However, excessive happiness education is equivalent to conniving at children. Parents are often troubled by their children's mischief, but they retreat again and again, making their children worse.
Language is sometimes the most advantageous weapon and sometimes the most useless weapon.
Although some parents know that their children are wrong, they have educated them and reprimanded them many times, but their parents often don't listen, that is, they don't listen and don't change. When they grow up, these behaviors will affect their lives.
Moreover, children who don't beat, scold, criticize and teach can't accept any setbacks. Every year, many teenagers commit suicide because they can't stand the pressure, because of a little frustration, which makes their parents' lives less than half.
Qian Wenzhong, a professor at Fudan University, once made such a public speech. He believes that "no beating, no scolding" can not cultivate good children, and appropriate corporal punishment is necessary.
The responsibility of parents is not only to bring up their children, but also to educate their children into a person with good self-cultivation, who can face difficulties in the face of setbacks and is strong in heart.
To this end, parents should not indulge their children. If they change their children, they must fight them. Don't let them become a vulnerable person.
Of course, hitting a child does not give the child some physical pain, and not everything can be solved by hitting the child. After all, hitting a child may have a certain psychological shadow on the child, make the child feel insecure, and have a bad influence on the child's future personality, life and behavior.
Therefore, parents should know how to fight. What are the conditions and standards for playing?
Parents should not rush to hit their children when they make mistakes. First of all, they should reason with their children patiently. If it really doesn't make sense, children will definitely push their luck, and parents will have to use it to help their children remember. At this time, parents should regard beating their children as an educational ceremony, and they must clearly tell their children why they beat them, how to beat them a few times this time, and how to deal with the next mistake.
When hitting a child, parents should master the "degree", don't hurt the child, only spank and palm, not face; You can't hurt a child's self-esteem. The purpose of beating the child is to make the child accept corporal punishment and understand her mistake. The purpose is to remind her that it is wrong to do so, and don't do it again next time.
Punishing children can not only teach them what they can and can't do, but also make them deeply remember their mistakes, so that they can avoid similar mistakes next time and change their temperament in everything. At the same time, it is also conducive to standardizing children's behavior and cultivating an excellent child who knows his mistakes, can correct them and be reasonable.