Let the elderly understand the misunderstanding of education
Early education is not equal to intellectual development
It is wrong to overemphasize knowledge indoctrination, to understand education unilaterally as the imparting of book knowledge, and to equate intellectual development with skills training such as reading, writing and calculation in advance. A follow-up study of the effects of various early education programs shows that if early education only focuses on reading, writing and arithmetic training, the effect will be short-term (lasting up to the fourth grade at most). Therefore, the development of intelligence can only be regarded as part of early education.
And early childhood education should focus on the acquisition of sensory experience, the cultivation of life knowledge, the cultivation of good emotional intelligence and personality, and the preparation of writing and pre-math experience. Parents can make their baby's vision, hearing, smell and touch more sensitive in some ways, for example, let the baby hold the bottle by himself, feed the rice to his mouth with a spoon, lift his pants after urinating, put his shoes and hats back, pack his toys, help adults set the dishes and chopsticks, doodle freely, and finish what he is doing calmly. It is better to let the baby experience life like this, accept different stimuli and make their own decisions.
Respect the baby's willingness to do things by himself.
Even when it's time to eat and drink juice, we have to wait for the baby to finish the work; Respect your baby's legitimate requirements, even if you think your baby is too slow and worried that he will get cold after eating his own food, you should also respect your baby's own requirements for eating; Even if it's too cold outside and you're worried that he'll catch a cold, you should respect his request and accompany you with the Spring Festival. Treat the baby as an individual, respect his choice, and don't help him do what he should do because he is worried that he will not do well.
Don't ask for it by adult standards.
Infants and young children are lively by nature and have no social experience and fixed patterns, so they often make various mistakes. They will lose confidence if they are always required by adult standards. Parents should give positive encouragement to several firsts in the baby's growth process.
Don't do professional training too early.
Setting goals too early and carrying out high-intensity training too early are not conducive to the healthy development of baby's body and mind. Although these may not seem like a big deal in the eyes of grandparents, it is very important for the elderly to realize this for the baby's future success. The misunderstanding of these educations is not only for grandparents to understand, but also for young parents to understand their importance, and not to stifle the baby's excellent potential in our unknown education.
Keep the correct agreement with the elderly.
In the process of helping us take care of our baby, the elderly may not understand our educational philosophy. We can learn from the mother of Liu Yiting, a Harvard girl, and let her grandparents catch up on the baby's physical and psychological knowledge, and then take care of the baby after understanding the education methods. When we have differences with the elderly in the concept of education, we can generally do this: listening to the elderly sometimes sticks to some traditional parenting concepts, most of which are acceptable to us, such as physiological care, such as complementary food production. As long as it is not a serious conceptual problem, we can listen to or learn from the opinions of the elderly first, and then explain our ideas slowly and gently. Grandparents and grandparents want their grandchildren to live well. As long as we communicate with them in an appropriate way, they will be willing to accept our correct ideas.
Let practice speak.
Sometimes, what we do can't be recognized by the elderly in a short time, but through hard work, we can move the elderly and let them accept it. I have an example of this.
My little niece was smart when she was two years old, but she refused to speak. The crux of my observation is that the old man meets the baby's requirements too quickly, and the baby doesn't need to say it. The old man has done what he wants to do. During the holiday, I consciously delayed my little niece's request until she said it. At first, the little guy blushed with anxiety. Grandpa was so angry that he told me not to worry, saying that the baby was his darling, and it didn't matter whether I said it or not. I found many opportunities to play alone with my niece, and also persuaded my brother and sister-in-law to stick to it with me and continue to implement my educational methods. A few days later, my little niece began to speak. Although it is not much or clear, it has made the whole family see the change. Grandparents are also very happy and have learned my methods. Even my daughter, who is one year older than my little niece, will hold an apple and say, Sister, if you say you want it, I will give it to you! Everyone in the family will laugh, and grandpa will forget that I don't have to worry about it.
A harmless lie
There is a young mother in the parent-child park who has taken her to parent-child classes since the baby was one year old. The cost of parent-child courses is really expensive in the eyes of the elderly. The elderly are worried that the baby is small and can't stand tossing around in the garden at home. They always question the matter of parent-child classes. The clever mother realized this, and let her in-laws see the baby's progress after the parent-child class, and at the same time let her in-laws witness the baby's physical endurance; At the same time, I have been in class for a year, and I told my in-laws that my tuition has not been used up. When my in-laws saw the baby's progress, they stopped paying attention to money and forgot to count how many classes they had taken.
Curve saves the country and speaks through the mouth of others.
If you really have major differences with the elderly, don't be tit for tat. It is suggested to adopt the strategy of saving the country by curve, that is, to say what you want to say through other people's mouths, leaving some possibilities for communication. Because in the education of treating babies, we have the same purpose as the elderly. As long as the consistency of science education is achieved, it is a good choice to go around the circle and not argue with the elderly.
Stick to what we must stick to.
Sometimes, old people may stubbornly believe that only they are right. Since they can educate their children into useful people and cast their grandchildren into pillars, they fundamentally deny our suggestions and completely forget that education keeps pace with the times; Some old people want to verify their work subjects in the education of their grandchildren, verify their status at home after retirement, and play against us when they know that they are wrong, so that the little ones can hide. Therefore, young parents are advised to take care of their babies themselves.