Parents are the most dependent objects for children. Usually, you should spend more time with your children and give them more care. When you encounter something, you should know how to communicate with your child and listen to his heart carefully. You don't have to always attack your children with the attitude of your parents. When a child asks you to tell a story, you should listen carefully. You don't have to attack and cut off the child's speech. Try to let the child's point of view be fully expressed. Only when children feel the mastery and application of their parents will they be willing to accept their parents' suggestions.
How to do rewards and punishments well
Punishment and praise are closely combined. For example, if you find a bright spot in a difficult problem, you should undoubtedly blame it. Punishment is closely combined with specific guidance. For example, in the case of taking away the mobile phone and unplugging the computer, it is necessary to tell the children that if they have a boyfriend too early, it is likely to lead to adverse effects. Punishment is closely combined with standards. For example, punishment is to help children establish the concept of time, not to better "vent" and "remove hatred." Don't hurt the child's self-esteem. For example, there is no need for abuse or violence. Too much is too late.
How to shape children's preferences
Taking care of children's personal hobbies, even if you learn everything well, you can't learn everything. What you need is a healthy and happy child, not a wizard who died young. As long as you do a good job in general study and then your child has a hobby, you can develop this hobby well and develop it to the extreme.
Children love painting, follow him to sketch (naturally, this premise is to become real friends with children, so they may not want you to go with them), and learn to appreciate their works; If children love folk dance, they should watch him dance more, praise him more, and hint whether he can dance better. At the same time, there is no doubt about children's achievements. Only in this way can we propose to improve our children.
Because of the child's self-abuse
Perfectionist: Many parents strictly manage their children when they are young, especially the parents of excellent children. They stipulate that children should do their best everywhere. This urges children to be perfectionists from an early age and cannot tolerate mistakes, especially their own mistakes. Once you realize that you have made a mistake, you need to be severely punished, even if it is not a big mistake.
Causes and solutions of children's self-abuse: unreasonable education. Parents' attitude and behavior towards their children's doing wrong will greatly endanger their attitude and behavior towards their own doing wrong. If parents usually take severe punishment, children will unconsciously adopt this kind of behavior expression.
Personality and aura: everyone has frustration, and they will take different forms to adapt to this frustration. Because of the differences in personality, gas field and living environment, some children tend to treat setbacks with self-harm and self-abuse.
How to prevent children from self-abuse
Self-harm is avoidable. With the development of social economy, the continuous improvement of environmental safety equipment has a positive effect on reducing hazard risk, and it is the key content and guarantee of prevention in junior and middle schools.
Secondary prevention is to reduce all kinds of factors or standards that may cause injury or suicide, such as treating people with mental problems and caring for people with serious physical diseases, dysfunction and severe trauma. It is very important for secondary prevention to be good at finding possible clues of damage cases and doing a good job of dredging them. The most important thing is psychological counseling and service projects for high-risk groups. It is necessary to implement service projects for those who have caused injuries and those who have committed suicide, and carry out three-level prevention to effectively reduce the risk of re-injury.