What is interpersonal relationship?
The so-called interpersonal relationship refers to the interpersonal relationship formed by people in material and spiritual exchanges. This relationship refers to an individual's psychological tendency towards other individuals and their corresponding behaviors. The quality of interpersonal relationship reflects a psychological state whether people's material and spiritual needs can be met in mutual communication. If satisfied, they like and approach each other; On the contrary, they are disgusted and alienated.
The density of interpersonal relationships is also reflected in the spatial distance between people. Psychologist Hall pointed out that different interpersonal relationships have different spatial distances in communication. Generally, it can be divided into four interpersonal distances: if the intimate distance is less than 0.5 meters, you can feel the other person's body temperature, breath and smell, usually between parents and children, lovers and lovers; The distance between friends is about 0.5~ 1.2 meters, which is convenient for deep conversation or implicit expression. The social distance is about 1.2~ 1.7 meters, which is the distance between people who know each other, and most contacts are within this distance; The public distance is generally more than 3.7 meters, which is the distance between strangers. As we all know, the interpersonal relationship in human society is very complicated. It also shows that some people are good at communication, while others are not. Some people brag and flatter others; Some people are down-to-earth and honest with each other. Wait a minute. While people live in the world, everyone needs others and has the need of interpersonal relationships.
Types of interpersonal relationships
Interpersonal communication and interpersonal relationship in modern society are complicated, and there are many studies on the classification of interpersonal relationship. According to different classification standards and methods, different types of interpersonal relationships can be divided. For example, according to the content of interpersonal communication, according to the main situation of communication, according to people's different needs for interpersonal communication and so on. This paper introduces the basic types of interpersonal relationship according to the ties of interpersonal relationship, including: blood relationship, which refers to the interpersonal relationship formed by blood and marriage; Geo-relationship refers to the interpersonal relationship arising from living and activities together in a certain geographical range with geographical location as the link; Interest relationship refers to the interpersonal relationship established by people with similar interests in social life; Professional relationship refers to the interpersonal relationship formed by occupation, industry, specialty or career. Among them, the most influential are the relationship between superiors and subordinates, the relationship between teachers and students, and the relationship between colleagues and classmates.
The role of interpersonal relationships
Interpersonal relationship plays a very important role in people's social life. Because interpersonal relationship is a kind of social relationship after all. Everyone's interpersonal relationship has an important influence on it. The significance of interpersonal relationship to life is reflected in the following aspects:
1. Good interpersonal relationship is the need of people's physical and mental health.
If a person is in a caring and harmonious interpersonal relationship, he will certainly feel comfortable and beneficial to his physical and mental health. Good interpersonal relationships can keep people relaxed, stable, optimistic and positive in life. On the contrary, bad interpersonal relationships will interfere with people's emotions and cause anxiety, anxiety and depression. Thereby causing mental illness. Serious bad interpersonal relationships can also make people panic, pain, disgust or anger. Modern medical research shows that bad mood is actually the biggest damage to physical and mental health. If it can't be improved, even the best nutritional supplements and health care exercises can't achieve the effect of strengthening the body. Therefore, good interpersonal relationship is beneficial to people's physical and mental health.
2. Good interpersonal relationship is the need for success in life and career.
Interpersonal relationship has a great influence on life performance and is one of the important conditions for people's success. If you have good interpersonal relationships and correct life skills, it will help you succeed in your career, and good interpersonal relationships can create a good environment for your career success. This is mainly because:
First, good interpersonal relationships can promote people to work together and accomplish specific tasks together. Nowadays, many social work tasks can no longer be completed by individuals alone, but need the cooperation of many people. From the preparation of the get-together to tackling the key problems of scientific research projects, participants need to strengthen contact and study together to achieve the best results.
Second, people can draw strength from the harmonious interpersonal relationship of friendly cooperation and enhance their self-confidence. With the encouragement and help of our friends, we can get a relaxed and happy atmosphere in our work, even if we encounter difficulties, we can find both sides and be handy.
The establishment of interpersonal relationship
Created by western social psychologists? Harry's window theory helps us to think about the establishment of interpersonal relationship. According to this theory, the success or failure of interpersonal communication and the healthy development of interpersonal relationship depend largely on the size of each person's self-exposure area. Everyone has four areas in his mind: what he knows and what others know? Open area? Between you and me; What others know and you don't? Blind spot? You know I don't know, but I'm on this mountain. What you only know and never tell anyone? Secret area? I know you don't know. Something you and others don't know? Unknown area? You and I don't know, potentially, subconsciously.
Generally speaking, for the smooth progress and development of communication, we should try our best to expand communication? Open area? , shrinking? Secret area? Do more things to show your heart to each other and let others know yourself. Psychological research shows that interpersonal communication is an interactive process. The larger the area I open to others, the more I can get an open area close to the level. Therefore, to understand others, we must first let others know ourselves. Narrowing the secret area and expanding the open area will naturally get benign feedback from others and win their goodwill. Generally speaking, the area of self-opening is directly proportional to the harmony of interpersonal relationships.
When we are worried about interpersonal relationships, we can neither complain blindly nor blame others too much, just like? To gain the respect of others, you must respect others first? Similarly, try to change yourself first. And we often find that despite our great efforts, some relationships are still unsatisfactory. In fact, the establishment of a good interpersonal relationship, just like falling in love, can not be forced to distort, can not secretly love, it needs mutual efforts, two of a kind? The interpersonal relationship established on this basis can be harmonious and long-lasting.
Interpersonal relationship education
Interpersonal relationship is so important, but what role can our school play in it? None of the respondents chose to get interpersonal information from the school.
Marx once said:? A person's development depends on the development of all other people who communicate with him directly or indirectly. ? People need to communicate, and communication is inseparable from interpersonal relationships. Students have never left school or really stepped into society, so they don't know enough about the complexity of social interpersonal relationships. If they go to the society in the future and know nothing about interpersonal relationships, they will not be able to adapt to their future jobs. According to the feedback from previous graduates, without such psychological preparation, we will feel that the interpersonal relationship between society and schools is too wide and we are at a loss. Therefore, for those students who are about to go to work, our moral education teacher should give them a good lesson and help them establish the concept of good interpersonal relationship. For those graduates who handle interpersonal relationships well, it is even more powerful and successful. However, there are also a few graduates who have not handled interpersonal relationships well. Although they do well in school, they don't always give full play to their talents. Those who get a high salary or a high position or become their own bosses are often not just top students in their studies, but graduates with all-round development and good interpersonal relationships, because they are good at interacting with people, showing their talents and getting more development opportunities or promotion and reuse.
In short, students can correctly handle interpersonal relationships, which will add icing on the cake to their career. Good interpersonal relationships can also help you learn a lot of new knowledge. As the British writer Bernard Shaw pointed out: Good interpersonal relationships can not only exchange information, but also exchange ideas. If you have an idea, I have one too. If we exchange ideas with each other, each of us will have two or more ideas. ? Wolf child? The reason for her low intelligence is not heredity, but separation from society and contact with people.