In fact, Jordan high school was eliminated by the school team, which was very depressing. And his mother just said to him: go back to school and train well. So, just like his mother said, he really leaves home at 6 o'clock every morning and uses the time before class to practice. Later, I went to the University of North Carolina and constantly made up for my weaknesses-defensive action, ball control and shooting.
Once, after the team lost the last game of the playoffs, Jordan practiced shooting for several hours to prepare for the next year's game. Even the coach is surprised that he is far better than others. In the end, he became a sports genius in everyone's eyes.
For Jordan, tough will and determination are stronger than some physical advantages, which is his growth thinking.
Carol Dwek, a famous American psychologist, published a book in 20 17, which attracted the attention of the whole psychological and educational circles. The name of this book is Lifelong Growth, which subverts the traditional concept of success and is a psychological inspirational work that has influenced a generation. American Amazon psychology bestseller has been on the list for 10 years, and has been well received by Time Magazine, Good Morning America and Wall Street Journal.
What book is this?
Let's first look at the author Carol Dwek, who is recognized as one of the outstanding scholars in the fields of personality psychology, social psychology and developmental psychology. William Lansford, a former professor of psychology at Columbia University, is currently a Lewis and Virginia Eaton professor of psychology at Stanford University and a member of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences.
20 17 she made an important discovery through her own research: your little faith can guide a large part of your life. In other words, just the way you think can change your life.
Carol Dweck compiled these research contents into a book, Lifelong Growth.
The content of the book is divided into three parts, which respectively put forward two common thinking modes: fixed thinking and growth thinking, why top figures in different fields succeed and how to change their thinking modes.
Imagine a scene where you go to an important class and you like it very much. Your professor announced the mid-term exam results, and you got C+. You left your bus card in the car on the way back. When you go back, you want to call your friend and talk, but no one answers.
What's on your mind at this time?
Most people may think: I feel rejected, I am a loser, I am a fool, and I am the most unfortunate person in the world. This is a fixed mode of thinking, and they will measure their value by every little thing that happens in their lives.
Some people will think like this: It seems that I have to work harder in class, find out what I still don't learn well and continue to improve.
Next time, put the bus card in a safer place and put it back every time you use it.
My friend didn't answer the phone. I don't know if I had a bad day.
This is growth thinking.
No one likes bad things, but people who grow up thinking mode will not label themselves and will not lose confidence in themselves. Even if they are depressed, they are ready to take risks and face challenges.
To sum up, the idea of fixed thinking mode is to think that one's talent is immutable.
The idea of growth thinking is that your basic ability can be cultivated through hard work.
Which mode of thinking do you think is easier to achieve goals and succeed?
Maybe you still think that things like intelligence and talent are innate. Let's see what the experts say.
Robert Robert Jeffrey Sternberg, an authority in the field of contemporary intelligence research, once wrote that a certain specialty of human beings is not determined by a fixed innate ability, but acquired through purposeful exercise. Even the French psychologist alfred binet, the inventor of IQ test, supports this view. Why are there differences between people? The reasons for this situation are people's different backgrounds, experiences, education and learning methods.
Why do some people just stubbornly prove their abilities and talents over and over again, unable to forgive mistakes and failures, while others are keen on learning and constantly improving themselves? In the final analysis, it is the difference of thinking mode.
When you enter a mode of thinking, you enter a new world. In a world where everyone's ability is fixed, you need to constantly prove your worth. In a world where abilities can be changed, you need to constantly learn new knowledge and develop your talents.
Speaking of which, I thought of Miss Yu again.
He took the college entrance examination for the first time and scored only 33 points in English. His target college is Changshu Teachers College, and the two exams are still out of reach.
So he returned to his hometown in the countryside, doing farm work while continuing to review under the faint kerosene lamp. Although his college entrance examination score has improved, there is still a long way to go from the admission line of the target institution. The villagers began to laugh at his overreaching and called him a college student to his face, but he still buried himself in his studies.
A year later, he took the college entrance examination for the third time. This time, I received an admission notice from Peking University and was admitted to the Department of Western Languages of Peking University.
After arriving at Peking University, he was the only rural student in his class, wearing patched clothes all day. At that time, the PE teacher directly called him "big patch". His poor pronunciation is often laughed at by his classmates.
But none of this scared him. If Mandarin is not good, learn to speak with the radio announcer. His English is not good. He sits by an unknown lake and recites words every day. Gradually, his English level has been greatly improved.
Later, I graduated, became an English teacher and founded New Oriental.
All the final achievements are due to his inner thoughts: these can be changed through hard work.
If he thinks he just can't get into college, then give up the college entrance examination. If he thinks his pronunciation can't be changed, he will fall into the abyss of inferiority.
So how can we cultivate our own growth thinking mode?
First of all, we should start from ourselves. When encountering difficulties and challenges, we should search our inner thoughts to see if we can evaluate and define ourselves with a fixed vision. Constant practice can make us jump out of the fixed thinking mode.
In addition, we should be close to those who encourage us and stay away from those who make us feel uncomfortable. Some people just like to improve their own value by belittling others. In the face of such a cancer, even if the relationship is close, we must know how to give up.
Sometimes the change of thinking is instantaneous, but it takes a long time to cultivate the thinking mode. Looking at this problem with the thinking mode of growth, as long as we are constantly changing and making progress, it is the greatest gain.
Finally, a word from the author: change may be difficult, but no one has ever said it is not worth it!