Among them, family education is an important part of life education and the earliest place for children to receive education, which affects the formation of children's character and the improvement of their behavior quality and plays a decisive role in children's life development.
As we all know, the main responsibility of family education lies with parents. Chen Heqin, a famous educator and child educator in modern China, said: "Children are born ignorant and don't know what is good and what is bad. His every move can be said to be influenced by heredity, restricted by environment and dominated by education. When I was a child, the most important factor in the environment was my parents, and the most important factor in upbringing was probably my parents. " It can be seen that the fate of children, in a sense, is really in the hands of parents, and every parent of us can't ignore this.
So, what can we do to do a good job in family education and be a qualified parent? In fact, as early as 19 19, Mr. Lu Xun had discussed children's education. When talking about family education, he thinks that "children are not my own people", and there are three steps to educate children, namely "understanding", "guidance" and "liberation". This may be difficult to understand, but let's listen to a story first
The story of the Prime Minister and the prisoner is about sharing apples.
The reporter interviewed a liar and asked him how he got on the road of fraud. The prisoner said that when he was a child, his mother had bought many apples, one of which was very big and red, and he and his brothers were fighting for the big apple. His mother was very angry: "Why are you so selfish?" You should leave this big apple to others! That's a good boy! "After hearing this, the prisoner immediately changed his mind and said," Mom, I want this smallest one and this big one for my brothers! ""Mother was very moved, put her arms around the prisoner and gave him the biggest Apple Award because he was a good boy. The prisoner recalled that I lied, but I got what I wanted. From then on, I learned to use all kinds of deception to get what I want.
The story of the Prime Minister begins with sharing apples. The difference is that when the children are fighting for the biggest apple, his mother holds it in her hand and says, "You all want the biggest apple, but there is only one apple, and you can only give it to one person!" Well, there are many weeds in the garden. I will divide the grass into several parts, one for each of you. Whoever pulls out the weeds first will get the apple! " As a result, the prime minister pulled it out first, and he naturally got the apple. From then on, he knew that he had to work hard if he wanted what he wanted. So he has been trying to do what he should do, and he has achieved today's achievements without slacking off his efforts.
Although this is only a story, the practice of two mothers is thought-provoking, and different family education methods eventually lead to different lives for their children.
How can I be a qualified parent? We often ask, what should a good family education look like? As parents, we haven't studied systematically, but only have a little knowledge of the so-called experience gained from others. Is it suitable for our children? Is it possible to cultivate an excellent child by giving the best to the child? It turns out that it can't. Good family education is informal. Parents should study more, think more and try more, which takes a long process. But one thing is the same, and that is to create a good family atmosphere for children.
First, let children have a harmonious and warm home.
The harmony of a family, especially the love of parents, has a great, profound and lasting impact on children's mental health and heart, and is also the main source of positive energy for children. Home, for us, should be a sheltered place, a place full of love. In family education, it is very necessary to create such an environment for children to feel warm and loving.
Second, parents are the best role models for children.
Parents are children's first teachers and their first role models. Every child will imitate his parents from the beginning of learning English. Parents' words and deeds, even preferences and habits, have a subtle influence on children. A good family education means not only asking children how to do this, but also paying attention to their words and deeds, being strict with themselves and setting a good example for them.
Third, equality and respect are the premise of family education.
Good family education should not be about controlling children, but should be good at listening to children's ideas, adopting their correct opinions in time, and creating a democratic, equal and relaxed family environment. This respect for children's personality can not only enhance their self-confidence, but also protect their free imagination and innovative thinking to the maximum extent.
Fourth, the formation of good habits is an important part of good family education.
Good habits are tempered bit by bit. Whether it is behavior habit or study habit, when everything forms inertia, it will produce great energy. It is irreplaceable for parents to cultivate their children's self-care, self-reliance and self-awareness. Children's own affairs must be faced by themselves and solved independently. Parents can help their children for a while, but they can't help him for a lifetime. We should cultivate children to keep up with low standards in life and self-discipline with high standards in doing things. Good habits will benefit children for life.
Fifth, the correct way of communication is to open the key to children's hearts.
When children grow up, they pay attention to their inner growth. Parents should pay more attention to his thoughts and children's emotional changes and ideological fluctuations. Therefore, communication is extremely necessary. Some parents feel that there is a generation gap between their children and themselves and they are not willing to communicate at all. In fact, you can ask yourself, have you really tried to understand him and entered his heart? Only by opening your heart to your child with equal respect and putting your child and yourself on an equal footing can real communication become a reality, otherwise everything will be just empty talk. When we understand and master the children's real thoughts, and really walk into the children's hearts, we can achieve enlightenment, education and guidance, so that children's mental health, spiritual sunshine, full of upward pursuit and motivation.
As a discipline, family education has been studied in China in recent years, and many parents know nothing about it, but we all agree that as parents, we love our children, and we also hope that our children will succeed and become excellent people in the future! Then we need to constantly enrich ourselves, do a good job in family education and be a qualified good parent!