The original intention of beating and scolding a child is nothing more than thinking that the child has made a serious mistake and hoping that the child will correct it. The starting point is good, but the way of beating and cursing is not good, but it is easy to backfire and make children more rebellious. Beating children is not everything, even if it is "forced confession" at first, it will be rebellious later.

From the educational level alone, serious mistakes can still be educated with sticks. Mistakes in principle, such as cheating, stealing and bullying the weak, can be seriously educated. No matter how much you say, children may not listen, and the same mistakes will continue.

The best way is to have a good "beating" and let the children know that this is a matter of principle and the bottom line for parents. Small mistakes can be criticized or even ignored; But a big mistake won't do. You must pay for your mistakes.

Of course, there are principles for beating children. Parents are not encouraged to beat and scold their children, but we can still discuss the mistakes that touch the bottom line. All in all, it is a word: you can hit your child, but you should pay attention to the way and the sense of proportion, and don't deepen the contradiction between parents and children.

The principle of beating and scolding children must be kept in mind:

1, practical

Only educate children to make serious mistakes, that is, the so-called "matter-of-fact" principle, and never turn over old scores at any time. Don't hit the child unless it is necessary. This is also the basic principle. Learn to distinguish between carelessness and intention of children, and don't label them directly.

2. Don't hit children in public.

Even if you do something wrong, please ask parents to insist on "not beating and cursing in public" to protect their children's self-esteem. Many parents only want to educate their children, but ignore their mental health. Educating them in front of everyone will make children particularly embarrassed and even a little sad, and their face and self-esteem will be shattered.

3. You can't "fight" first.

To tell the truth, after the child knows that he has made a mistake, he will feel a little scared because he doesn't know how his parents will punish him. This alone shows that children still have room for correction, and parents don't have to beat and scold everything. Many times, the number of beatings is more, but it is not so useful.

It doesn't matter if you hit the child, but you must pay attention to the way. Parents should not be reckless. You know, beating is not the purpose, but recognizing mistakes and correcting them is the purpose.