(March 2020 19)

? The last article is about "Opportunity in Crisis". How to ask? It is necessary to resolve the crisis and take the lead in resolving it. How to "transform" it?

? When listening to Mr. Boren's article "Send an old book to Yangjia 'an Pavilion", Mr. Boren summed up four steps: first, deal with it in time, second, admit the mistake, third, come up with a plan, and fourth, thank the other party. Listening carefully to the explanation of Boren's tutor is actually one step at a time, one ring at a time, and finally getting your own promotion.

? Timely handling means taking responsibility in time, and we can't let things drag on, so as not to delay major issues. The word "timely" here actually means both decision-making and responsibility. You can't make a decision without a sense of responsibility, and you can't make it in time without determination. A seemingly simple small rate problem actually reflects a person's quality in depth.

? Admit a mistake. More need to have a broad mind, a broad mind. Without this premise, it is very difficult to take the initiative to admit mistakes. A gentleman seeks for himself. Any real "gentleman" will look for reasons from himself first when encountering problems, and will never blame each other. People who complain about each other when they are in trouble are often not done by gentlemen. The villain's demands on everyone are reasonable.

? Something happened to me. It turns out that the house I used to live in was on the top floor, and the old buildings were flat-topped with solar energy. Once, a family forgot to turn off the solar energy and leaked water, which caused the roof to be flooded. Who do you blame for this?

? As a result, the woman who forgot to turn off the solar energy not only refused to admit it, but also argued irrationally that it rained heavily in June. Do you blame others? I'm not an official anyway. If you offend me, I will go to the unit to make trouble. I'm not afraid of losing face, which is obviously unreasonable. I don't want to pursue this matter, but the fact is there, just admit it. I didn't admit it, but also took out a "bitch" look, shouted in the yard and called my husband who worked in the field. I was beaten, and soon someone came. That's ridiculous. When her husband came, he was speechless at first sight. Let him go home or make a scene there. People whose neighbors say they don't think so, how can this happen?

? Faced with this situation, I am really speechless. As Mr. Bolen said, there is no solution. I have to find the reason from myself. If a dog bites you, will you bite it back? I won't do that. This kind of person is actually a very weak person, just trying to cover up his inner weakness with his own strength. Just want an external face to support his fragile heart. I gave him enough face to admit that my family was damaged. I didn't pay attention, but all the neighbors were there watching the performance, as if laughing.

? Deep down, I really feel sorry for having such a neighbor, ashamed to meet such a person, and even more ashamed to care about such a person. I would rather suffer hardships than have too much intersection with such people. In hindsight, although she apparently "won", she was branded as a "bitch", although she was not proud of winning; Although on the surface I "failed", I was not worried when I "failed". She may be happy in her heart, but I feel tall and proud of my forbearance and helplessness at that time, from which I learned tolerance and patience. Thank each other for giving me this opportunity to practice, so that I can practice and improve myself well.

? As long as it is related to me, I will have the courage to take responsibility and solve it from myself. Only when I change, will the world change. Finding reasons from oneself in advance is not only a gentleman's behavior, but also a principle of being a man and doing things. It is also a manifestation of courage to take responsibility, and it is the fundamental way to turn crisis into opportunity.

Yanzhou, Chen Tao, March 2020.19.22: 34.