First, information limitations. In the past, when a child had psychological problems in family education, such as losing control of emotions and behaviors, we thought he was mentally ill and labeled him as a madman, but few people realized that they might suffer from depression and bipolar disorder. Of course, these concepts of mental illness have not been popularized in the past, which is one of the reasons why we think that children in the past will not be beaten and scolded because of the limitation of information.
Second, the limitations of communication. With the development of Internet and intelligent technology, we have entered an era when almost everyone is a media person. The spread of information is fast and wide, which makes us see more life in different corners. It is the spread of information on the internet that makes us realize that so many children have been psychologically hurt by rude education. More than a decade ago, many children who were in emotional difficulties because of beating and scolding education sought help from the outside world even if they resisted, and their experience was very narrow. We can't see them. This is the second reason why we think that children in the past will avoid being beaten and scolded because of communication restrictions.
Third, the limitations of food and clothing. In the past, the economic development was slow, and many families did not have enough to eat. In order to make a living, parents often have a bad temper. Because of the big environment, most children choose to suppress themselves to adapt, and even convince themselves that "it is for my own good to beat me and scold me." Coupled with the difficulty of getting enough food and clothing for three meals a day, many children care more about material needs than spiritual needs. This is the third reason why we think that children in the past will not have an accident if they beat and scold.
Fourth, mental health attaches importance to limitations. This is a supplement to the third point. The so-called economic base determines the superstructure. In the past, the economic base was too low, and people didn't pay attention to mental health. Many children have psychological problems in beating and scolding education, but they are not taken seriously. Instead, they will be accused of being "rebellious", "baiwenhang" and "unfilial". If the child has extreme behavior and an accident, parents may be superstitious and think that the child is possessed, instead of admitting that the child has mental health problems. This is the fourth reason why we think that children in the past will not have an accident because of mental health restrictions.
In short, it's not that children didn't have an accident before, but the limitations of the times, such as the limitations of information; Communication restrictions; Limited food and clothing; Mental health attaches importance to limitations and children's self-awareness. And children's problems are ignored and ignored.
Here, I hope that parents can realize that beating and scolding education is not a healthy and positive way of education in the process of educating their children. Many times, beating and cursing can really make children realize that they can't do this in a short time, but they can't know why they can't do this. This is why some children will make the same mistake again and again after beating and cursing. As the saying goes, it is better to teach people to fish and educate their children. I hope everyone can have more patience and methods and take the initiative to learn some educational psychology and skills. This is not only responsible for children, but also for ourselves.