We know that family financial management has asset allocation standards. Is there a corresponding distribution principle for children's education investment? How to spend money on children is more appropriate?
As a mother of two children, I often pay attention to and think about this topic in my daily life: how to provide better education for our children within our ability?
Have you ever thought about what kind of children you expect to raise? What do you expect future children to look like when they grow up?
When educating their children, many parents usually don't know what the standard of their children's growth is. Always focus on the key words of "obedient, studious, clever and good-natured", lacking systematic thinking and systematic thinking, so the common educational methods now are as follows:
Several common educational methods now:
1. Stocking type: it is euphemistically called to let children grow freely, but actually I don't know how to cultivate them.
2. Captive type: All kinds of training courses have been reported enough, children's weekend trips are full, children are more tired, and wallets are the most tired.
3. Worry about food and clothing: Everything is the best, and clothes, toys, schools, training courses and study tours are the most expensive.
4. Poverty-supporting type: nothing is provided except the necessary public school fees. Let children do housework, work-study programs, etc.
Parents should be children's coaches, mentors and lighthouses, not babysitters, housekeepers and firefighters. Unfortunately, most parents are the latter.
Why do you say that? In the process of children's growth, parents are the people he contacts the most and the most influential people.
Parents' thoughts determine children's thinking.
Parents' words and deeds determine their children's habits.
The guidance of parents determines the direction of children.
Let the children find their own direction.
Let the children find their own direction.
Which of these three aspects do you think can be missing?
Education, the most basic and important education is always at home.
We must realize the importance of family education to children before we can happily enter the next topic.
What kind of portrait have we drawn for our children?
We give our children a portrait of the future, not to limit their growth, but to guide them to grow in the most suitable direction. Wrong direction, just like a fruit tree growing crooked, no matter how thick it is, it is worthless.
It is nothing more than starting from the aspects of morality, ability and diligence. After entering the society, any enterprise, social group or organization is nothing more than these. What we need to do is to cultivate children's related abilities when they are young.
Virtue refers to self-cultivation. There is no way to solve this problem through money, only by parents' words and deeds and timely correction.
Yes, it means ability. This aspect can be cultivated through training and education. What kind of abilities children need when they grow up, which requires parents to screen their children and carry out targeted training. For our children, the main training for her at present is the ability of expression and communication.
Diligence refers to habit. This aspect can't be obtained through money, but it must be cultivated through a drop of sweat in children's daily life.
Performance refers to results. For example, school grades, such as certificates of various hobbies, these things look vulgar but inseparable. For children, the weekly praise from kindergarten teachers, the number of small red flowers she got in kindergarten and the grade certificates she got in various interest classes in the future are also elements that make us happy.
Around these four aspects, my father and I basically outlined the baby's future:
Baby's future portrait:
Kindness and friendship, enthusiasm and humility, positive and brave, cheerful and generous, have good living habits, do not exaggerate vanity, be willing to suffer hardships, have a little expertise in painting and dancing, and be able to express your views well on the podium, which is enough.
I believe that such a child will be liked by many people in the future society and will have enough foothold in society.
With the direction, we can take the next step and make targeted investments. Because as parents, our energy is limited first, and our money is limited second. So I think it's unreasonable to get wet with rain and dew. In the end, I can only taste everything and give up halfway. Instead, we should show the spirit of fighting rabbits with lions, go all out and concentrate superior forces to solve key problems.