Many parents often feel helpless in the face of their children's education problems, and always hope that I can give them some concrete help during the conversation. Although I am the head teacher, some things can't be explained clearly in a few words, especially the systematic project of family education. So I always recommend some very good articles on teaching experience to them, and they all feel that they have benefited a lot from reading them.
Recently, I read the book "This is how we educate our children" again. The article "Go forward boldly, my child" pointed out the new direction of family education for me.
Today's children, except for a few children with special circumstances, have little difference in intelligence. However, why are there differences in their academic performance? It is very important that non-intellectual factors play different roles. It is very important to induce non-intellectual factors to promote intellectual development. This kind of education is carried out purposefully and planned according to the intention of educators.
First, transfer interest and guide children to develop their target interests.
In "stimulating interest", we should pay attention to the situation that children's existing interests are inconsistent with the training direction established by parents. At this time, parents should repeatedly and seriously think about whether the direction they have established is correct. If it is correct and the child's interest is inappropriate, then the task of family education is to try to turn the child's existing interest into the target interest established by parents. This change is possible, and it is called benefit transfer.
For example, some children prefer singing to ancient poetry. They want their children to recite Tang poems, but they don't want to recite them. According to his interest in singing, we can buy a CD for children to sing Tang poems and let them sing along. We can also put down what we are doing and sing Tang poems with our children. The most crucial point here is that children's interest in goals is not imposed on their children by their parents, but spontaneously generated in the process of acceptance.
Second, it is very important to cultivate awareness and "pay attention to first offenders"
When a child appears involuntary behavior for the first time on a certain issue, parents should hold on to it, because this kind of involuntary behavior often happens by accident and has not yet formed a stable will quality. If we can educate in time, it will be easy to correct it. There are many ways to cultivate consciousness, but one principle is common, which is to cultivate consciousness in the process of correcting unconscious behavior.
For example, we can correct blind obedience and cultivate consciousness. Blind obedience is blindly influenced by others' hints, which is a manifestation of children's low willpower and a will quality that is contrary to consciousness. Correcting blind obedience is to raise awareness. Some children like to get the right answers in their homework. As soon as they found that their answers were different from others', they thought they were wrong. This is blind obedience. The reason for this blind obedience is often caused by improper family counseling by parents. Parents usually check their children's homework, and once they find mistakes, they will point them out immediately. Over time, the child thinks that mom and dad will check things out anyway.
To correct blind obedience, we must carry out long-term training. You need to check your homework every time. Parents should not point out the mistakes when they find them. Let the children find it themselves, even if there are no mistakes, they deliberately say yes, which can exercise their self-judgment ability and make them dare to deny their parents' opinions.
Many parents report that children nowadays "don't care" and "don't care about makeup". In fact, they should not be in charge, but should cultivate their consciousness.
Third, cultivate the ability to teach children to touch the stone into gold.
There is a story that there is a fairy who has the ability to turn a stone into gold. One day, he met a poor child in the world. She felt sorry for the poor child and immediately turned the stone into gold and gave the child a lot of gold. But the child doesn't want it. What he wants is a fairy finger that can turn stone into gold, because no matter how much gold there is, it will always be used up. Aren't you poor when you run out? The fairy was very moved and told the child: the finger that turns stone into gold is labor, and hard work can make you rich.
So is family education. Children are all children with poor knowledge. We should not only solve specific problems for children, but also teach them learning methods.
There are all children in the world, only parents who are not. Extraordinary children come from parents who are good at learning. Problem children are the product of problem parents. In the face of children, we must study again.