However, Benben, who is 1 1 years old, accidentally touched the gas alarm when turning off the gas, and he was scared and didn't know what to do.
Just then, dad ran into the kitchen to turn off the gas. Instead of comforting him, he slapped him and yelled at him for not doing a little thing well.
Frightened, he jumped up and wiped his tears. He turned to apologize to his father and comforted his mother who witnessed all this.
"Mom, it doesn't hurt at all. It's all my fault. "
"Dad, I'm sorry, I won't do it again."
Yes, what a sensible child. Even though he was beaten and scolded, it was the first time that he took care of other people's emotions.
In the last issue, we talked about why parents have a strong desire to control their children.
Many times parents always ask their children to be sensible, but do we really need this kind of "sensible"?
Is it worth it at the expense of the pain that accompanies the child's life?
Do you really know how harmful this morbid precocity is to children?
Children are naughty and playful by nature. Of course, we can guide them correctly and coax them.
However, most parents require their children to be obedient and clever. Once they are naughty, they will beat and scold at will.
In the long run, the child's nature will be erased, and all emotions will accumulate in his heart, forming a pleasing character. All he does is please his parents.
Imagine that the mind and brain of an adult can't bear this kind of repression, let alone a fragile child.
Children who grow up in a good family atmosphere are often confident, psychologically sound and dare to accept love when they grow up.
But in the above cases, what is the bouncing family atmosphere like?
It is hard to imagine that teenagers are eager for their parents' love, but they are asked to obey unconditionally, even being beaten and scolded without consciously making mistakes.
Like flowers growing in soil without sunlight and nutrients.
In the later pictures, parents finally saw the harm of skipping, and the mother's distress and father's guilt finally showed up at that moment.
I believe that parents and children love each other. Understanding and tolerance, recognition and patience are all manifestations of love.
So, communicate as much as possible and be patient.
Don't let children only know obedience when they need love. There is no education in this world that can compare with the education of love.
If you are a parent, I hope you can understand what Chinese obedience education means to children.
If you are a child, I hope you can promise yourself that you will not sacrifice yourself in the future.
I am a question mark.
I hope we can all be better ourselves.