Whether a person can gain something on his own life path and carry out his life and work smoothly depends largely on his mental health. Whether a person's mental health depends on whether everything goes well on his growth path and whether there are some psychological problems on the spot, so his childhood growth experience becomes particularly important. At this stage of childhood, some children spend their time at home. The other part is spent with classmates and teachers at school. They not only learn knowledge at school, but also have various interpersonal relationships with students and teachers. As a primary school teacher, we should think about how to make students form good psychological quality in school study and life. We often see and hear on TV or other media news that some children who should go to school have one thing or another in society, and nothing they do that is exposed by the media is what we are happy to see. Why do children do these things nowadays? All of us can't help but sigh, what's wrong with children now? What's the problem? In fact, these are reminding parents and schools not only to pay attention to the education of students' knowledge and skills, but also to pay attention to children's psychology and what they really need. First, look for the reasons why students have problems. Parents are the first teachers of the children. When children first come into contact with the world, they will learn from their parents and see what their parents do and how to handle a thing. Therefore, what parents do will have a great influence on their children. Parents' views and opinions on external things will become the yardstick for children to look at and evaluate things, and parents will become the objects they imitate. Parents' attitude towards children will affect children's attitude towards things. Nowadays, society is generally an only child. There are little emperors and princesses at home, and they are spoiled and accommodated at home. These make most children form a self-centered habit when they think about problems. When children grow up, they come to school, start school life and start collective life. Their world began to change, and it was no longer an environment where a child was surrounded by several parents. When they have conflicts with their classmates, their parents either don't pursue their children's mistakes at all when dealing with their children's problems, and don't cultivate their children's correct moral values. Either they don't pay attention to the educational methods, scold at every turn, or even punch and kick, and solve problems in the so-called "violent way", which will cause great psychological trauma to children and have a bad influence.
In addition, when children start school life, they no longer have long-term game activities as before, instead of playing games, they study in chunks. Children's psychological development has changed from children's play to children's learning activities. Parents began to pay attention to their children's learning with a feeling of expecting their children to succeed. At this time, children will have different degrees of pressure in their hearts. If children and parents handle these pressures well, they will not have an impact on children. If not handled properly, it will have a great negative impact on children's future study and life. In that way
It is not only parents who have an influence on children, but also teachers have an important influence on the development of students to a certain extent. When a person cannot change the outside world, he will adjust his heart to adapt to the outside world. When students can't change the external reality of school, they will adapt to school life. If a student has a teacher who knows how to educate students, they will be very happy and lucky. Every child makes mistakes. When they make mistakes, if the teacher's methods are improper, they will be afraid of teachers, parents, schools, even teachers, schools and learning, which will lead to weariness. They didn't like learning at first, and they were perfunctory about everything. Someone once conducted a questionnaire survey on 150 students. In this survey report, 30% of students are caused by poor grades, while 60% of students are caused by improper methods or indifference of parents. Therefore, parents and teachers play a very important role in children's growth.
How to make students not only learn knowledge at school, but also feel the love of school teachers, so that they can feel that school is not only a place to learn cultural knowledge, but also a place to trust and grow? I think some methods, the following are only one-sided, I hope to give guidance.
First, give students a relaxed study space and a pleasant study environment. Children are not only students, but also social people. For students, they should not only learn the knowledge of the school, but also have the opportunity to contact more extracurricular knowledge. Therefore, it is necessary to give students a reasonable position, break through the shackles of the four corners of the campus, put students in the melting pot of society to study and live, and let students grow up healthily in constant innovation. This is the responsibility of every educator. Our teaching is limited, and we should change to open social education. Socialization is a process of active acceptance and participation. In this process, let students gradually and accurately outline the coordinates of the external world, determine their own position and role, and grasp their own guidance and direction, so as to expand their spiritual world in the goal of socialization. From the perspective of health psychology, we must let students get out of the narrow school space, participate in social practice and engage in social activities, so that students can fully integrate into social knowledge learning, which can cultivate the habit of students' active participation and practice. Every teacher should improve teaching according to students' needs, cultivate students' innovative ability and create space for students to form healthy psychology. Second, create a democratic and harmonious spiritual environment for education and teaching.
Psychologist Suhomlinski made such a vivid and appropriate metaphor for the relationship between cognition and emotion: "Emotion is like fertile land, and the seeds of knowledge are planted in this land." On the other hand, without the "fertile soil" of "emotion", the fruit of "good development" will not bear fruit. The spiritual environment of campus education and teaching refers to the relationship between people and the spirit and atmosphere of campus, including the humanistic factors of primary school students' life, study and play.
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(A) to strengthen communication with students, to understand the psychological strength of students.
In my teaching life, I will encounter such a situation. Some things are well known among students, but we never know them. It is difficult for teachers to understand students' psychology, and it is rare for students to express their ideas to teachers for no reason. This requires each of our teachers to often go deep into the classroom, make use of appropriate opportunities and places, let students freely express their thoughts and feelings, understand their psychological status quo, and carry out their work in a targeted manner. In addition, our teachers should also change their mentality, change the condescending authoritative attitude in the past, communicate with students with friendly faces and equal and harmonious tone, and shorten the "heart distance" between teachers and students. In such an atmosphere where personality is respected, emotions are understood, behaviors are encouraged and efforts are affirmed, students can fully release their potential creative energy, express their thoughts and feelings without any worries, and naturally express their doubts.
(2) Respect every student and pay attention to their psychological development.
I have heard a saying that when a student feels that the teacher is educating him, the teacher's education is a failure. Therefore, teachers must show their true selves in front of students and treat each student with sincere love in order to make students feel true and credible. Let students feel the tranquility of education. Montessori said: "A teacher is not only a teacher, but also a psychologist, because he wants to guide children's life and mind." Understanding is an important principle to carry out mental health education. Learn to put yourself in the other's shoes and think from the students' point of view. Adults are eager to understand, and children are more eager to understand. Many successful educational cases tell us that there is no education without understanding. Only by getting to know our students through various channels can we achieve the goal of successful education. One-on-one conversation with students is one of the effective methods of psychological education for students. Through individual heart-to-heart, we can find and master some students' bad psychology, and then "prescribe the right medicine" Through patient and meticulous work, we can effectively adjust students' psychology, help them overcome their own shortcomings and promote them to develop good psychological quality. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory holds that human needs are divided into five levels: physiological needs, security needs, love and belonging needs, respect needs and self-realization needs. Whether a person is respected or not is related to his mental health. Growing students are more sensitive and vulnerable and need to be respected. As teachers, we should always remember that educators and educatees are equal in personality despite their different roles. Teachers should manage classes democratically and treat every student equally on the premise of ensuring normal teaching work. "Does the student respect the teacher" is the primary condition for the class teacher to evaluate a student's moral character. Has the class teacher asked himself "Do I respect the student?" Respecting students includes respecting students' personality, respecting students' labor, respecting students' achievements and respecting students' privacy. Those students with psychological barriers often don't feel their own value. These students can only accept themselves if they are accepted by others. He will feel the same way if the teacher doesn't respect him.
If you don't have self-esteem, you should insist on positive education and guidance for those students with psychological obstacles and try not to criticize them in public. Practice shows that only by starting from respect can students open their hearts and receive good psychological education, cultural education and skills education, which has become the first need for people's survival and development and the wealth that will benefit them all their lives, and even determine their fate. 58. Advertising measures can only be effective. Let go of the teacher's lofty airs, create a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere for them, communicate with students as friends, and exchange sincerity for sincerity, so that students can truly feel that you are his friend, and then they can go deep into their inner world and accept your sincere opinions and suggestions. (3) Pour one's true love into students, and enhance the feelings between teachers and students.
The most basic requirement to realize the psychological integration between teachers and students is sincere investment, that is, the investment of love between teachers and students. Teachers should pay more attention to those vulnerable groups and students with psychological problems. Because these students are often depressed, unbalanced, withdrawn and psychologically fragile for one reason or another. When students encounter things that are not satisfactory, they will have bad emotions and have a certain impact on their study and life. How can we minimize the impact of student demotion? This requires our teachers to understand students deeply, listen to their inner feelings, perceive their inner world, care for and care for each student with their sincere love, so that their hearts can be pinned, their emotions can be confided and their spirits can be relied on. When students encounter difficulties in study and setbacks in family life, teachers should help them, comfort them and have a heart-to-heart talk in time. Teachers should listen to their complaints patiently with a sincere attitude and let them vent their depressed emotions. When students need care and help, teachers should lend a helping hand in time to help students, inspire their young hearts and convince students that they can do it. Let the students express their true feelings and say their true thoughts. In this way, teachers can understand students' real inner world and have a spiritual dialogue with students.
In short, mental health education should be strengthened in school education and teaching. Implementing mental health education is the premise and foundation for students to form good psychological quality. Only by forming a healthy psychology can students develop well in other aspects and grow into talents who benefit the country and the people.