Many parents say that children are particularly lazy and know everything in their minds except that they don't like to do homework. Writing feels very hard. They don't want to clean up their living environment, and they don't like sports. In fact, psychologists have found that clumsy children are slow in action, slow in brain response and not good at sports. The result is slow homework, inattention in class, love small moves, poor self-awareness, uncontrollable hands and feet, careless calculation, writing out of line, losing things and lack of self-confidence.

What should our parents do? The first step is to have empathy for children: children are willful, and sometimes they are against adults and don't listen to advice. At this time, try to understand the child and consider the problem from his point of view. The second step is to concretize the problem: expand the inertia of children! The third step is to discuss the cause of the problem and make a concrete analysis:

Pay attention to children: In the process of children's growth, after parents lack the necessary attention, children hope to create trouble through willful behavior and let parents care about their own state. Therefore, parents should pay more attention to spend more time with their children, play games or entertain with them, pay more attention to the details of their life and study, and meet their reasonable care needs.

Encourage children: children want their self-worth to be recognized and appreciated by their parents. If you can't get it for a long time, you will use rebellious, confrontational and stubborn behavior to safeguard your values and self-esteem. Parents must carefully observe their children's behavior, find out their advantages and outstanding performance, and give them affirmation and encouragement in time. For example, "You made great progress in this exam. I noticed that this is because of your recent efforts and seriousness! " "You are very focused on your homework now, and your efficiency is getting higher and higher!"

Equality: Is it possible for parents to ignore their children's need to make their own decisions and ask them to obey the arrangements of adults? As children get older, they need to practice making their own choices and decisions. If there is no reasonable choice space and freedom, children often show sexual and confrontational behavior. Parents, within a reasonable range of bearing the consequences, gradually let go, try to let their children make their own judgments, choices and decisions, and bear the natural consequences. This is a very important process for children to really grow up.