First, the deformed concept of family education will bring up children with bad personality.
1, doting on family education makes children dependent.
The characteristic of doting family education is that everything is based on children's joys and sorrows, and the realization of children's wishes is satisfaction. This is particularly prominent in male students. Most of them are the only children in the family, and their parents and elders regard them as the apple of their eye, but they don't know that their children are spoiled. It is understood that students' requirements for eating, wearing, playing and learning can be met to the greatest extent, and 77.8% of parents can meet the items that their children really want to buy. Many parents regard their children as "little emperors" at home, and everything revolves around them. This "love for children" gave them the idea of "taking me as the center and being the only one". Doing homework requires parents' supervision and companionship, and parents need to do practical activities. Over time, these students have developed a subtle and extremely dependent defect.
Case 1: Student Huang Xxx, because of the doting of his elders, has developed the defect of "being the only one" since childhood. He broke five good pens in one semester. I told him to cherish school supplies, but he didn't listen at all. He also said: "Anyway, the family has money, which is nothing." Once, it was his turn to sweep the floor, and his mother came to help him clean up. All this, the doting of some parents, has caused children's extreme dependence on bad morals.
Case 2: A seventh-grade freshman, born smart. Although he is naughty occasionally, he can still listen to the teacher. However, his mother said, "Don't be timid in everything, I can support you." So the student acted according to the "purpose", often violating discipline and beating his classmates for no reason. Facts have proved that indulging in education can only cause psychological distortion of teenagers, form bad personality quality and even destroy a person. Spoiling and favoring children's families makes children form bad personality. Children living in this family environment are biased and spoiled by their parents or grandparents, which makes them turn a deaf ear to the teacher's teaching and even become lawless.
2. High expectation of family education leads to children's inferiority.
High expectation family education refers to parents' requirements and goals for their children, which exceed the children's actual possibility, resulting in unsatisfactory educational effect and parents' disappointment. Every parent wants his child to succeed? Excellent academic performance, you can enter colleges and universities in the future. According to the survey, there are very few local parents with high school education or above. After suffering from illiteracy, these parents pinned their family hopes on their children, and 88.9% of them put forward the goal of letting their children go to college. It can be seen that parents have high expectations for their children's learning. When children report their excellent achievements to their parents, they are all smiles. When reporting dissatisfied results to parents, they will show all kinds of dissatisfaction. Due to the high expectations of parents, students are under great psychological pressure and nervous and anxious. If your efforts are not recognized by your parents, you will easily feel inferior. ...
Case 1: Student Li XX, lively and lovely, has always been the best in the class. Parents are bent on cultivating their children into excellent talents. Therefore, they should list their children as key family protection objects, scrimp and save, and spend all their money on them. Every day, I have to do not only the homework assigned by my teacher, but also the homework assigned by my parents. In addition, I have to learn computer and composition. Children lack energy, can't get on the test scores several times, their academic performance is not ideal, and they feel ashamed in front of colleagues, relatives and friends. The serious thought of saving face makes parents hate iron and not produce, and nag in front of their children all day. However, under the double pressure of school and family, the pressure on their young minds has reached the limit, and they have a strong sense of fear and inferiority, which is counterproductive for their parents.
Case 2: the misunderstanding of hiring a tutor
Nowadays, many parents are eager for their children to succeed and will spend a lot of money on tutoring their children. According to the survey, most family education is ineffective. Why can't hiring a tutor achieve the expected results? First, because the main task of tutor is to help children finish their homework that day, it can be said that students can find a "backer" from a certain angle. Originally, some difficult problems can be solved by children's own thinking or discussion with classmates. Now, with a tutor, you don't have to worry about this. If people don't use their brains for a long time, their brains will definitely be inflexible. Therefore, some children become seriously dependent and even lazy after having a tutor. Secondly, as a tutor, it is difficult to have a scientific and complete teaching plan. Teaching without teaching plan will not form a training series, and it is difficult to achieve practical results. The teaching of school teachers and tutors is "two skins", and students are at a loss. There is a metaphor: school teaching is eating dinner, and tutoring is eating snacks. Children who have the habit of eating snacks always have no taste at dinner, which is easy to cause malnutrition. Third, primary and secondary school students are in a period of long body. They need rest, entertainment and time to do what they like. The study task of the school is heavy enough. After returning home, they must attend classes and do their homework under the supervision of their tutors. Without a little rest, their physical fitness will be poor.
You can't blindly join in the fun and ask for a tutor. Tutoring will increase students' learning burden and make them lose the ability of independent thinking.