Lu Xiuhua's husband is the boss of an enterprise and has no time to take care of his children's daily life. After consideration, they rented an apartment near their son's school. She lives in a rental house with her son on weekdays and goes back to her home on weekends, and the three of her family get together. Xiuhua said that every time she goes home, she always carries big bags and small bags, just like moving, once a week. Xiuhua's hard work and busyness can be imagined.
Under such circumstances, Xiuhua still insists on studying and improving herself in her spare time. For more than a year, Xiuhua participated in a writing class, a parenting reading club and a parenting education project group. In such a busy situation, why does Xiuhua spend so much time, energy and money to study? What motivates her? I interviewed her.
Xiuhua is my classmate in "writing therapy remedial class" and "work sculpture group" in Xin Huang. She lives in Jiangsu and is an associate professor in a higher vocational college.
Lu Xiuhua's figure is moderate, giving people a strong feeling, and her oval face is full. When she smiles, her eyes are bent like a pair of crescent moons, and there is a kind of exquisiteness of Jiangnan women between her eyebrows. Her smile is infectious, giving people a kind of sweetness and warmth like a clear spring. It seems that no amount of ice can be melted by her clean warmth.
Lu Xiuhua was born in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. She is the youngest of four children. She also has a brother and two sisters. My father is a soldier and has been away all the year round. At home, grandma is in charge, grandma is in charge of housework and mom does farm work.
Lu Xiuhua wrote in her memoir "Grandma-My Love and Hate": "In my emotional memory, I think I always hated my grandmother when I was a child. In my eyes, my grandmother is good to everyone in this life, that is, she is not good to my eldest daughter-in-law and my mother, and she doesn't like me and my second sister who is two years older than me, especially my mother's little daughter, which is redundant at home. "
Lu Xiuhua said that she was the only one in the family who resisted her grandmother. She loves her mother more than anything else, and she will fight for herself and her mother and grandmother. She wrote in her memoirs: "I don't know why. I was so angry for a long time that I really didn't know what to do, so I said the most cursing sentence bitterly: "old lady!" " And you kept poking at the ground with a cane, poking and saying bitterly, "I see you are still studying." If you can study hard and go to college, the sun will rise in the west. "
Lu Xiuhua finished primary school in the village and went to junior high school in the village. After graduation, she was admitted to the county key high school and was the only person in the village who was admitted to the county. Xiuhua still remembers the scene when her father sent her to the county seat. The bus stop is far from home. Dad accompanied her to the station with a bedroll and a bookcase, which Xiuhua's father personally made for his brother to go to college.
When she first entered high school, Xiuhua ranked last in her class, but she didn't care and didn't label herself poor. Xiuhua's father doesn't know about the ranking. She always thinks her daughter is the best. Her father's pride gave her strength. She overcame difficulties, continued to study hard and made continuous progress, and was admitted to Nanjing Medical University with excellent results.
Xiuhua feels that her parents have given her huge space, and she really feels that her father is very satisfied and proud of her. Her parents' love gave her motivation. Thinking of her parents' hard work in other places, she also concentrated on her studies in college, and her college grades have always been excellent.
Mr. Lu Xiuhua is her college classmate. They fell in love in college. After graduation, the state assigned work, Xiuhua stayed in Nanjing, and Mr. Wang returned to his hometown. The two continued to maintain their love. In that era when telephones were not popular, they kept in touch through letters. In her poem, Xiuhua wrote:
"Rest day, seven night shifts, I ran to your city.
Meet you;
At that time, trains and buses had to turn for several hours.
Never feel tired;
With joy and expectation, I run to you. "
Later, Xiuhua left Nanjing, the provincial capital, moved to the prefecture-level city of her husband's hometown and switched to a school as a teacher. Everything will be fine. All shall be well, jack shall have Jill. The eldest son was born in the second year after marriage. Xiuhua said that at that time, she really felt that her son was the crystallization of their love, and that "everything was needed and everything was experienced, and the length of life seemed irrelevant".
Shortly after the marriage, Mr. Wang changed his job, traveling frequently and being very busy. Xiuhua shouldered the burden of taking care of her son alone. Her son was in poor health when he was a child. She takes her children to the hospital almost every week. The children are ill and hospitalized, and Xiuhua takes care of them alone. However, in such a difficult situation, Xiuhua did not give up her career. After putting her son to bed, she began to review for the postgraduate entrance examination. Because there was only one room at home at that time, she was afraid of disturbing her son, so she hid in the bathroom, sat on the toilet and studied on the washing machine.
When her son was six years old, Xiuhua was admitted to graduate school. At first, the unit refused to let her go to graduate school. Because her son just went to primary school, she didn't fight for it again, so she gave up the opportunity of graduate school and focused on her work and the cultivation of her son. His son is excellent in character and learning, and Xiuhua was also rated as a key teacher in the city. At the same time, Mr. Wang's career has also developed very well, and his family's economy has also been greatly improved.
After the steady development of family and career, Xiuhua took the postgraduate entrance examination again. She was admitted to East China Normal University as a graduate student majoring in education. In the year of graduation, she got pregnant unexpectedly. She stopped writing her graduation thesis in the middle and rested for four months. After ensuring the safety of the fetus, she went on to finish her graduation thesis. One month before labor, I finished my thesis defense with a big belly.
After the baby was born, she completed her own research project and devoted herself to the raising of her youngest son. At that time, she was at the peak of her career, only one step away from the professor's evaluation.
Under Xiuhua's careful training, Xiuhua's youngest son was admitted to the best local junior high school "reform class", with only two "reform classes" in the whole grade 18, composed of the best students.
In order to accompany her adolescent son with higher quality, Xiuhua made a special trip to Shenzhen to participate in a parenting training program organized by an institution, which lasted for 12 hours; In addition, she joined an online reading club, hoping to improve her children's knowledge and skills in education.
Xiuhua said: "All the way is for all kinds of love, for parents, for husbands and for children. Loving parents means realizing parents' wishes and achieving something in work. Mr. Ai seems to think that I should educate my children and take care of my family. " Now that the child is older, Xiuhua "begins to learn, explore herself and continue to pursue her dreams". Xiuhua began to pay more attention to herself and love herself more.
Lu Xiuhua likes flowers very much and has planted many potted plants. She took good care of them and matched them with flowerpots and bowls of different shapes, styles and colors according to their characteristics. They are exquisite and elegant, brightly colored, neatly arranged and unique in taste, which makes the house look like a garden.
Among them, there is a potted orchid. Xiuhua was carefully raised for four years, and it was cultivated from a small bud into a strong and beautiful orchid. She said that she would "continue to maintain it slowly".
She said: "Flowers are my favorite, and perhaps it is also the meaning of my mother's name to our sisters, which shows the beauty of Lujia Garden." I also look forward to wishing Xiuhua self-blooming, such as this longevity flower standing in front of the window sill, bathed in sunshine, full of flowers, overlooking and enjoying the scenery of the city. Eyes wide open, love and peace in my heart continue to the sky.