As for how to educate children, there are too many ways to make us feel at a loss and then get lost. When the children grow up and have problems, it will be too late. Children can only grow up once, with no regrets.
To educate children, we should adhere to the three concepts of gestalt education: "respect without indulgence, care without interference, and share without preaching". If these children can be easily educated, they can grow up happily with their children.
To realize the three concepts, it is not by thinking with the brain, but by theoretical analysis, which will never be achieved. We should judge that "degree" by our own heart, our love and our truest feelings, but we have been suppressing our feelings for too long and are used to using brain analysis instead, so our children's education will go wrong and we will feel tired. To find your own feelings, you need special training, training your own empathy and training your ability to actively listen. Then you can gradually perceive the child's mood and feel empathy, and the child's problems will naturally be solved.
I'm sorry I can't give you a specific method. The so-called method is only temporarily effective, but it is more harmful to children and lasts longer. At the same time, I also warn you not to be superstitious about the so-called expert method. If there is no heart, the better the method, the greater the harm. I have come into contact with many examples similar to yours. You can send me messages and share them with each other. Thirdly, children's education is very important, especially a sound psychological personality, so don't hurt children.
If possible, find a peer-to-peer learning environment for your child. Sometimes, children learn more than the people around them. Find a remedial class and give it a try. Maybe it would be better.