You and your boyfriend are not married, so you shouldn't get involved in this matter. After all, whether you can marry him in the end is unknown. I wonder if your relationship with your boyfriend is stable? If he is nice to you, you should tell your boyfriend your attitude. You can't give money to children and nannies. You can buy what your child needs or give it to grandma, not to her. Because no one knows what she does with the money. Is it wasteful? As a parent who does not raise children, she needs to pay alimony for her children every month. This is the law. She should take care of the children. If she does not take care of them, she can pay alimony. If she doesn't pay, she can sue again and get her house back. Her house should be her own. The foster parent should get it, not give it to her. And the house should be awarded to the child, not her name. If she takes care of the children, but allows her to live in the house without taking care of them, she has no right to live there. If you want to stay with your boyfriend for a long time, you must be clear about your position, otherwise you will choose to give up. This woman is too cunning. She is used to cheating her ex-husband and making unreasonable demands. You can't indulge her. Otherwise it will become Bangladesh. If you are kind to her, make her honest. No one will live a stable life with him. If the stepmother is not satisfied, please adopt.