Buddha said, to find yourself wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong is enlightenment. Practice after enlightenment is practice! Practice and action are thoughts, opinions, speeches and behaviors, and correcting mistakes is practice.
Buddha is not an idol, but the fruit of life practice.
Go forward bravely on the road of spiritual practice, even if it is bumpy and slow, as long as there is a direction, it will eventually achieve positive results!
What is the highest state of education?
When we pursue education wholeheartedly, most people will be in such a state. This is a beautiful poem: being a bodhi tree is like a mirror platform. Wipe frequently, and don't create dust. Expressing sincerity and piety with beautiful poems is a bit of a realm. No wonder our teachers and parents are often moved by themselves. However, education in this realm often gets twice the result with half the effort, and sometimes it is counterproductive. How many parents cried when they saw it, and how many teachers worked hard and were eager to try, most of them belonged to this category. Look at the mountain is a mountain, it is a superficial mountain.
So what kind of education is the highest level? A poem full of wisdom: Bodhi has no trees, and the mirror is not a stage. There is nothing, so there is no dust. Everything should be done outside the thing itself. Don't seek work, seek success; This is not for profit, but for profit. This is probably the truth. See the mountain or the mountain, that is to understand the mountain.
Parents and teachers watch students all day, drowning in the ocean of students. If you think of students as chess pieces and strategize, you will surely win thousands of miles. So there is the following result, which is Li Qiao's poem: Autumn leaves can bloom on February 3rd. Three feet of waves cross the river, and ten thousand poles pour into the bamboo.
Education is not only a matter of giving, but also a matter of thinking. There is no unified education, if there is, it must be pseudo-education. What is real education? Seeking truth from facts and effective education is the real education. Savor the above poems carefully, and maybe you will have a bright future. Find the feeling that you can stay on the moon for nine days, but you can catch turtles in five oceans. But understand that when you can't find the answer to one thing, learn to change your mind. Maybe your premise is wrong.
Let children develop self-education is the highest realm of education.
Ye Shengtao said: Teaching is for not teaching.
Rousseau, a famous French educator, said that there are three kinds of educational methods that will bring bad effects to children, namely: reasoning, losing your temper and deliberately using your head.
A child is an independent individual, and his study and life are his own business. In daily life, as parents, we can't deprive our children of their own growth opportunities on the grounds of "slow action" and "late time".
These ten years when parents and children get along are actually a process of gradually letting go and letting children grow up.
It is necessary for our children to learn self-education.
Let children practice self-education
Reasoning is the most respected way of education for parents in China. However, in life, if you reason with children everywhere, sometimes you don't get any good results. Educator Mr. Ye Shengtao advocates teaching in order not to teach; Suhomlinski said that only education that can inspire students to carry out self-education is real education ... It can be seen that self-education is of great significance in people's growth. Successful family education is the ability to help children start self-education.
The so-called self-education is to let children know that they demand themselves, supervise themselves and control their behavior. Give the right to education to the educated children, so as to effectively mobilize their enthusiasm and conscious autonomy.
How to realize children's self-education
Treat children as independent people. Most of our parents love their children, even to the point of getting carried away. Most parents are always worried that their children can't do things or can't cope. So I always take the trouble to tell my children what is right and what is wrong. The school organized a mid-term exam, and parents were nervous, even more nervous than their own exams, worried that their children would rank lower; Children do well in the exam, parents are in high spirits and beaming; Parents feel ashamed of their children's unsatisfactory exam results. Parents dare not admit that they regard their children as a bargaining chip. Bring unexpected pressure to children. For example, in the TV series Little Joy, Eiko's mother often said, "I did it for your own good." "It's best to go to Nantah." When parents complain, children will have resistance. It is better to give him time, space, life, life, respect his existence in your heart and admit that he is a new person different from you. In this way, children can realize their existence. A child who can truly realize his existence will naturally have his self-esteem, self-confidence, sense of responsibility and sense of responsibility for himself.
This opens up opportunities for children to educate themselves.
Teach children to make and implement plans.
Everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not foreseen. Research shows that the age of 3- 10 is the best time for children to develop study habits and learning ability, and making study plans is an important exercise opportunity for students to learn and manage their own time.
At the beginning of the new semester, parents can guide their children to make plans in line with the actual situation according to their actual and academic requirements, help them learn to manage themselves, arrange their own time reasonably, enhance their learning consciousness and enthusiasm, and improve their learning efficiency.
In the process of implementing the plan, parents can participate as partners, communicate with their children more, express their views, and guide their children to learn to adjust the plan according to their own situation. Stay away from accusations and reprimands, and don't impose your wishes on your children. A parent told me that she promised her child to get up at 6: 30 tomorrow evening, and the child promised very well. But in the morning, the children just don't get up. Mom called twice and said, if you don't get up, you will be late. The child dawdled to school and was still late. After being criticized by the teacher, he remembered for a long time and was never urged to get up again. A lesson, children teach themselves self-discipline.
In fact, the ability of self-education is the ability of children to be independent and control their own lives independently. Parents should grasp the scale of "management" and "release", guide and support silently, and be the strong backing of their children. Give the child some time and let him arrange it himself; Give the child some space and let him go forward by himself; Give the child a condition and let him experience it himself.
Some people say that education is a tree shaking another tree, a cloud pushing another cloud, and a soul awakening another soul.
In the process of children's growth, children will gradually realize: I am my own master! I am responsible for myself, I want to create my own life!