How to guide children to protect their privacy? When children are always alone, we often tell them that private parts are not allowed to look at, touch and so on. Let's share how to guide children to protect their privacy.

How to guide children to protect their privacy 1 Give children some safety knowledge.

Through picture books and some safety examples on TV, explain many dangers in society to children and let them establish a sense of danger. Tell the child that strangers should not touch the child's body at will, let alone beat and scold him at will. Give children a sense of security and tell them that their parents will always protect them.

Mother's timely sex education for children

It is difficult for parents in China to talk about sex and tell their children. Timely sex education for children can enhance their awareness of self-protection. Show it to children through conversation or sex enlightenment books suitable for children's age, and educate children not to let others see their bodies easily, let alone touch them.

Tell children that parents are the people they trust most.

Educate a child, and parents will protect her as much as possible, instead of blaming her blindly. Educate children that if such misfortune happens, they must tell their parents and take good measures to reduce the physical and mental impact of the incident on children and avoid the recurrence of the misfortune. Many abusers sexually assault children because of silence. Parents must communicate with their children in time to understand their current situation and avoid the occurrence and recurrence of injuries.

Let children distinguish between good and evil.

Parents should not talk, but must listen to the teacher. If you are bullied and abused by your teacher, you must tell your parents when you come back. Don't be afraid to say it out of fear. It is easy for many parents to overlook this point when educating their children. They teach children to be friendly to others, to be patient and restrained, but they don't tell them who is not worthy of being friendly and what behavior doesn't need patience.

Improve children's self-protection ability

In the process of educating children to respect themselves and resist temptation, parents will share any difficulties. Self-respecting girls will not be tempted or coaxed easily, at least the danger will not be so close.

Teach children to know their own bodies and private parts.

In fact, there is no need to hide this aspect. Like teachers, we can tell our children very frankly:

Boys' reproductive organs and buttocks are private parts, while girls' breasts, reproductive organs and buttocks are private parts. These parts are not allowed to be seen or touched by outsiders. If someone wants to see your private parts, or let you see TA's private parts, this is called "visual alarm".

How to guide children to protect their privacy II. Cultivate children's sense of boundaries with the opposite sex.

Let children establish a sense of boundaries with the opposite sex from an early age, starting with their parents. In this regard, Sean's words in the Diary of a Freshman are worth learning from fathers with daughters.

In the Diary of a Freshman, Sean also said that he loves his daughter very much and her daughter is attached to him. Every day when Sean comes home, her daughter will lie on him and hug Sean as soon as she gets home. Although the tone is helpless, my eyes are full of love.

But when the guest asked, "Can I kiss my daughter on the mouth?" Sean immediately became serious and said firmly, "No, no!"

Sean said, "If you are a daughter, you should still teach your child some self-protection awareness. Now I have to kiss her forehead or the back of her hand. "

As soon as this video came out, Sean's educational philosophy was well received by netizens. Some netizens commented: "I finally saw a father who would love his daughter!"

Charlotte Reznic, a child psychologist at UCLA, put forward:

"Mouth-to-mouth kissing, which is too direct to express intimacy, may cause confusion or even misunderstanding to children. When they see their parents kissing each other, they will confuse the meaning of kissing their parents. "

Therefore, if children want to learn to protect themselves, they must first start from their parents and establish their own sense of boundary.

Be careful not only of strangers but also of acquaintances around you.

A survey shows that most child abuse cases are girls aged 6~ 10, and the proportion of acquaintances committing crimes is as high as 60.53%.

Because you can be familiar with your child's itinerary, family situation, personality preferences and financial situation. And it can better threaten children to shut up.

Therefore, parents should not only teach their children to be wary of strangers, don't talk to strangers, don't pay attention to strangers' help, don't eat what strangers give, don't walk with strangers, but also teach their children to be wary of acquaintances around them.

Tell your children that even familiar people, such as friends of mom and dad, usually give you a lot of toys, and you can't kiss you casually, touch your private parts casually, force you to do things you don't like, and take you away without your parents' knowledge.

Learn to protect your privacy and know that private parts can't be touched.

When the child encounters strange and embarrassing behaviors that make her feel uncomfortable, she can bravely say "no"!

In fact, the germination of children's gender awareness is earlier than you think.

When children are 2-3 years old, they have a clear sense of gender and can distinguish between "boys" and "girls".

A study by Beijing Normal University shows that around the age of 3, with the gradual maturity of children's neurophysiology, they will begin to pay attention to their differences with the opposite sex, and they will also begin to explore their own bodies, and their sense of privacy will gradually form.

Therefore, when he was about 3 years old, his father should consciously refuse some intimate actions, help him change his close-fitting clothes, bathe his daughter and kiss her.

In this way, children can understand that "you can't expose your private parts in front of the opposite sex at will, and you can't kiss the opposite sex at will ..."

After entering kindergarten, I will pay more attention to my privacy when I am in contact with children, and it is not easy to be deceived when I meet bad people.

How to guide children to protect their privacy 3 1 Don't look at their personal belongings without their permission.

With the development of science and technology, electronic products are becoming more and more popular, and they also occupy most of the childhood of many children. Children absorb a lot of information from places like TV and the Internet, so they become more precocious, hiding little secrets in their hearts and unwilling to share them with others. Most of them will choose to keep a diary to express their little secrets.

Parents who are excluded from their children's secrets will become anxious once they find the slightest sign, fearing that their children will go astray or unfortunately make bad friends. Once the child hides the diary, parents even wonder if the child has done something shameful.

Many parents hold this mentality: "I am your mother, why can't I watch it?" "Is there anything that even parents have to hide?" In their view, children should be unreserved and transparent in front of their parents. As a result, many parents open their children's diaries and peek after their children go to school.

In fact, in the process of growing up, children in early childhood will have some new psychological changes: their dependence on their parents will be reduced and their sense of independence will be stronger. At the same time, they also hope that their parents can respect their autonomy and independence. If parents still treat them as babies, they will feel disrespected.

Once parents are caught peeking at their privacy, they will become extremely angry. Parents should pay due attention to their children's secrets, but this kind of attention needs to adopt a more artistic and effective way, rather than simply taking intervention measures such as checking children's personal belongings, which will only have negative effects.

2. Give the baby a space to be alone.

The baby was playing with toys alone, and when he was having fun, his mother suddenly came in and said, "What is the baby playing with?" Let mom see! ""Is the baby hungry? Do you want something to eat? "Mom is out of kindness, afraid that the baby will be hungry or feel lonely, but the excessive concern of parents will destroy the baby's concentration. In the long run, it will easily lead to the baby's inattention, which will have a negative impact on his future study and life.

Many mothers will worry that their babies like to play alone, and will they be autistic? In fact, parents don't have to worry at all. As an adult, sometimes I like to walk alone when I am in a bad mood, and I have my own space to be alone, let alone a baby.

There are many advantages for a baby to be alone. Leaving children alone in their own small kingdom is more conducive to cultivating their independence and innovation ability.

Take the baby's small toys as an example. Many times, parents will accompany their baby to build small blocks, but the baby will build them in an orderly way. A small house is a small house, and a small tower is a small tower. In front of parents, the baby dare not "make mistakes". Even if the baby follows his own ideas, the mother will tell him that it is wrong to do so. When a baby is alone, he can freely exert his imagination, which is more conducive to his intellectual development.

In the process of being alone, the baby experiences the environment in his own unique way and tries to play and solve difficulties in his own way. Without the help of adults, babies need to use their own hands and brains. It can not only help him to be independent in life, but also help him to be independent in thought.

Step 3 take care of your baby's private parts

Children's sex education embarrassed many parents in China. Some parents think they don't know how to teach their children this knowledge. With the development and opening up of society, sexual knowledge can no longer be mentioned to children, and the number of child sexual assault cases is rising. In order to prevent children from being hurt unnecessarily, parents should educate their babies as soon as possible.

First of all, tell the baby clearly where the private parts can't be exposed, so that the child can have a general understanding of his body. In the process of telling the baby, parents should be generous and don't perfunctory.

Secondly, you need to tell your baby that you should learn to protect your private parts. For example, who can touch the baby's private parts and who can't. He must be told clearly that only parents or people who take care of the baby can help the baby clean his private parts. If others want to touch or touch the baby's private parts, the baby should learn to bravely refuse and resolutely say "no".

Mothers should also pay attention to the fact that when dressing up their baby, they should not pay too much attention to looking good and neglect the daily care of his private parts. They should try to choose loose and comfortable clothes in their daily clothes.

For parents who like to play Weibo or other social networks, when posting photos of their babies, they should also try to cover up their private parts.

4. Protect your baby's self-esteem

Children will inevitably make mistakes when they grow up. Even if the parents are angry, don't yell at him in front of everyone, let alone have any pity for the baby. Because children of several years old already have the concept of self-esteem, parents are too rude, exposing their children's faults to the public, and invisibly infringing on their privacy, leaving a psychological shadow on them.

When educating the baby, parents need to talk about the matter and clearly tell the child what is wrong and how to correct it. Instead of scolding him without asking why. In that case, children may misunderstand that their parents don't like him.

5. The untouchable bottom line for children

Bottom line one: some embarrassing little habits

Some "shameful shortcomings" children are often very sensitive to "shortcomings" such as bed wetting, because they think these shortcomings will make them "lose face" in front of their peers. Therefore, no matter parents or kindergarten teachers, don't mention it in front of friends, let alone ridicule.

Bottom line 2: Some mental diseases.

Children are often more sensitive to psychological diseases such as autism, depression and ADHD. They are suffering or have suffered. If adults often talk about it, it is naturally not conducive to the recovery of the disease. Even if the disease has healed, it is tantamount to "exposing the shortcomings" and it is also not conducive to the mental health of children.

Bottom line three: the child's scar.

The trivial "past mistakes" in the eyes of some adults will also make some children worry about it for a long time. As long as someone mentions it, there will be the pain of "being exposed". These "past mistakes" may include: winning the last place in a competition, ruining a performance, making a fool of yourself in an outing, and even crying as a child.

Bottom line 4: the experience of being punished

Corporal punishment, such as being beaten, scolded and punished, is often a painful experience for children, because not only the body but also the soul may be traumatized. Even if the child is rarely subjected to corporal punishment at present, it is still difficult for him to extricate himself from extreme embarrassment by frequently mentioning the past "humiliation history" in front of others.

Bottom line 5: physical defects, disabilities, etc.

Physical or physiological defects such as flat feet, color blindness, short stature, obesity, emaciation, small eyes and ugly face are "obvious", but if adults mention them from time to time, they will also make children frustrated. Even things that happened a long time ago, such as being skinny at birth or looking like an ugly "little old man", will make children unhappy.