1 Do more emotional communication. Don't neglect children's dialogue needs because they are busy with work and play. In this particular physiological period, parents should be diligent in talking with their children. Guide them to understand parents' verbosity and teachers' criticism in a positive sense. These teachings are well-intentioned to help them grow up healthily.
When your child talks to you about the topic he is interested in, you should be careful not to be absent-minded or ignore it. If you are doing something very urgent, you might as well say hello to your child so that he can understand.
3. Accompany children to participate in activities they are interested in, such as watching basketball games and enjoying concerts, encourage children to participate in extracurricular sports activities, show their self-worth in activities, exchange feelings with children as close friends, and subtly guide children to treat others correctly.
4. Even if you don't agree with your children at first, listen patiently, fully understand their opinions, and then put forward your own ideas by exchanging opinions. Don't preach blindly regardless of children's feelings; Appropriate forms should be taken for things that need to be intervened to avoid a deeper gap caused by rude orders;
5. Speak in a respectful tone, not a lesson. The best way to make children "obedient" is to respect them, and vice versa.
6. Parents should face up to the growth of children's self-awareness and the improvement of their cognitive ability to the world, don't impose their own values on their children, don't use their own experience to set up what they want, and believe that they can design their own future. Parents just need patience to help them overcome the remaining childishness and one-sidedness in understanding.
7. Children's opinions can also be sought for major family matters. If his opinion is reasonable or consistent with that of adults, he will make a decision according to his opinion, which will increase his sense of "participating in politics (housekeeping)" and his sense of responsibility, thus increasing the child's obedience to his parents on other issues.
Example is more important than words. Parents' good behavior in daily life can directly promote children's mental health and help children to survive the rebellious period smoothly. Parents should pay attention to strengthening their self-cultivation, dabbling extensively, adopting a more scientific and tolerant way of thinking for children with rebellious psychology, and gaining children's trust and respect with their multiple personality charm. Establish children's independent personality, don't tell them what to do, let them do many things independently, and create opportunities for them to exercise and grow. Keep a calm and rational attitude, avoid conflicts with children and make radical moves. Parents understand that adolescence is a period of frequent mistakes, and it is obviously unrealistic to try to guide their children to make fewer mistakes and expect them not to make mistakes.
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