Finally, this disagreement about education has become a confrontation between husband and wife, and the more noisy it is, the more fierce it is ... In the process of children's growth, the cultivation of good habits and the establishment of excellent character depend on the teaching of parents. In a family, when parents disagree, children will lose respect for the rules. This kind of parenting education does not create rules for children; This kind of child, moral concept can not be produced.
Good dad, don't "sing the opposite", but "be in tune". I once saw a short video on the Internet, and this Bao Da named "Congratulations to Dad" became popular overnight. What makes people can't help praising him? Originally, the father's method of dealing with the contradiction between his wife and children can be called a textbook. When the mother was instructing her children's homework, they had an argument because of a math problem. Dad thinks it's no big deal, and he is trying to be a peacemaker and persuade his mother not to be angry with the child, but he thinks clearly that no matter what happens, he must unite with his wife.
So he immediately said to the child, "Did you make your mother angry again?" "Do I have to have a hug from my father?" She let the children vent their emotions first and then comforted her wife. You can talk to your children after you have made a unified proposal with your wife in private. My father's handling method has attracted the attention of netizens. It is very important for parents to have a unified and clear sense of output and create a sense of morality and rules for their children. As Professor Li Meijin, an education expert, said, "It only takes one voice to control children." In the face of difficulties, as a father, the right thing to do is to stand at the same point with my mother and tell my children that my mother is right and we will all listen to her!
The best way of family education is: mom has the final say. She once brushed an interesting video: a little boy was naughty and broke the flowers and leaves in the living room. Afraid of being punished by his mother, he took the initiative to hit the wall. While he is willing to correct his mistakes, he also peeks at his mother's expression from time to time. At this time, the father saw his son admit his mistake voluntarily, and said humorously, "You said you showed off in an ostentatious manner and I was afraid of your mother ..." Dad seemed to have no intention of adjusting the atmosphere, but revealed the teaching method of this family: Mom decided at home and Dad would always support her. Unsuccessful culture and education are different and unsuccessful, but good education is always so similar.
Coincidentally, the famous actor Hooke once told a story about his and his wife Sun Li's education for their children in a program: many people don't like learning piano very much, and often have negative emotions. Seeing a lot of pouting, Sun Li said sternly, "Don't do this, practice again ..." At this time, Hooke would go away involuntarily and never interfere, but let Sun Li solve it. Of course, this is decided by the mother, which does not mean that education is the responsibility of the mother alone. It can't be said that mom's handling method must be obvious to all. As a father, as long as the general direction of mother's cultural education for children is correct, then we should unswervingly stand on the mother's position and implement the mother's decision-making and core ideas. The division of responsibilities and responsibilities between parents are different. From a scientific and reasonable point of view, mom can be the leader and dad can be the executor. On the road of teaching, no one can be completely correct. Only when parents twist into a rope can they help their children grow up healthily and happily.