Classic case:
In dance teaching activities, teachers teach children to practice running and jumping. On weekdays, several children with coordinated movements learn quickly and soon compete for performances. Yan Xin and Yi are two children who have a good relationship, and they are both very competitive. All the children have to perform, and Xinxin will perform first. She danced skillfully, and then whispered, "Look at your performance!" "The tone is full of provocation." Then you just watch! "Yan Yan also replied, and then skillfully performed. When warm applause rings, warm applause. At that time, Yan Yan looked at her proudly. It's my turn to perform. It was not bad at first, but when dancing, my legs began to get out of control and I couldn't keep up with the rhythm. Feeling that I can't dance well, I returned to my seat in frustration. At this moment, Xinxin said, "How did you jump? You can't keep up. "As soon as I heard this, it was like adding fuel to the fire. The unhappiness in my heart suddenly broke out I shouted at Yan Yan, "If you can, please," and began to cry.
Case study:
People will encounter certain difficulties and setbacks in their life. Especially in the early childhood, some children, lacking experience and experience, are more likely to encounter failures and setbacks. When encountering failures and setbacks, children may have negative emotions such as anger, disappointment, loss of enthusiasm and confidence. If they can't get rid of these negative emotions, it will be difficult for them to have a clear and rational evaluation of the matter itself, and even leave bad memories in their hearts. Being able to endure and eliminate setbacks and maintain a complete personality and psychological balance is an important symbol of mental health. Cultivating children's courage to face failures and difficulties is a problem that teachers, educators and parents must pay attention to.
We know that people's life can't be smooth sailing, and difficulties and setbacks are inevitable. If so, in this case, parents need to consciously take setbacks and failures as opportunities for education, and guide their children to regain their courage, face setbacks boldly and confidently, and solve problems. If you are unhappy, you will cry, and if you encounter problems, you will be emotional. In the long run, it will be very unfavorable for your child's growth and adaptation to society. Therefore, it has become a subject that our teachers must face to educate them about setbacks and cultivate their good psychological quality and conduct.
Methodological experts suggest:
1, tell children that life has ups and downs, joys and sorrows, and guide them to correctly understand and understand setbacks, so as to establish their confidence and attitude of not being afraid of setbacks and helping them overcome difficulties.
2. Example has a great influence on the formation and change of children's behavior. Telling children anecdotes about celebrities or parents' words and deeds not only helps to enhance their confidence in the face of setbacks, but also inspires them that "only those who keep making progress in setbacks can succeed." Faith.
3. Don't be stingy with your praise, affirm your child's progress, and let your child accumulate the courage and motivation to endure setbacks, overcome difficulties and achieve success from your parents' affirmation and praise.
Educators and parents must pay attention to cultivating children's courage to face failures and difficulties. It is particularly important to cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks from an early age.
(A) establish a correct attitude
People will encounter certain difficulties and setbacks in their life. Especially young children, lacking experience and experience, are more likely to encounter failures and setbacks. When encountering failures and setbacks, children may be at a loss, frustrated and lose enthusiasm and confidence. At this time, I told my child: "Don't be afraid, as long as you work hard, you will do well." In daily activities, I had a conflict with my child, and the child ignored her. I said, "Hey, aren't you doing a good job? Go and admit your mistakes to your children, and they will accept you. " In the activities, consciously take setbacks and failures as educational opportunities, and guide children to regain their courage, face setbacks boldly and confidently, and solve problems.
(B) synchronization of family education
The healthy growth of children needs the joint efforts, education and influence of kindergartens, families and society. The unsynchronization and inconsistency of family members in the process of upbringing is an important problem in current family education. During my home visit, I learned that I am a typical "bully" in my family. My grandparents and parents have been following her, and I have never been wronged since I was a child. So I went to kindergarten and lived with my children. She was willful, selfish and overbearing. Therefore, parents should closely cooperate with the education of kindergartens and teachers, and family members should reach an agreement on the ways and means of education. In addition, we should learn scientific parenting knowledge, listen to experts' educational lectures, exchange experiences with other experienced parents, promote each other and improve the quality of education.
(C) with the help of the power of example
During the day's activities in kindergarten, I often tell children about the growth and success of some celebrities in setbacks by stories and dialogues, and encourage children like you to follow the example of celebrities and not be afraid of setbacks; Let attractive parents tell their children more stories, such as what difficulties they have encountered and how to treat and solve them; As a teacher, I also told her some examples of my resistance to setbacks. Let me take my parents and teachers as examples to enhance my confidence in resisting setbacks. Peer is also the child's "teacher". I seize every opportunity to guide and encourage me to learn from my friends' good behavior and face all kinds of difficulties bravely. For example, I dare not climb on the internet. I encourage you to say, "Don't be afraid, you can do it!" " You will be as brave as Xinxin, and the teacher believes you! "I have a problem with my little friend and encourage her to try to solve it herself.
Affirm the progress of children
Every progress a child makes in the process of growing up will bring great surprises to his parents, such as catching toys for the first time, calling mom and dad for the first time, washing socks by himself for the first time, and getting a "star baby" for the first time ... These progress of children are all achieved with the encouragement and praise of parents. So on the one hand, I remind parents not to be stingy with their children's praise, so that children can accumulate courage and motivation to bear setbacks, overcome difficulties and achieve success from their parents' affirmation and praise. On the other hand, when I encounter difficulties in kindergarten and want to give up, I will help her analyze the reasons in time, adjust my mood, rebuild my confidence, never let nature take its course or be cynical, and also educate other children not to laugh at each other.