How to deal with 1 situation 1:
Xiao Qiang, the son of Ms. Liu, cried to her as soon as she came home from school, saying that the math teacher severely criticized him in front of the whole class and punished her for copying classroom discipline ten times. Originally, Xiao Qiang didn't understand a question. He turned to ask the students behind him and was criticized and punished by the teacher for talking nonsense. Hearing this, Ms. Liu was very angry. How can a child let the teacher be so "bullied"? So, in front of Xiao Qiang, he immediately called the teacher and asked him angrily why he punished the child like this. Her attitude also caused the teacher's dissatisfaction, and the communication between the two fell into an embarrassing situation. Since then, Xiao Qiang's grades have dropped, and he is no longer interested in math classes. It was a very simple thing, but it caused such a result.
Case 2:
One day, Mr. Wang's daughter Xiaoxi came home to ask him for money, saying that the class teacher asked her to pay for the broken glass. When Mr. Wang asked why, his daughter said angrily, "I didn't break it." At that time, I was closest to there. The head teacher looked at it and said I broke it. Later, my classmates told me that Xiao Nan did it, but he was the overlord in the class, and no one dared to tell the teacher. "After listening to his daughter's account, Mr. Wang thought that perhaps the teacher had wronged her daughter. So he told his daughter to communicate with the teacher immediately, and then walked out of her hearing range. Call the teacher and tell everything you know calmly. I hope the teacher can investigate again. The class teacher also agreed to deal with it after the investigation. Later, it was verified that it was indeed as Xiaoxi said, so the class teacher sincerely apologized to Xiaoxi and Teacher Wang in front of the whole class. This incident not only did not affect the relationship between the head teacher and Mr. Wang, but also made them communicate more and pay more attention to the stream.
After reading these two cases, I wonder how you will feel? Similarly, teachers are also at fault, and the results are naturally different in different ways.
Teachers are not perfect, and mistakes will occur in the process of educating children. There are several reasons for blaming children: some teachers have not investigated the problem clearly and made hasty conclusions based on their own subjective experience; Some teachers are biased against students they don't like, especially the underachievers in the class, which can easily lead teachers to make such mistakes. In addition, when the teacher's mood fluctuates too much, it will be impulsive and thoughtless to deal with problems, which will also lead to the phenomenon of blaming students wrongly.
Since this situation is inevitable. How should parents respond positively?
Listen patiently. The child was wronged by the teacher. Children hope to get the support and understanding of others through telling, and the process of telling can also ease their emotions. At this time, parents should learn to listen patiently, concentrate, and listen to the children describe the ins and outs of the incident in detail. On this basis, analyze whether the child's words are true and credible, and draw an objective conclusion.
Comfort in time. Parents should learn to give their children psychological comfort and express your attitude and thoughts, such as "I see, you really didn't do anything wrong on this issue" and "I believe you are innocent on this matter". A strong hug can also ease the child's grievance. Especially those children with strong self-esteem, need more comfort.
Actively communicate. Communicating with children and teachers is the key to solving problems.
1, communicate with children
After listening to your child's troubles, you should tell your child that teachers are ordinary people and make mistakes, so that he can blame you wrongly; At the same time, the teacher blames you for good intentions, not malice, so that you can study hard, grow up healthily and let your children learn to be considerate of the teacher.
Also tell children that in this case, they should control their emotions, take correct and rational actions, find time to explain the truth to the teacher and eliminate the teacher's misunderstanding of him. Tell the truth at the right time and try to avoid it when the teacher is angry, because it is difficult to convince the teacher with any explanation at this time, which may add fuel to the fire. The best time is to wait for the teacher to calm down. Of course, you can also ask your classmates or class cadres to explain the truth to the teacher.
Finally, let children learn to reflect on themselves: why are they misunderstood by teachers, and whether there are some behaviors that are easily misunderstood by teachers besides their responsibilities. For example, if you ask questions in class, the teacher won't know whether you are talking nonsense or discussing problems. Raise your hand to the teacher if you have any questions, and pay attention to avoid similar situations as much as possible.
2. Communication with teachers
As parents, after knowing the ins and outs of things clearly, we should actively communicate with teachers. When communicating, you must use a peaceful attitude, a tolerant and considerate attitude and empathy, and don't show excessive behavior. Especially in words, sentences or tone. When parents and teachers educate their children, they are partners, not rivals. In the process of communication, it is also conducive to the healthy growth of children to let teachers understand their mistakes and change their views on children again.
What should parents do in the face of the teacher's injustice to their children? 2 1. Learn to listen and make rational judgments to determine whether you have been wronged.
Parents should first learn to listen after receiving the information of children's complaints and grievances at the first time. Most parents are arrogant, such as giving the teacher a lesson first, or scolding the children. The common saying is, why did the teacher wronged you? Don't wronged others? It's not that you don't study well Parents who don't listen can't have a basic judgment on the incident. This will lead to a chain reaction later, and the misunderstanding of teachers will become deeper and deeper. Secondly, when we have a basic judgment on the children's story, we can determine whether it is really wronged by the teacher. Because parents know their children best, especially when they forget their homework or really don't write, parents can confirm with the teacher directly.
It is very important to determine whether the child has been wronged at the first time, which is related to how parents communicate with the teacher next. Many parents have no basic judgment, so they directly ask the teacher why they treat their students like this. And some new teachers can't calmly deal with parents' questions. Once parents come to "pick things up", teachers will think that parents don't understand and respect their teaching work and deliberately find fault. The relationship between home and school is tense, so the attitude of parents is very important. In the process of communicating with teachers, we should keep calm and rational.
2. Communicate with children, appease them and tell them that parents will protect their children and how to do it.
In fact, when parents immediately confirmed that their children were really wronged at school or wronged by the teacher, what they immediately did was not to settle accounts with the teacher. Instead, communicate with the child first to understand the child's thoughts. In this matter, what is the child's appeal and appease the child's emotions. In fact, many children get along very well with their teachers in their daily lives. Children occasionally get angry because of the teacher's misjudgment, but parents can't amplify the contradiction between teachers and students. They should first choose to understand and protect their children. It is to let the children know that this matter will be handled by parents. Parents are on the side of the children and will help them solve the problem of teachers' grievances.
Some parents think that it is a trivial matter for children to be wronged by teachers. After all, they still have to get along with the teacher every day at school, fearing that the teacher will be unfair to the children, so they choose to swallow their words and even tell the children to forget it. Actually, this is not right. We should convey the basic concept of right and wrong to our children. If you are wronged by the teacher, then go and clarify with the teacher, and the teacher will not have any opinions on the children and parents because of this matter. Parents can tell their children to go to the teacher the next day and sincerely express that they really forgot to bring their homework instead of not writing it. The teacher wronged me. Learning to express emotions is also something that primary school students need to learn. Many children don't know how to deal with it, lose their temper and even hit the teacher. Therefore, our parents and teachers should guide their children to learn how to deal with grievances and solutions.
3. Communicate with teachers, respect and understand each other.
Parents must communicate with the teacher after confirming and appeasing their children. This is also to support and understand the teacher's teaching work and communicate with the teacher, not to find fault with the teacher, but to talk about the matter. Parents can directly tell the teacher that they really forgot to bring it, instead of not finishing their homework, then the teacher will seriously reflect on whether his teaching process is too arbitrary. A good home-school relationship requires mutual respect and understanding between parents and teachers. Only in this way can we help children to alleviate this emotion after they are wronged, and try to avoid wronged students and choose to trust them in the future teaching and learning process.