Many parents think that their children will appreciate such efforts and will be filial to themselves in turn when they grow up, but often things will develop in the opposite direction.
Now that the material conditions are getting better and better, parents can't wait to pick all the stars and the moon and put them in the hands of their little princess and prince, just to win their smile.
It is precisely because of the unconditional love of parents that many children become more and more arrogant and unruly. There are many reports that children do not respect their parents and even beat and scold them.
Recently, such a thing happened in my neighborhood, and I am familiar with the frequent discussions after dinner. Let me give you an example to warn you.
The protagonist of the incident is a nine-year-old boy and his mother. One morning, the boy and his mother cooked breakfast and called him over for dinner. As soon as he saw it was sweet potato porridge, he knocked it over and shouted at his mother.
The mother thought that the child got up angry and didn't feel very sad. She chose to comfort him, but he said on the other hand, I like meat pies. Don't you know what to do if you can't even cook well without eating these things?
Hearing this, my mother burst into tears, and my neighbors came in to persuade me when they heard the noise. In fact, she loves her children's neighbors. In recent years, she broke her heart for her children's three meals a day, resigned to study all kinds of delicious food, and now she has such a heartless accusation.
Many people in the society have expressed their views on this matter, and some even said, "An ungrateful child is a wolf in human skin. When he grows up, it will make the whole family restless. "
In fact, children's bad temper is cultivated from an early age, and the root of the problem lies in parents' educational methods, such as the following.
(1) parents' inaction
Children are still young, and many things need parents' patient education and guidance, but we are all parents for the first time, and no one knows how to instill such gratitude and filial piety in our children. Only when we really love them can we feel that when we grow up, we will naturally be filial.
However, many things will not develop like this as parents think. If parents have been indifferent to their children's bad habits, it will be more difficult for them to correct them when they grow up.
For example, when eating, many children sit at the dining table, waiting for their parents to hand them chopsticks to take their meals. When the food is not delicious, they will complain. At this time, parents choose silence.
Don't tell children to help their parents set their seats with bowls, chopsticks, etc. Or when you forget where your homework is, you say your parents are moving when you are in a hurry. At this time, parents also silently bear, do not resist, do not educate, unreasonable. In fact, this behavior really shouldn't be.
2 children are too rebellious.
Nowadays, children are becoming more and more independent, especially with the popularity of electronic products, children's minds have matured very early, and sometimes they can learn poorly with mobile phones and computers.
Parents like to play the devil's advocate whenever they say anything. Even if parents say something about being children, they don't listen. In a rage, the two sides began to quarrel, which made the relationship worse and worse.
Educating children is a very troublesome thing, and it can't be too loose or too strict. Every parent needs to constantly adjust his plan according to his child's personality.
How can we cultivate a grateful child?
set a good example
Parents play a vital role in making children filial to their parents and grateful. Everything parents say and do is what children see in their daily lives.
If the elderly are still at home, as parents, we must remember to set a good example for our children. We must not forget the old people and remember to go home often during holidays. No matter how busy you are at work, you can't forget to call your children's grandparents. You should cultivate family values with your children.
Especially female friends, as daughters-in-law, will definitely have conflicts with in-laws. They should learn tolerance and understanding, and the elderly should listen patiently. Don't argue face to face, let your children see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts, and they will learn how to treat their parents in the future.
② Patient communication
Now that children have their own ideas, parents must learn communication skills. If a child doesn't do something or does something unsatisfactory, on the one hand, he can't keep his dissatisfaction in his heart, on the other hand, he can't swear and hit the child as soon as he opens his mouth. He should patiently reason with his own feelings.
For example, if you want your child to help you with things or cleaning, you can ask your child if he has time and be modest and kind. You can't take it for granted that parents should let their children work and both sides should respect each other.
In the more than ten years when children grow into adults, each stage will give parents new problems. Face difficulties and learn to find tricks. I believe that each of our parents can find a balance with their children and create a beautiful and happy family together.