Hello, everyone, I am a person who likes sports very much. People say that people who like sports will have shorter concentration time, which may be reasonable. If you play ball on the court, you can play for two or three hours, but it is difficult to read quietly. In retrospect, I never seem to forget to eat, sleep and read, and no book can attract me to finish it at one breath. But the book "A good mother is better than a good teacher" changed this "history". In fact, the relationship with this book originated from my wife. During that time, she read this book, saying it was very good and practical, and it was one of the best-selling books now, so she gave me a task to read. At that time, I wanted to study. In such a strong reading atmosphere in our school, I can't fall behind. Do people always want to make progress? But after reading two chapters, I was attracted by this book, not only because I have a three-year-old son, but more importantly, I am now a primary school teacher. I know many teachers here have seen it, and their experiences and feelings must be much deeper than mine. I want to recommend this book to teachers who have never read it, especially those who have no children or whose children are still young. It's really good.

The author of A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher is an education expert with a master's degree in education. She has been teaching for many years, is familiar with school education, has in-depth research on family education, and has cultivated a very excellent daughter herself. This book is the notebook of her adopted son for sixteen years. Each article seems ordinary, but in fact it contains profound educational thoughts and embodies the wisdom of education. The cited examples are easy to understand, give guidance and help.

The following is a small chapter in "A good mother is better than a good teacher", which I like very much. What she said changed many ideas that I took for granted. Now I'll take it off and share it with you.

The topic is "Don't study hard".

All along, the most popular concept about learning is "study hard". Many parents instill this concept in their children from an early age and ask young children to work hard. Many parents nag that they can't enjoy themselves after school, so they should study hard. After their children go to school, they will continue to teach them to study hard, and they will also be asked to do so in specific learning activities to cultivate their good learning attitude. It is necessary to study hard, but asking children with hard words and ideas is often doing something far from the point.

Linking learning with an uncomfortable and bitter feeling will make children slightly unhappy at the thought of learning. Who likes suffering? A person suffering for a certain goal must be based on her sufficient rationality and perseverance. This kind of rationality and perseverance is not available to everyone or an adult can afford, and it is even more inappropriate to use her to ask children.

It is human nature, especially children, to avoid suffering and have fun. He likes to feel sweet and hates to feel bitter.

We originally wanted our children to like learning, but we made the learning process a bitter bun and only imagined the result as a sweet pie. Every day, let the children suffer from steamed bread and want sweet pie. The process is concrete and true to accompany the children every day, but the goal is distant and illusory. When she got tired of swallowing bitter steamed bread, she was criticized for not working hard. Asked to suppress real suffering with imaginary sweetness, the child does not have the ability to refute the teachings of adults, but she just feels inner disharmony. I feel very weak. (Here I also remembered a chapter, "Don't be a savage in a suit and tie", which said that you treated your children rudely because you already knew in your heart that you could get rid of the Japanese by beating or scolding them, but he wouldn't treat you like anything. You are the authority and master in front of the children. You don't have to worry about the consequences after beating and cursing. If you are dealing with an adult, you will not choose this way because you are also afraid. I think what I said is very, very reasonable. )

One can't hate one thing and do it well at the same time. As we all know, it is said that during World War II, an excellent Swiss watchmaker was coerced into making a batch of high-quality watches for the Nazis. Although he made considerable efforts, he still failed to reach the pre-war level. She doesn't even know why. Later, some psychologists analyzed it because he was in a different mood when he made the watch. This is the power of emotions.

Dewey, an American educator, believes that in education, to what extent the purpose and means are separated, the meaning of activities will be reduced to what extent, activities will become a kind of hard work, and the more one escapes, the better. This can explain why the more parents and teachers ask their children to study hard, the less interested they are in learning.

It's not that the child doesn't know that hard work can get good grades, but she can't. When learning activities didn't arouse his pleasant experience, she couldn't mobilize her initiative, and she could not help showing laziness, lack of diligence, lack of seriousness and so on. Many people think that this is the nature of some "unworthy" children, but in fact her enterprising nature is distorted.

Parents and teachers should study children's characteristics, sympathize with children's psychology, and pay attention to cultivating children's studious spirit from the aspect of "learning emotions". "Diligence" is a mature learning character, which does not come out of thin air, but grows on the soil of reason and interest. The main contradictions that children have to solve in different learning periods are different. As far as China's current education system is concerned, the author thinks that the primary school stage mainly solves the problem of learning interest, the junior high school stage mainly solves the problem of learning methods, and the senior high school stage is a problem of hard work.

In cultivating children to study hard, it is precisely because we can't strengthen "bitterness", but we should try our best to eliminate "bitterness"-don't remind children that learning is bitter, don't put pressure on them, and avoid them feeling depressed in learning activities.

Here, the author gives an example of a round daughter, who was very tired after high school. She occasionally complains that she is too tired and shows slackness. The child already feels bitter. At this time, parents can't make her suffer more with such positive preaching as "knowing how to endure hardship". At this time, we should try our best to alleviate her painful experience and remind her that "learning is not bitter." The author took two measures to help her.

First, I found some experience materials of the top candidates in the college entrance examination, especially those that stress hard work, so that she can know that no one with good grades is hardworking. On the surface, this strengthened her study hard, but actually alleviated her pain. Since top scholars work so hard, it is normal to work hard by themselves. In the process, I noticed that I didn't ask her to work hard.

Second, she and I read a book, The Story of Science. Although she was very busy in high school, I advised her to browse this book. This book is well compiled. It presents the general situation of the development of mathematics, chemistry, physics, medicine and other disciplines, and tells the difficult course with many vivid stories. Yuan Yuan saw from here that the accumulation of human scientific knowledge is so difficult, and the discovery of oxygen alone has gone through so many years and so many bumps. Thinking that she can easily take a thin textbook to survey every amazing achievement of her predecessors, she feels lucky that she is only the enjoyment of these great achievements. What is pain?

After the college entrance examination, many children seem to have come out of hell, and some people want to tear up books. Yuan Yuan wants to know why he doesn't feel this way. Life seems to be the same as before, but the content of life is different. This may be because she didn't feel particularly depressed and tired before the college entrance examination.

We often read stories about how great scientists and artists at all times and at all times worked and studied around the clock. These stories are often used as examples of "study hard" to inspire future generations. They make people believe that "only when they suffer can they be masters" is the truth. In fact, everyone who devotes himself to study and work must have developed an interest and a sense of responsibility for study and work, which is so strong that it often exceeds the physiological needs. Ordinary people see their own "bitterness" in diet and daily life, but they can't see the "joy" in the things they like, so they think that they have achieved success by virtue of "bitterness". In fact, they are not "bitter" and others can't appreciate the fun they enjoy.

If you want a child to do a good job, you must first make him like it, at least not dislike it, and avoid doping factors that make him feel unhappy-don't "study hard". This is the truth.

I think that although most of this book is about all aspects of family education, education is interlinked. In teaching, teachers can treat our students with parents' mentality, understand children, understand their characteristics, and entertain them with their interests, not only for the children's moment, but also for their life. Many ideas and methods in the book are of great help to my work. What I can do is to make my class full of fun and let my students gain more health and happiness!

I chose this composition for another purpose, that is, I feel that the teacher is not working hard in our happy family, but feeling and experiencing happiness while working.

thank you

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