Let the people around you become people you can trust, and most of your problems will be solved. But if you don't trust others, you must agree with their values and priorities.
My father's death made me understand that at the end of my life, my success in the workplace was far less than the good things you did for others.
Never talk about talking to people who are important to you.
We must all adapt to our own environment to some extent.
If Elizabeth takes a group of photos of me every 10 years, they will faithfully record the progress of my life. It is these different images that outline the developing Charles Handy.
As johari's window theory says, we are strangers to anyone, even ourselves.
Friendship is precious and can't stand any risks. Work and friendship should be clearly distinguished.
If people change from colleagues at work to friends, problems will also arise.
We should try to be honest with ourselves instead of pretending to be people we are not at all.
A good life is to find an environment suitable for our personality.
I have to remind myself all day that Julius Caesar was a short bald man, but he conquered the world. At that time, all the ladies in Rome thought he was extremely sexy.
My real worry is not that I chose the wrong job in the first half of my life, but that I don't feel enough passion for what I do.
Compromising life will only waste a lot of time.
Hibala believes that a successful life is not knowing what you want to do before you act, but the opposite. Only by acting, practicing, questioning and acting again can you find out who you are and what kind of person you are.
We are still eager to leave our mark on this world and make it different-good or bad-because of our existence.
In the final analysis, who can be remembered by future generations is not how much money that person earned, but how they spent it.
Do I know who I am? I feel that even if I know something, I am afraid it is not comprehensive.
Ts Eliot once said that we should not stop exploring, and the end of exploration is the starting point. Let's get to know him again However, when we stop exploring, we may die soon, but I'm not ready.
Jeffs Cole is one of the two founders of ebay. He told such a story. One day, his father brought home bad news. The doctor diagnosed him with terminal cancer. His father told Jeff, who was only 65,438+04 years old at that time, that he was not afraid of death, but he felt too sorry that he had not done everything he really wanted to do in life. In other words, he was afraid that he might die before trying everything in life.
I know now that the beginning and ending of life are determined by half.
I have come to know how easy it is to let people accept a certain point of view from an early age without questioning and tell them that there is only one way to see the world.
I have never been back to Ireland since I finished my studies in England, but I will remember those ancient memories all my life.
I became a classical scholar and was completely defeated by my family. /kloc-When I was 0/2 years old, a classmate wanted to go to Winchester College and learn Greek. He begged me to study with him, and I readily agreed. Unexpectedly, this idea set his own learning direction for the next 10 year.
Beware of these early labels, I suggest today's students-people always like to label, whether it is right or wrong.
Besides repeating the truth with another synonym, there is no so-called absolute objective truth in some fields except mathematics. It depends entirely on the background, observation angle and initial hypothesis.
Life itself is a hypothesis, and it is difficult to prove it or falsify it before it is over.
This method is very effective, which can test a person's basic assumptions, what we should do and why, as long as the way of asking is appropriate and polite. I kept asking why.
Never ignore the ideas of young people, no matter how reckless they seem.
Virtue is not the opposite of evil, but the middle layer of Otawa.
A good life is education. People usually translate this complicated Greek word into happiness, but Aristotle obviously has a different meaning. What he said about happiness is not a state, but an action. It seems more appropriate to translate it into vigorous progress or doing what you are good at.
A degree is only a license to continue studying, and it is the starting point of education, not the end point.
I went out of the office and bought a yellow book called Introduction to Economic Self-study. I read it carefully. I've never worked so hard in my life.
I have been trying to find the real key people, who are usually in a lower position in the hierarchical organization because they have strong negative forces.
It's no use learning to be rich and knowledgeable. Unless theory and practice can be combined, experience is sometimes more important. However, it is not helpful to have experience without reflection.
I have to forget an important lesson of early education, that is, I always think that someone knows the best way. There are no standard answers to most situations that people encounter. Everyone is different. Many times, you have to make your own judgments, make your own decisions and do what you want.
Why can't even the workers who are frustrated in the most humble positions help but want to use negative power? Because only in this way can they show their importance.
Pat only takes action when she thinks it's time to help. She never said that he was responsible for all these things. I think that's probably why I never wanted to thank her.
The host asked us to list three or four people who had the greatest influence on my early life. My own list, 1, is my wife Elizabeth, who is full of confidence in my ability, firm and indomitable.
Entrepreneurs of one kind or another always have one important thing in common in their lives: when they were young, a respectable person gave them confidence and made them dare to believe in themselves. Freud called this early influence "the golden seed".
Whether you admit it or not, planting gold seeds with actions or words is the most enjoyable and even the most important thing you can do for others.
What I appreciate most is finally getting rid of the background.
If we have to wait for the perfect time, there will never be a beginning.
In some cases, it is easy to know how to do it, but difficult to do it.
I used to think that government ministers and a large group of consultants always made the right choice, but it was not until some of my students climbed to such a high position that I realized that they were not always wise, SHEN WOO.
If we rely too much on other people's expert opinions, we will eventually give control of our lives to strangers.
Their personal identity is submerged in the group, as if they no longer need to be responsible for their actions.
If I want to have a place in other people's lives, I must rediscover my true self.
Changing your life often needs to start at the bottom of another ladder. If you find that the ladder you are climbing is leaning against the wrong wall, then this decision is very suitable for you, and you urgently need to find another ladder.
Starting over in life often requires triggering events.
If you feel completely comfortable and your life and work are under your control, then you may fall into the wrong fantasy. Whether it is private life, work or career, it is always dangerous to sleep on the credit book.
It is widely believed that by mastering several extremely different skills, people can live two or three different lives and get different returns. You can think of it as a rebirth opportunity without physical death.
I remember Elizabeth has been wondering for years why I spent so much time and energy on business school students and didn't care about spending more time with her and the children. "You just make the heavier rich children richer." He said you should do something more valuable.
Why does everyone at Windsor Castle always smile when they tell me bad news?
Harmony and profit are the necessary conditions for the survival and development of any enterprise. If they are the main purpose, or even the only purpose, people will think that this is too selfish and ignores the broad responsibility of enterprises to society.
1978, I first suggested that housewives would become a common thing sooner or later.
Women have always been combined, and the employee's wife reminded me that all this is nothing new. You men have just realized that life is like this.
The balance between work and life is a misleading expression, because it implies that work and life are two different things, while the concept of combination holds that life is mostly work, some are boring, some can earn money, and some are worth doing. Therefore, the important thing is the balance of work. Even those who work full-time need to consider the balance of the portfolio. It is very difficult to achieve this balance in full-time work.
After entering middle age, most people's experience and passion are decreasing day by day. We hope that it may be optimistic, and the increase of society may make up for the decrease of energy.
Death is the deadline for mankind. He reminded us to seize the fleeting opportunity of life and create a career that can stand the test of time, just like the great man buried here.
Organizations may exist, but too many organizations become prisons, and guards only care about their own welfare and don't care about the people who should be taken care of by them.
To tell the truth, the story itself doesn't have to be true, so I often make up my own stories to better convey some information.
Come to think of it, each of us will experience several small deaths in our life. But they should not prevent us from starting over and making use of new beginnings to make up for past sins.
I'm only 49 years old, and I never want to retire. Even after 25 years, I still don't think retirement is a good idea.
I admit that I am a little too modest to sell myself short, but I hope the audience will flatter me.
If you don't really want to do it, don't make such an offer, and don't deliberately ask for compliments from others, you won't get it.
"You haven't taught anything, at least you don't have this position. I think your name is enough. Why do you men always need to pull something else to prove your existence? "
Combined with seven years, life is a long story. The three things I care about most in my mind are-first, the most important thing is to support my family and get some cash, then manage the space and time of my life, and then educate my children.
Living freely is more important than pursuing a career.
The most disturbing thing in life is being used by others, even people you don't respect, to achieve goals you don't agree with.
Managing your life well does not mean that you can control your life, your most basic part-finance.
If I spend too much time doing things I don't like and going to inappropriate places, even if it doesn't work morally, it may not get better and better.
It's probably good to call money "compensation" to compensate for the pain you have to do if you don't love him. Money is the only reason you work.
Doing things for money, even if money is only part of the reason, will make my father disgusted. He always believes that as long as you have enough money, you should do what you think you should do, regardless of the reward. If you don't have enough money, you should tighten your belt.
According to economists, greed, jealousy and gluttony are not crimes, but the basis of prosperity.
Owning is a good thing, because only when you own something will you care about it and have the motivation to invest in it and develop it.
We do cherish all our things, but it is usually only out of our own interests or preferences, and we seldom consider its influence on others.
From the perspective of social philosophers, I think the situation of enterprise ownership is no different. Possession can stimulate the owner's ambition and vitality, but it is still selfish in essence.
For whom and for what purpose does an enterprise exist? This is the central issue of the root cause.
The purpose of the enterprise is not to make money, but to make money so that he can do more and better things. This is the real reason for the existence of the enterprise.
The company is a community and a pair of colleagues. It is not an asset, especially now many companies don't own any buildings or equipment, or even a complete body. A community is like a village. In reality, a village can be owned by outsiders (although this is rare), but it never belongs to a village community. Members have obligations (including investors' loans or dividends), but there is no owner. All people related to the community have rights and responsibilities, which are usually determined in the form of contracts.
If we don't own land and companies, but manage them on behalf of members of society and the next generation, then we may have different ideas, be less selfish and short-sighted and be more considerate of others.
We both went home to work, so we turned the garage into a kitchen, so we could make room for two study rooms in the house.
Take the distance of space as organizational discipline.
It is foolish to be jealous of young people.
Every year, we allocate 65,438+050 days for pure creative work, writing and photography and related reading and research, 65,438+000 days for business and management activities, most of which are lectures abroad and 30 days for various voluntary work, so that the remaining 85 days can be used for weekly rest and emergencies.
If you don't invest more in writing and photography, you will soon lose your business. He is the R&D department in our life and must be protected.
People are happy, but they are not necessarily more efficient at work.
Both organizations and individuals should not be bound by the old model, but let time and space be used by us, which can make us better control our lives.
I am an outsider at school and at home, and I often feel particularly lonely.
The school is the 1 th official institution that children enter. They are not relatives. Other adults and children know their rights, who holds the power, the defects and happiness of interpersonal relationships, who to trust and who to avoid. In addition, he will teach you how to succeed and what is a successful course. I think the most important knowledge I have learned is that adults know the most, teachers are experts, and I know the world. As a student, I just need to learn what they know.
It took me many years to trust my own judgment after I left school, but sometimes people will accept the official statement without thinking. I used to think that the government knew everything, but now I understand that it is not.
Goals and reporting forms often distort the real purpose of activities.
Taking the school as an organization, it is obvious that children are equivalent to products in the factory. They are systematically regarded as raw materials. Before sending it out, it needs to go through several technological processes, and the whole process usually takes 5 to 7 years. The better the quality of raw materials, the higher the final score may be.
School is important, but family is more important.
What kind of people we are is more important than what kind of flowers we say, and the way we walk is more memorable than the way we talk. Looking back on the influence of family, I wonder why we are always keen to give young children to strangers for discipline. One of the reasons is that we feel that we are not suitable for educating children.
We sent him to a boarding school. Now think about it, we almost lost him for a while. We gave all his education and development to others. As a result, he is not influenced by me now.
People, whether young or old, need to learn philosophy.
If we don't know our position on all kinds of moral and ethical issues, either someone will take advantage of this and impose their set on us, or we will let everything happen, both of which are very dangerous.
The only important answer in philosophy is the one you find yourself.
So he seems to be relieved after learning the situation, but he also said that after studying Shell's pension plan, he found that I was better dead than alive.
Entering a new home is like living in another country. Just like a country, families have their own history, and history shapes their culture.
Everyone wears a mask of some kind, and we dare not take it off until we really know someone.
Don't take passion and physical attraction as the basis of a long-term relationship, but find someone who can be his best friend one day. This friendship will deepen day by day with the continuation of life.
With the development of life, a good marriage subtly changes the potential contractual relationship between partners.
We know that some couples are drifting away from each other in their professional lives and regard this as a good opportunity to find new partners and start a new life (mostly centered on common work interests). We really don't want to take this risk because we have invested too much in each other.
So, we decided to find a way to combine our work and protect our friendship, marriage, family and everything we really are. He manages my work, acts as my agent, arranges meetings for me, travels with me everywhere, prefaces his photos and books, and tries his best to cooperate when taking photos, so that we can always be together.
A consultant asked Elizabeth, how long has she been away from me? "Forty minutes," Elizabeth replied, "when he went to the supermarket to buy things." Being so close may not be to everyone's taste, but we feel very happy. We all know all our friends, all our experiences, we share all the long nights together, and we spend them together. There are no secrets in such a relationship.
I realize that I will encounter countless hard days and all kinds of new challenges in the future, but I will always love this funny bald baby. No matter what he does or doesn't do, giving love and asking for nothing in return is the best altruism, and this time I am so willing.
But the most troublesome thing is that the child is gradually out of your control. Miss Goto is his teacher and the highest authority in his life, and I am just a man who has lunch at home on Sunday.
Too many interpersonal relationships are just dew marriages-they were strong at that time, but they easily dissipated. I've always had a family, but I need you to maintain it from time to time.
We can only attend lectures at 10 every year at most, and these lectures must meet the following conditions: 10 lectures must be linked together, and the host country can let me meet new challenges. The lecture time must be in winter. 10 There are five paid lectures, and the remaining five are for valuable motives or projects. The summer time should be reserved for Elizabeth's photography.
When I first wrote an article, I measured my haze index. He asked you to divide the number of words on a page by the number of periods on that page to get the average length of sentences. After that, you must add one point for each word with more than three syllables on the page and one point for each technical word.
What matters to the painter is the work, not the thoughts that age is important to me, and how to express my thoughts.
If the leader knows what the goal of the community is and can convince everyone of his importance, his task will become much easier.
I often ask managers to do this and list people who have known each other for a long time. When they stop and encounter problems again, they can be relied on to turn the situation around.
Wait until the curtain rises before watching the program. Everyone involved in the performance is listed on it, no matter how insignificant their contribution is.
People like to be seen as independent people.
I also believe that images are easier to remember than concepts, and images stay in my mind longer than technical terms.
My focus has shifted more and more from the question of how to type to the question of why to type, prompting me to keep asking questions with Socratic impulse.
We care more about people than organizations. After all, organization is just a tool for human beings.
Broadly speaking, organization is the effort of society. Their purpose is to provide us with the things and services we need. We rely on them because they are more efficient.
Organizations and individuals who work only for personal interests will eventually find themselves the worst customers, because they will never be satisfied, never be grateful and have no legacy.
Now we can choose, but there is no good standard, so entrepreneurs must become philosophers.
There are many centers in the world, and the people who live in each center are equally important. We care about things similar to ours, love learning in life and are eager to leave a legacy, but the conditions and environment are quite different from ours.
Only by relying on the past and surpassing the past can a country move forward. If you can't face your own truth, you will only fall into the old problem again.
Only when your peers begin to disappear will you wake up and read the obituaries with new worries to see how old they have lived.
Aristotle suggested that we try to lie on the mental bed and imagine ourselves on the last day of our lives. How should we evaluate our life?
Imagine, "old, dying. What kind of eulogy do you want your best friend to read for you at the memorial service? " Please write it briefly. ..... Only older people can finish this exercise. They must imagine themselves standing at the end of their lives when they are over 80 years old. When they look back, they will realize that many of these things are meaningless in the long run.
What kind of person the deceased was before his death is often more important than what he did.
I only hope that the people I value most-family and close friends-will remember me for a long time. If there is eternal life, it only exists in other people's minds and hearts.
I left a letter for my wife and two children, which can only be opened after my death. In the letter, I made clear my expectations for everyone and briefly said some of the most important experiences in my life. I will update them every year. Frankly speaking, it is better for me, because it forces me to clear my mind. This is my own version of Aristotle's spiritual window test. I don't know my father's view on life and death. I wish I knew.
As you get older, fewer and fewer people want to impress you, so when you see the truth, you may have the courage to speak out, live the life you want, and spend your time on the people you value.
Young I care too much about my future and don't care about anyone.
I suspect that with the passage of time, many people will look back on their formal career as a formatted experience, just like our college life.
Work used to be very important, but now it has nothing to do with them. A new life is more important. Without the burden of their parents and the bondage of formal occupation, they are free to do the best thing they are doing at the moment. When they find happiness, they write it on their faces. We should all be so lucky. We can all be so lucky.
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