Spencer, an American educator, once said: "As parents, we should never pay too much attention to children's exam results, but should pay attention to the cultivation of children's thinking ability and learning methods, and try our best to retain their most precious interests and curiosity. You must never use the test scores to judge the pros and cons of a child, and you must never let your child have a sense of honor and disgrace. " Examination is only a means to test children's learning situation, and it is basically a spot check of the book knowledge that children have learned. Generally speaking, scores can reflect some things about children, and parents should care about their scores. However, a certain achievement cannot prove how much knowledge a child has really learned, nor can it prove a child's character and talent. Is not the only criterion to measure a child. Some parents, with good intentions, pay too much attention to their children's academic performance, but they don't know that this will bring many bad consequences. First of all, paying too much attention to grades will make children afraid of exams. The survey results of Liaoning Provincial Education Commission's Care for the Next Generation Association and the editorial department of Family Education show that among the respondents, 90.83% parents expect their children to be admitted to universities. In order to keep this expectation alive, parents have invited tutors for their children and put them in extra long classes, and some parents have arranged extra homework for their children. On the one hand, high expectations and excessive investment in students' grades lead to simplification of expectations, and parents consciously or unconsciously ignore education in ideology, morality and labor; On the other hand, parents' high and single expectations will cause mental burden and psychological obstacles to students with good or poor academic performance. Some children usually do well in school, but they get nervous as soon as the exam approaches, fearing that they will not do well in the exam. The more afraid you are, the more likely you are to make mistakes and the worse the exam will be. Secondly, paying too much attention to grades will damage children's self-esteem. The vast majority of junior high school students, even children who are not good at learning, have a positive desire in their hearts. Even some children who usually get quite good grades can't guarantee to get high marks every time; Even subjects that are usually well studied may be badly tested if they don't perform well or because of other factors. At this time, if parents only care about their children's test scores and don't ask questions indiscriminately, they will reprimand their children or take some excessive actions. In this way, children will feel wronged and their self-esteem will be hurt. In the long run, children will give up on themselves, leading to children's weariness of learning. And paying too much attention to scores will easily lead to the opposition between children and parents. Many parents are angry with their children, often because of their face. Children get good grades and have light on their faces. Instead, I feel humiliated. Every child's situation is different and can't be measured by one scale.