains are in a mess and they don't know what to do. It is better to observe the state of parents more. A mother is on her father's side when she is happy, and a father is a mother when she is happy.
Such children can easily be educated as "half-baked rice".
Third, in a strict and loving family relationship between two people, parents stand on the same side, which easily leads to too much freedom in the process of children's growth. On the one hand, it is strict, on the other hand, it is kind, on the other hand, it is bad face, and the child is relaxed.
Please refer to the above contents for learning. Please proceed under the guidance of experts. On the road of parenting, we are all beginners. How to take care of children, pay attention to me and discuss parenting with me.
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