When Mr Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator in China, was the headmaster of a middle school, one day he saw a boy trying to hit his classmate with bricks.

Student behavior

Teacher Tao Xingzhi immediately stopped the child's behavior and asked him to go to the principal's office.

Reward method

Mr. Tao took out a candy and handed it to the students, saying, "This is a reward for you, because you are more punctual than me."

A sign of respect

Then he took out the second candy: "this is also a reward for you." I won't let you hit people, you stop at once, which shows that you respect me very much. "

sense of justice/righteousness

Mr. Tao Xingzhi took out another candy for him: "It is understood that you beat your classmate because he bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice."

Find the bright spot in students.

As a teacher, it is very important for students to have a pair of eyes that are good at "discovery"-to tap the bright spots in students and give them a good "self-reflection" orientation through verbal encouragement.

Students' understanding

At first, the student who wanted to hit someone thought that the headmaster would criticize him and say that he was a bad boy because he hit his classmate. Unexpectedly, instead of saying "no", the headmaster kept praising him. In this way, he will have a positive evaluation of himself: Oh, I am not only not bad in the headmaster's mind, but also a good boy.

Positive self-awareness

This positioning of "me in the mirror" plays an important role in his quick recognition of his mistakes and his firm belief in being a man.