The original intention of preaching must be good. I hope people can understand the truth of dealing with people. Preaching is definitely easier for children to accept than beating and scolding. But it's good to teach anything, just love teaching? Definitely not good! The didactic education method makes children know too many truths and rules too early, and imposes layers of bondage on their nature, which cannot be released. It is possible that you are not confident, feel inferior and dare not pursue what you want.
For example, in the embryonic stage of independent self-awareness, children want to know what is mine, what is yours and what is his. Only by drawing a particularly clear line can children complete this cognition. Therefore, children at this stage have a particularly obvious performance that they are unwilling to share. Parents who don't understand the law of children's development tell their children to learn to share, learn to help each other and learn to exchange resources when they see that their children are unwilling to share, which makes it difficult for children to accept.
So how did I do it? Before any children come to visit, I tell them that all the toys in our family are bought by parents or some gifts from others. All the toys in our house are yours. You can choose whether to share it with your friends. If you are willing to share, you can also choose the toys you want to share with your friends.
Generally speaking, children are willing to share this situation. Not necessarily when other children come. Don't rush to preach to children, give them time slowly. If they still don't want to share, it doesn't matter if the two children cry. If children have a little to share, they must see it and praise it.
The best education is definitely not preaching, but teaching by example. Say it a hundred times and do it again. Therefore, with moderate preaching and good example from parents, I believe your child is naive, lovely, confident, cheerful and lively.
I am Yimi, a working mother who grew up with her, and I like learning and exploring. Parenting is more wonderful with you.