Dad: "Don't believe what others say. You are the cleverest child on this earth. As long as your brain keeps thinking and thinking, you can do anything on this earth. "
The movie "Looking Up" starring Deng Chao was released in the summer file, and many viewers expressed their feelings after watching the movie. They really want to have a father, Malik Haowen.
Ma Haowen is a bridge engineer. Because of being framed, the designed bridge collapsed and was locked up for 7 years.
A father who has been in prison for seven years is what people call a "bad guy".
A child who has been called "missing a string" by his teacher since childhood is regarded as a "fool".
Father and son have become losers in life at the same time.
However, under his father's example, his son Ma Fei actually went from the bottom of the grade to the top ten of the grade, and eventually became an excellent pilot.
What kind of education has the power to turn decay into magic? See how Father Ma does it!
Good boy likes to brag.
Ma Fei, who has just entered the first grade, was labeled as "missing a string" by his teacher since he was a child. In the words of the dean, "briquettes are also briquettes after washing, and will not become diamonds."
However, in Father Ma's mouth, his son is the cleverest child on the earth.
When the child's grades ranged from the last to the fifth in the class, he said with anticipation, "Son, you are awesome. You can't go to heaven if you keep learning like this! "
In reality, many parents have made it a habit to criticize and attack their children. "If you play less for a while, you will definitely do better in the exam." "You are always playful, watching others' XX, and studying much harder than you."
Parents think that if they criticize their children more, they can be warned. As everyone knows, your contemptuous eyes and sarcastic words will only make children feel more insecure.
There is a famous "expectation effect" in psychology, which enlightens us that encouragement and praise have a positive energy. When a person is encouraged and praised by others, he will feel supported and become more confident.
There is also a short story about the "expectation effect". Psychologist Rosenthal visited a primary school. He randomly selected three students from each class and gave the headmaster a list of 18 students, telling him that these 18 students are all highly intelligent talents who have been carefully selected. As long as they are well trained, they will become great talents in the future.
A year later, he came to the school again and found that the 18 students had become excellent students in the school. After many years, they all performed well in different positions and stood out.
Maybe you think Rosenthal's story is too dramatic, but the magical effect of encouragement actually happens around us.
Dou Guimei, the headmaster of Tsinghua Primary School, who enjoys a high reputation in China, once said in an interview that encouragement and praise should not be underestimated.
As the principal, she will greet the children at the school gate every morning, and she will give a thumbs-up to praise each child.
In the primary school attached to Tsinghua, every class will be evaluated as "the star of praise", and students will praise each other's bright spots. The whole school is immersed in an atmosphere of praise and tolerance.
The best cram school is a role model for parents.
Don't always ask your child what to do. The best way to educate them is to show them directly.
In the movie, Ma Haowen didn't ask his son Ma Fei to study hard, but set an example by burning the midnight oil to paint and work hard.
It is the expectation of parents to expect their children to succeed, but when we talk about their children's lives, have we ever thought about how much we have achieved?
When I was a cram school teacher, I once heard this conversation between two little girls.
"Your mother is so beautiful that she can talk to you in English, but my mother can't even pronounce words correctly."
"Your father is a university teacher, so fierce. Does he know everything? My dad only knows how to play mobile phones and always calls me stupid. "
Parents always want their children to be as good and sensible as other children, but they don't know that children also want us to be knowledgeable parents.
Children should be trained first. Children are a mirror of parents. If you want children to do it, you must do it yourself first.
In my opinion, the goal of education should be to cultivate people with complete and independent personality, so that every child can do what he likes.
Perhaps many people will question that for most children, the college entrance examination is the most important way to change their fate. Only by entering a good university can they not be eliminated by fierce social competition.
I admit that as ordinary people, it is difficult for us to change the present situation of the examination-oriented education environment, but as a new generation of parents, we should be the guides for our children.
Cultivate children's interest, lead them to find their dreams, let them know the meaning of learning, and understand why they study.
When a child's inner thirst for knowledge is awakened, you will find that without the supervision of his parents, he will seize all the time and make unremitting efforts to realize his dreams!