Parents are worried because they pay attention to their children intermittently. Children pay more attention when there are problems, and less attention when there are no obvious problems. There is a lack of macro control over children's education. I have no idea what to do and what not to do. Therefore, there is a lack of certainty about the future development of children. If you're not sure, panic.
For example, when Bian Xiao was in the third grade of high school, my mother was overly anxious. She is worried that I won't be admitted to the university. Every day when I get home, I hear my mother urging me to do my homework. The more I hear my mother's urging voice, the more I give up my exploration and desire for learning. On the surface, I follow the principle of "easy life". Everyone else is working hard, but I am carefree and free. Actually, I'm just in trouble.
Under my mother's daily nagging, I was introduced to a book called Kinetic Language Learning Method, which contains many real cases. Even more amazing, this book can enhance our motivation and ability. I began to look at it with curiosity and suspicion. The more I look at it, the more I want to use some stones to influence me and my mother to get stuck in the mud.
(kinetic energy speech learning method series)
(Intercept the case fragment of "kinetic energy speech learning method")
One example touched me deeply: when the editor of this book, Mr. Ouyang Weijian, was in primary school, his physical education teacher gave him "companion support". In my student career, I haven't met a PE teacher who is as patient and has expectations for students as Ouyang Weijian. When the PE teacher said that "Wei Jian is the most promising student to be admitted to County No.1 Middle School", I couldn't help but recall the teacher who gave me affirmation, and the teacher's affirmation virtually formed a thrust behind me. When the PE teacher said that she would accompany and support Mr Ouyang Weijian, she practiced and supported him. It is precisely because of the "companion support" of the physical education teacher that Ouyang Weijian planted a dream of engaging in education in his heart. Later, when she was a physical education teacher, Mr. Ouyang Weijian soon became the teaching director and vice president.
Teacher Ouyang Weijian passed on the method and spirit of "peer assistance" to his teacher, the kinetic energy education Commissioner. The book also describes in detail how PE teachers "accompany and support" Ouyang Weijian. After reading this case, I can't wait for my mother's company and support.
After dinner, my mother sang softly to the music on TV. Seeing that my mother was in a good mood, I began to try to communicate with her. I was very polite at first, until the first question I asked my mother: Mom, do you know what companionship is? Mom looked askance, I knew she was impatient again. I said: I don't want you to urge me to finish this homework, nor do I want to finish which book every day. What I want is to talk to you every day and share happiness with you every day. I don't want to turn this home into just a stronghold for us to come back to eat and sleep.
God knows how brave I am to say this to my mother. The next day, I went to school as usual, and the food at home was the same as before, except that my mother offered to accompany me for a walk after dinner. Walking on the road, I held my mother's hand carefully, for fear that the night would steal my full joy. I haven't held my mother's hand for a long time and felt the temperature of her palm. I gently stroked the lines of her palm, and my mind suddenly flashed through my mother's fatigue and dedication over the years like a movie. Before going to bed, I gave my mother a hug and told her that I loved her very much.
I'm glad I got this book, and I'm even more glad that I reassured my mother. Anyway, there are many examples like my mother. Most people are middle-aged and have little interest in new information. Many mothers bury themselves in daily necessities to avoid their relationship with themselves, others and relatives to the maximum extent.
I am really glad that I met this book early, which made my mother come into contact with it, and made us realize our problems and have more courage to face them. More importantly, I learned to say I love you to the person I love, and I learned to speak my mind, otherwise the other person won't know whether I am moved or needed.
Judging from the current situation, mothers have a heavier educational responsibility. But a mother who only knows about daily necessities will get farther and farther away from her children's spiritual world. And the ideal state is-children understand, we understand; We understand what children don't understand, at least we have an intersection with children.